How to be yourself and leave the best impression on the world?

365 texts courage relationships
Reflections and drafts

Goal of the day: 113 words. Written: 310.

Have you heard these phrases?

  • "So don't fake it and keep it simple!"
  • "So be the same as always!"
  • "So be yourself!"

If you've ever asked your friends (or the writers of bad articles on the internet) how to behave on a first date, on stage for the first time, in a job interview for the first time, for the first time... then I'm sure you've heard these words many times.

Sometimes I hear them too.

Then I think: "wow, thanks for the tip". Because, you know, it's so easy to be someone else when you've spent your whole life in your body. (That's sarcasm, by the way.)

But the next thought is slightly different:

"After all, they recommend simply relaxing..."

And this thought (and the actions that follow it) helps more.

What do the people who advise us to be ourselves really mean?

As with most friendly advice, the focus here should not be on the words themselves, but on the meaning behind them. Here are a few simple steps on what you should do:

  1. Listen to the advice given and try to understand it.
  2. If you don't understand what you are being told, give in. Everything is fine with you.
  3. Think about it, why are they telling you this at all?
  4. If no idea works, give up too. It's not essential.
  5. Start thinking about what better question you need to ask to get more accurate advice.
  6. But if you don't, give up again.
  7. Breathe. Deeply. Calmly and gently, as best you can. If possible, try to smell your surroundings. (Just don't start acting like a dog.)
  8. ...Pala, what was the problem?
  9. Enjoy the moment - you've just forgotten the tension, the fear, the uncomfortableness and everything else that made you feel so bad that you asked for advice to calm yourself.
  10. And stay relaxed. Because when you're not tormented by tension, you're yourself.

And that's it.

People who advise you to "just be yourself" are not doing so to confuse you. They say this because in moments of tension, you are not acting like a human being, but rather like a high-voltage line pole.

...And the high-voltage pylons transmit electricity, but they don't feel good about it. And in the worst situations, they behave like REAL pylons.

What are you - a man or a pillar?



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