Goal of the day: 120 words. Written: 488.
What kind of person are you if you blindly follow your feelings... Just like a trained dog blindly listens to his master's voice?
No, I'm serious - have some self respect, man!
I understand if you feel overwhelmed sometimes. I myself am an emotional person and sometimes I can't control my tongue or my hands. More often tongue-in-cheek, because I like to say what I think, but not think what I say.
It's quite another thing if you don't control your feelings every day.
If you are offended once, you cannot forget and forgive for three whole months. If you fail to achieve what you wanted once, you are afraid to cross your limits for four years. If every time someone asks your girlfriend out at the club, you rush to show off your muscles. (Hey, what are you pushing on me!?)
This is a lack of meditation (or if you are afraid of this word, thinking). And yes, I said it.
close your eyes Try not to think. And look what troubles come to the surface. Then cut through your emotion—that ugly floating memory—or whatever is holding you back from living happily ever after.
Here are some questions you might ask yourself:
- Why do I feel what I feel?
- When did I start feeling it?
- What do I usually do when I feel it worse?
- How can I solve this?
Does it become clearer why you feel so unhappy about your past actions?
If the answer is yes, you have done more than most. If it's negative, don't worry and try to observe your thoughts again. Maybe even make meditation a habit?
"So observation and self-questioning is all I need to do?"
Well, of course not. Observation and questioning is only the first stage. The second is living despite the feelings that arise.
…Because let's face it - are all our feelings really good for us?
Unfortunately, no matter how nice the phrases "listen to your heart" or "listen to your feelings" sound, they are usually completely worthless.
Because do you really want to listen to your fear and not talk to that attractive girl (or guy) on the other side of the club? Do you really want to listen to your anger and chip away at the wall until it collapses? Do you really want to listen to your jealousy, your greed, your lack of self-preservation?
I'm guessing you don't like either of those feelings. So why should you listen to them?
No, I'm not saying you should ignore those feelings. Don't forget the first stage - observe every flicker of your thoughts and at least try to understand why they are so loud.
After all, it's really not a problem to monitor your feelings. And still do what you set out to do.
- Scary? Don't give in to fear and still take the first step.
- Angry? Don't give in to the easy impulse to beat someone up, get a little drunk, or suppress your anger in some other way. Find the real reason for the anger without wasting energy on the anger itself.
- Worried about the future? Check with friends, family, maybe even Google. And get answers to your questions.
You couldn't do any of these things without the brains of observers. None of these things can be done without noticing the nature of your feelings.
Therefore concentrate your attention to the observation of thoughts. And act accordingly.
Don't focus on the supposed control of your thoughts and turning yourself into a zombie. Because you can't control your thoughts. They are bound to your body in the same way that the pain of stubbing your toe or kicking the corner of the dresser at night is bound to you.
But you can watch your thoughts. You can monitor your feelings. Consider them. And if you don't want to, don't damn listen to them.
Isn't it simple?
having laid
Daniel