{"id":6830,"date":"2022-02-01T13:27:00","date_gmt":"2022-02-01T11:27:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/?p=6830"},"modified":"2021-07-24T15:33:43","modified_gmt":"2021-07-24T12:33:43","slug":"santykiu-stiprinimo-menesis","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/2022\/attiecibu-stiprinasanas-menesis\/","title":{"rendered":"<i>[Attiec\u012bbu stiprin\u0101\u0161anas m\u0113nesis]<\/i> Un vai tu m\u012bli savu tuv\u0101ko? Vai velti vi\u0146iem laiku?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Da\u017eas dienas pirms m\u012blest\u012bbas dienas Lietuvai pasaul\u0113 tiek atz\u012bm\u0113ta v\u0113l viena m\u012blest\u012bbas diena - Valent\u012bna diena. Iesp\u0113jams, slaven\u0101k\u0101 febru\u0101ra diena, aizmirstot to, kas da\u017ek\u0101rt notiek m\u0113ne\u0161a beig\u0101s.<\/p>\n<p>M\u012blest\u012bba. Kur\u0161 gan to nev\u0113las?<\/p>\n<p>Nu, sprie\u017eot p\u0113c t\u0101, par ko ir p\u0101rv\u0113rtusies \u0161\u012b \u010cetrpadsmit\u0101, m\u012blest\u012bba gandr\u012bz nevienam vairs nav vajadz\u012bga. Jo m\u012blest\u012bba ir vajadz\u012bga tikai cilv\u0113kiem, ar kuriem gribas sakarst un izveidot burv\u012bgu b\u0113rnu brig\u0101di.<\/p>\n<p>Vai vismaz t\u0101 to var saprast, zinot, ka \u0161aj\u0101 dien\u0101 nejau\u0161i n\u0101ves gad\u012bjumu skaits, iesp\u0113jams, ir liel\u0101kais gad\u0101, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.ibtimes.com\/pulse\/valentines-day-2015-visualized-what-where-americans-spend-love-1816412\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">un sarkano ro\u017eu tirdzniec\u012bba iz\u0161auj cauri griestiem un atst\u0101j caurumu jumt\u0101<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Kaut k\u0101 t\u0101 &quot;m\u012bli savu tuv\u0101ko&quot; fr\u0101ze, kas mudina m\u012bl\u0113t tuv\u0101kos visa gada garum\u0101... P\u0101rv\u0113rs\u0101s par vienu &quot;Es tev nopirk\u0161u vienu rozi&quot; dienu. Aizraujo\u0161i, vai ne? Br\u012bni\u0161\u0137\u012bgas trad\u012bcijas.<\/p>\n<h3>Varb\u016bt t\u0101 nav tava trad\u012bcija. Bet\u2026<\/h3>\n<p>Pie\u0146emsim, ka m\u0113\u0123in\u0101t ignor\u0113t Valent\u012bna dienu vai vienk\u0101r\u0161i d\u0101vin\u0101t piecpadsmit reizes d\u0101rg\u0101ku \u0161okol\u0101di sirds formas kast\u012bt\u0113.<\/p>\n<p>Varb\u016bt jums nav pui\u0161a vai draudzenes, ko seksualiz\u0113t, un j\u016bs nep\u0113rkat gr\u0101matas par Pantone paletes to\u0146iem. Varb\u016bt \u010detrpadsmitais tev nemaz nav svar\u012bgs un tu tam nepiev\u0113r\u0161 uzman\u012bbu.<\/p>\n<p>Joproj\u0101m jaut\u0101jums jums:<\/p>\n<p>Un vai tu m\u012bli savu tuv\u0101ko? Vai velti vi\u0146iem laiku?<\/p>\n<p>Tavai m\u0101tei, vect\u0113vam, t\u0113tim, br\u0101lim vai pat draugam, kur\u0161 pirms da\u017eiem gadiem bija tik svar\u012bgs un interesants, bet tagad ir piln\u012bb\u0101 aizmirsts?<\/p>\n<p>Iesp\u0113jams, j\u016bs \u0161aj\u0101 br\u012bd\u012b dom\u0101jat, ka &quot;J\u0101, es m\u012blu, es esmu priek\u0161z\u012bm\u012bgs cilv\u0113ks.&quot; Bet tie\u0161\u0101m?<\/p>\n<p>Negribu ap\u0161aub\u012bt j\u016bsu r\u016bpes, ta\u010du atz\u012b\u0161os, ka man pa\u0161ai bie\u017ei neizdodas atv\u0113l\u0113t laiku saviem m\u012b\u013cajiem. Es aizmirstu cilv\u0113kus. Vienk\u0101r\u0161i. Un, ja es aizmirstu, man ir bail atgriezt attiec\u012bbas tiem sp\u0113c\u012bgaj\u0101m, vai ar\u012b padar\u012bt attiec\u012bbas lab\u0101kas.<\/p>\n<p>Es da\u017ereiz ned\u0113\u013c\u0101m ilgi nerun\u0101ju ar vecvec\u0101kiem, pat zinot, ka vi\u0146u p\u0113d\u0113j\u0101 diena neizb\u0113gami pien\u0101ks \u0101tr\u0101k nek\u0101 man\u0113j\u0101. <a href=\"#footnote-1-6830\" id=\"note-1-6830\" class=\"footnote-link\">1<\/a> Es dusmojos uz savu mammu un ilgi nerun\u0101ju, baidos pat v\u0101rdu pateikt...<\/p>\n<p>\u2026Un k\u0101 ir ar draugiem, kurus man izdev\u0101s aizmirst tikai t\u0101p\u0113c, ka m\u0113s vairs nem\u0101c\u0101mies vien\u0101 skol\u0101?<\/p>\n<p>Es uzskatu, ka ar\u012b jums ir t\u0101das attiec\u012bbas.<\/p>\n<figure><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-16728\" src=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/5\/2021\/10\/santykiu-stiprinimo-ir-atkurimo-menesis-kvietimas.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"955\" height=\"537\" srcset=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/5\/2021\/10\/santykiu-stiprinimo-ir-atkurimo-menesis-kvietimas.jpg 955w, https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/5\/2021\/10\/santykiu-stiprinimo-ir-atkurimo-menesis-kvietimas-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/5\/2021\/10\/santykiu-stiprinimo-ir-atkurimo-menesis-kvietimas-600x338.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 955px) 100vw, 955px\" \/><\/figure>\n<h2>M\u0113s varam izveidot lab\u0101kas trad\u012bcijas nek\u0101 t\u0101s, kas mums ir tagad.<\/h2>\n<p>Iesaku: padar\u012bsim \u0161o m\u0113nesi sav\u0101d\u0101ku. T\u0101 viet\u0101, lai turpin\u0101tu dz\u012bvot no \u010detrpadsmit\u0101 l\u012bdz \u010detrpadsmitajam un koncentr\u0113tos tikai uz ziedlapu taku veido\u0161anu l\u012bdz gultai\u2026<\/p>\n<p>\u2026Dar\u012bsim to, ko neviens iepriek\u0161 nav ieteicis:<\/p>\n<p><strong>Padar\u012bsim vismaz vienu m\u0113nesi par attiec\u012bbu atjauno\u0161anas un stiprin\u0101\u0161anas m\u0113nesi.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Tiesa, j\u0101 \u2013 \u0161o m\u0113nesi vari velt\u012bt k\u0101dam pal\u012bgam savu topo\u0161o (vai eso\u0161o) b\u0113rnu audzin\u0101\u0161an\u0101. Bet k\u0101p\u0113c gan nevelt\u012bt vismaz vienu m\u0113nesi tiem, kuriem tik bie\u017ei ned\u0101vin\u0101m m\u012blest\u012bbu?<\/p>\n<p>K\u0101p\u0113c gan to neatv\u0113l\u0113t tiem, kuri nez k\u0101p\u0113c netiek piemin\u0113ti Akropoles rekl\u0101m\u0101s un mediju ignor\u0113ti?<\/p>\n<p>Tie ir cilv\u0113ki, kurus d\u012bvain\u0101 k\u0101rt\u0101 m\u0113s aizmirstam. Tas ir J\u016bsu:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>M\u0101te;<\/li>\n<li>t\u0113tis;<\/li>\n<li>Vecm\u0101mi\u0146a;<\/li>\n<li>Vect\u0113vs;<\/li>\n<li>Br\u0101\u013ci un m\u0101sas;<\/li>\n<li>B\u0113rni, ja jums t\u0101di ir vai ja j\u016bs par vi\u0146iem r\u016bp\u0113jaties;<\/li>\n<li>Vientu\u013ca tante, kas dz\u012bvo otr\u0101 Lietuvas gal\u0101;<\/li>\n<li>T\u0101 m\u0101s\u012bca Anglij\u0101, ar kuru tu esi sav\u0101 Facebook draugu sarakst\u0101, bet baidies ar ko sazin\u0101ties, lai gan tu v\u0113l\u0113tos vi\u0146u lab\u0101k iepaz\u012bt;<\/li>\n<li>Tavs kaimi\u0146\u0161, ar kuru sveicini no r\u012bta 20 gadus p\u0113c k\u0101rtas;<\/li>\n<li>J\u016bsu biju\u0161ais m\u012b\u013c\u0101kais, kur\u0161 cit\u0101di ir labs cilv\u0113ks;<\/li>\n<li>Frizieris, kur\u0161 tevi grie\u017e katru m\u0113nesi\u2026<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>...Vai tie\u0161\u0101m jebkur\u0161 cits cilv\u0113ks, kur\u0161 tev ir interesants un svar\u012bgs.<\/p>\n<p>Ticu, ka ir cilv\u0113ki, ar kuriem grib\u0113tos atjaunot zudu\u0161o saikni un stiprin\u0101t eso\u0161o.<\/p>\n<p>Un varb\u016bt \u0161aj\u0101 br\u012bd\u012b tu jau dom\u0101, kuram cilv\u0113kam tava uzman\u012bba ir nepiecie\u0161ama visvair\u0101k? Kuru j\u016bs no\u017e\u0113lotu visvair\u0101k?<\/p>\n<h2>\u0160om\u0113nes velti laiku tiem, kam sen neesi velt\u012bjis laiku.<\/h2>\n<p>\u2026L\u012bdz br\u012bdim, kad ierad\u0101s N\u0101ves kungs.<\/p>\n<p>Manai vecm\u0101mi\u0146ai ir t\u0101ds joks. K\u0101 pati st\u0101sta, vi\u0146a sec\u012bgi dz\u012bvojusi Kra\u017eos, Kelm\u0113, Kintai, Kalv\u0101rij\u0101, tagad dz\u012bvo Kau\u0146\u0101, un savu ce\u013cu nosl\u0113gs Karm\u0113lavas kaps\u0113t\u0101. <a href=\"#footnote-2-6830\" id=\"note-2-6830\" class=\"footnote-link\">2<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Un \u0161is vi\u0146as joks man atg\u0101dina \u2013 katram no mums \u0161aj\u0101 prieka kaln\u0101 ir ierobe\u017eots laiks. Un, ja j\u016bs patie\u0161\u0101m v\u0113laties b\u016bt kop\u0101 ar k\u0101du, m\u0101c\u012bties no vi\u0146iem un saprast vi\u0146us - \u0161odien ir lab\u0101kais laiks. <a href=\"#footnote-3-6830\" id=\"note-3-6830\" class=\"footnote-link\">3<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Ja vien j\u016bs, protams, neticat reinkarn\u0101cijai un debes\u012bm. P\u0113c tam for\u0161i, varat turpin\u0101t t\u0113r\u0113t savu laiku Facebook, pornogr\u0101fijai un lab\u0101ko pied\u0101v\u0101jumu mekl\u0113\u0161anai viet\u0113j\u0101 tirdzniec\u012bbas centr\u0101. M\u0113s run\u0101sim p\u0113c tam, kad tu nomirsi.<\/p>\n<p>Bet vai j\u016bs saprat\u012bsit, ja uz pasauli raug\u0101ties nedaudz praktisk\u0101k un zin\u0101tnisk\u0101k?<\/p>\n<p>Ko dar\u012bt, ja j\u016bs neticat p\u0113cn\u0101ves dz\u012bvei?<\/p>\n<p>Tad aicinu pal\u016bkoties uz \u0161\u012bs dz\u012bves pazi\u0146\u0101m praktisk\u0101k. \u0160eit ir divas lietas, ko varat dar\u012bt \u0161aj\u0101 m\u0113nes\u012b:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Atdz\u012bvin\u0101t vecas, gandr\u012bz zaud\u0113tas attiec\u012bbas;<\/li>\n<li>Un stiprin\u0101t eso\u0161\u0101s.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Jo vai tad tavas attiec\u012bbas ar citiem cilv\u0113kiem nav viena no svar\u012bg\u0101kaj\u0101m liet\u0101m dz\u012bv\u0113? Es ticu - ir. Bet es lab\u0101k vispirms sniedzu vizu\u0101lu ilustr\u0101ciju tam, k\u0101das attiec\u012bbas es dom\u0101ju.<\/p>\n<p>\u0160o rakstu varat las\u012bt t\u0101l\u0101k\u2026<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u2026Vai pievienojies mums tagad. Uz priek\u0161u!<\/strong><\/p>\n<h2>\u0160eit ir da\u017ei dz\u012bvo attiec\u012bbu piem\u0113ri.<\/h2>\n<p>Lai gan jums jau ir daudz ideju, ko dar\u012bt ar savu laiku, \u0161eit ir \u010detri piem\u0113ri, k\u0101 patiesi m\u0101ko\u0146u iem\u012btnieki piev\u0113r\u0161 uzman\u012bbu saviem m\u012b\u013cajiem. Un j\u0101 - vi\u0146i visi dz\u012bvo Lietuv\u0101, t\u0101p\u0113c nevajag aizbildin\u0101ties. <a href=\"#footnote-4-6830\" id=\"note-4-6830\" class=\"footnote-link\">4<\/a><\/p>\n<h3>Antans Mockus. Psihologs un divu b\u0113rnu t\u0113vs.<\/h3>\n<figure><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-16735 alignnone\" src=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/5\/2021\/10\/antanas-mockus-vaikai-debesyla.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"439\" height=\"615\" \/><\/figure>\n<aside>Vair\u0101k par Antana pieeju dz\u012bvei var las\u012bt <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/antanas.mockus.lt\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">sav\u0101 Facebook<\/a>.<\/aside>\n<p>Pirms b\u0113rnu piedzim\u0161anas Antanas dom\u0101ja, ka t\u0101 b\u016btu laba iesp\u0113ja likt liet\u0101 savas psiholo\u0123ijas zin\u0101\u0161anas un p\u0113t\u012bt un izgl\u012btot b\u0113rnus jau no mazotnes.<\/p>\n<p>Ta\u010du, kad vi\u0146i piedzima, vi\u0146\u0161 saprata, ka b\u016bt kop\u0101 ar b\u0113rniem ir svar\u012bg\u0101ks.<\/p>\n<p>T\u0101p\u0113c kop\u0161 \u0161o divu mazo prieku (un b\u0113du) dzim\u0161anas vi\u0146\u0161 ir ap\u0146\u0113mies katru dienu atrast laiku saviem b\u0113rniem. Un vi\u0146a nolika mal\u0101 visas nesvar\u012bg\u0101s darb\u012bbas un attiec\u012bbas, lai atg\u016btu savu laiku.<\/p>\n<p>K\u0101 vi\u0146\u0161 pats apgalvo, emp\u0101tija un laiks ir ierobe\u017eoti resursi. T\u0101p\u0113c vi\u0146\u0161 to velta saviem b\u0113rniem, kam\u0113r var.<\/p>\n<h3>\u0122iedre S\u013civko. (Tagad jau) pilnas slodzes sieva.<\/h3>\n<figure id=\"attachment_16715\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-16715\" style=\"width: 615px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-16715\" src=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/5\/2021\/10\/giedre-slivko-seima-debesyla-615x492-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"615\" height=\"492\" \/><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-16715\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Foto autors Krist\u012bna Sereikaite<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<aside><\/aside>\n<aside>Giedr\u0117 ir viens no akt\u012bv\u0101kajiem m\u0101ko\u0146iem. \ud83d\ude42<\/aside>\n<p>Giedre 2015. gada ruden\u012b saprata: vi\u0146as \u0123imene bija k\u013cuvusi par vienu no t\u0101m &quot;nodz\u012bvotaj\u0101m&quot; \u0123imen\u0113m. Ar nebeidzamu rut\u012bnu un dusm\u0101m starp vi\u0146u un v\u012bru, vec\u0101kiem un b\u0113rniem.<\/p>\n<p>\u0160\u012b nebija vienreiz\u0113ja kr\u012bze. Tas bija kaut kas, kas notika kop\u0161 laul\u012bbas s\u0101kuma, v\u0113l pirms b\u0113rnu piedzim\u0161anas.<\/p>\n<p>Ir pien\u0101cis laiks veikt izmai\u0146as, lai izvair\u012btos no s\u0101p\u012bgas \u0161\u0137ir\u0161an\u0101s.<\/p>\n<p>Tie\u0161i to Giedre dar\u012bja ziemas s\u0101kum\u0101. P\u0113c drauga ieteikt\u0101s gr\u0101matas &quot;Piecas m\u012blest\u012bbas valodas&quot; izlas\u012b\u0161anas,\u00a0<a href=\"#footnote-5-6830\" id=\"note-5-6830\" class=\"footnote-link\">5<\/a> vi\u0146a saprata, ka katrs dod un sa\u0146em m\u012blest\u012bbu sav\u0101d\u0101k...<\/p>\n<p>\u2026Un ka vi\u0146a m\u0113dza sekot tikai sav\u0101m v\u0113lm\u0113m, ne\u0146emot v\u0113r\u0101 to, k\u0101 vi\u0146as v\u012brs vai b\u0113rni pau\u017e m\u012blest\u012bbu.<\/p>\n<p>T\u0101p\u0113c Giedr\u0117 \u0161oziem pameta darbu, lai pavad\u012btu laiku kop\u0101 ar \u0123imeni. Re\u0101lais laiks \u2013 ne t\u0101ds, k\u0101du vi\u0146a m\u0113dza &quot;t\u0113r\u0113t&quot; iepriek\u0161, atgrie\u017eoties dusm\u012bga un nogurusi.<\/p>\n<p>Vi\u0146aspr\u0101t, darbs vi\u0146ai un \u0123imenei nozaga pa\u0161u svar\u012bg\u0101ko - labas saj\u016btas, komunik\u0101ciju, kop\u0101 pavad\u012bto laiku. Tagad vi\u0146a ir ap\u0146\u0113m\u012bbas pilna vairs nelaist gar\u0101m iesp\u0113jas atbalst\u012bt meitas un v\u012bru. Un p\u0113d\u0113jo m\u0113ne\u0161u laik\u0101 vi\u0146as \u0123imen\u0113 atgriez\u0101s siltas attiec\u012bbas.<\/p>\n<h3>Karol\u012bna \u017dilinskaite. Kou\u010dinga speci\u0101lists un students.<\/h3>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<figure><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-16721 alignnone\" src=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/5\/2021\/10\/karolina-zilinskaite-mama-debesyla.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"615\" height=\"615\" \/><\/figure>\n<aside>\u0160o ideju par ikm\u0113ne\u0161a izaicin\u0101jumu man ieteica Karol\u012bna.<\/aside>\n<p>Karol\u012bna \u0161ogad izvirz\u012bja sev m\u0113r\u0137i: stiprin\u0101t saites ar \u0123imeni, lai t\u0101s nemaz nep\u0101rtr\u016bktu p\u0113c tam, kad vi\u0146a p\u0101rc\u0113l\u0101s vair\u0101k nek\u0101 250 kilometrus uz citu Lietuvas nost\u016bri.<\/p>\n<p>Lai ar\u012b Lietuva ir sal\u012bdzino\u0161i maza, sp\u0113c\u012bgas saiknes uztur\u0113\u0161ana nav nemaz tik viegls uzdevums, dz\u012bvojot \u0101tr\u0101 temp\u0101.<\/p>\n<p>Karol\u012bna negras\u0101s pamest savas aktivit\u0101tes. Ta\u010du vi\u0146a cen\u0161as vismaz reizi m\u0113nes\u012b atgriezties m\u0101j\u0101s, lai apciemotu vec\u0101kus, un ar\u012b nemit\u012bgi sag\u0101d\u0101tu da\u017e\u0101dus s\u012bkumus - piezvan\u012btu, atnestu d\u0101vanas no ce\u013cojumiem un taml\u012bdz\u012bgi.<\/p>\n<p>Lai gan vi\u0146ai ar mammu ir labas attiec\u012bbas, vi\u0146a cen\u0161as \u0161\u012bs lab\u0101s attiec\u012bbas uztur\u0113t, lai turpm\u0101k t\u0101s neb\u016btu j\u0101veido no jauna, k\u0101 tas j\u0101dara citiem.<\/p>\n<h3>Daniels Debesyla. Vi\u0146am joproj\u0101m ir tikai 24 gadi.<\/h3>\n<figure><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-16712 alignnone\" src=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/5\/2021\/10\/danielius-goriunovas-seima-615x461-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"615\" height=\"461\" \/><\/figure>\n<aside>Tas esmu es!<\/aside>\n<p>Att\u0113l\u0101 pa kreisi j\u016bs varat redz\u0113t mani, manu vecm\u0101mi\u0146u un manu mammu. \u0160is ir selfijs Kau\u0146as Dr\u0101mas te\u0101tr\u012b. <a href=\"#footnote-6-6830\" id=\"note-6-6830\" class=\"footnote-link\">6<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Lai gan visu m\u016b\u017eu esmu dz\u012bvojusi tie\u0161i blakus savai \u0123imenei (pat vien\u0101 m\u0101j\u0101), saprotu, ka m\u016bsu kop\u012bgais laiks ir ierobe\u017eots.<\/p>\n<p>T\u0101p\u0113c, \u0146emot v\u0113r\u0101 iesp\u0113ju kop\u0101 doties uz te\u0101tri un pagriezt galvu, skatoties d\u012bvainas izr\u0101des, labpr\u0101t piekr\u012btu to dar\u012bt. Pat ja es var\u0113tu izmantot laiku, lai rakst\u012btu rakstus vai gr\u0101matas, veidojot savu rakst\u012b\u0161anas karjeru.<\/p>\n<p>M\u0113s run\u0101jam, braucam uz izr\u0101d\u0113m un dar\u0101m visu kop\u0101. T\u0101s nav kaut k\u0101das lielas aktivit\u0101tes un izaicin\u0101jumi \u2013 t\u0101 ir tikai komunik\u0101cija. <a href=\"#footnote-7-6830\" id=\"note-7-6830\" class=\"footnote-link\">7<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Bet tie\u0161i \u0161\u012b komunik\u0101cija ir visvair\u0101k vajadz\u012bga.<\/p>\n<p>M\u0113s izmantojam iesp\u0113ju b\u016bt kop\u0101 ar svar\u012bgiem cilv\u0113kiem.<\/p>\n<p>Vai izmantojat iesp\u0113ju?<\/p>\n<p>\u0160\u012bs nav vien\u012bg\u0101s lietas, ko varat dar\u012bt. J\u016bs varat ar\u012b:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Aps\u0113dies un uzsp\u0113l\u0113 \u0161ahu ar t\u0113ti;<\/li>\n<li>Dodieties kop\u0101 ar b\u0113rniem uz \u010ciurlio\u0146a att\u0113lu galeriju;<\/li>\n<li>Dodies ce\u013cojum\u0101 uz ned\u0113\u013cu bez interneta, bet kop\u0101 ar v\u012bru (vai sievu);<\/li>\n<li>Pajaut\u0101jiet savai vecm\u0101mi\u0146ai, vai vi\u0146a ir las\u012bjusi Andria Tapi\u0146a &quot;Vilka stundu&quot;, pied\u0101v\u0101jiet to izlas\u012bt un p\u0113c tam dalieties savos viedok\u013cos;<\/li>\n<li>Piedalieties videosp\u0113\u013cu maraton\u0101 ar draugiem un kop\u0101 sp\u0113l\u0113jiet Overwatch, p\u0101rsp\u0113jot \u0161os neder\u012bgos pretiniekus;<\/li>\n<li>Sp\u0113l\u0113jiet ar saviem b\u0113rniem to &quot;Minecraft&quot;, kuru j\u016bs nesaprotat, bet j\u016bsu b\u0113rni dievina;<\/li>\n<li>Pal\u012bdziet vect\u0113vam sagatavoties pavasarim d\u0101rz\u0101 vai d\u0101rz\u0101;<\/li>\n<li>Zvani savam t\u0113tim un atvainojies par to, ka necieni vi\u0146u un ats\u0101c satikties k\u0101 pieaugu\u0161ais;<\/li>\n<li>Interv\u0113jot savu m\u0101ti\u2026<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>\u2026Un t\u0101 t\u0101l\u0101k.<\/p>\n<p>Svar\u012bg\u0101k ir nevis tas, ko j\u016bs dar\u0101t, bet gan tas, ar ko j\u016bs to dar\u0101t.<\/p>\n<p>M\u016bsu laiks kop\u0101 ar cilv\u0113kiem ir ierobe\u017eots. Ar da\u017eiem - pat vair\u0101k. Vai tie\u0161\u0101m varat at\u013cauties to izniekot un gaid\u012bt &quot;lab\u0101ku&quot; br\u012bdi? Vai tie\u0161\u0101m pien\u0101ks tas br\u012bdis?<\/p>\n<h2>Es j\u016btu, ka j\u016bs baid\u0101ties r\u012bkoties?<\/h2>\n<p>Nu, tev ir bail. Jums ir kauns to atz\u012bt, bet... Bet k\u0101 to visu izdar\u012bt? Galu gal\u0101 j\u016bsu ieteikumi jums var nepatikt!<\/p>\n<p>Un es nemelo\u0161u, j\u016bsu pirmais m\u0113\u0123in\u0101jums var nedarboties tik labi, k\u0101 j\u016bs cerat.<\/p>\n<p>J\u016bs varat ieg\u016bt lielu entuziasmu. Vai ar\u012b nesa\u0146em nevienu. Jo varb\u016bt tavs t\u0113tis ir pieradis, ka tu vi\u0146am zvani tikai tad, kad vajag naudu \u2013 tas ir dabiski, ka vi\u0146\u0161 br\u012bn\u012bsies, kas te ir main\u012bjies, ka tu zvani tikai, lai pajaut\u0101tu, vai vi\u0146\u0161 j\u016btas labi. Vai ar\u012b tas pats.<\/p>\n<p>\u0160eit ir j\u0101atceras \u010detras lietas:<\/p>\n<h3>Pirmk\u0101rt: lab\u0101k ir m\u0113\u0123in\u0101t nek\u0101 nem\u0113\u0123in\u0101t.<\/h3>\n<p>Un es run\u0101ju nopietni. Iedom\u0101jieties, ka \u0161odien no \u0161\u012bm bail\u0113m j\u016bs nolemjat visu atlikt &quot;uz lab\u0101ku ned\u0113\u013cu, kaut kad n\u0101kotn\u0113&quot;. \u2026K\u0101 j\u016bs justos, ja uzzin\u0101tu, ka esat nokav\u0113jis \u2013 j\u016bsu V\u012brietis iek\u013cuva autoav\u0101rij\u0101 un g\u0101ja boj\u0101?<\/p>\n<p>Lab\u0101k ir m\u0113\u0123in\u0101t noskaidrot, vai kaut kas nav noticis. Nevis nemaz nem\u0113\u0123in\u0101t un p\u0113c tam visu atliku\u0161o dz\u012bvi vainot sevi, atk\u0101rtojot &quot;k\u0101 b\u016btu, ja es b\u016btu dar\u012bjis sav\u0101d\u0101k&quot;.<\/p>\n<h3>Otrk\u0101rt: Kam\u0113r j\u016bs abi esat dz\u012bvi, jums ir neierobe\u017eots m\u0113\u0123in\u0101jums.<\/h3>\n<p>Nez k\u0101p\u0113c reiz\u0113m tie\u0161\u0101m \u0161\u0137iet, ka m\u016bsu pirmais sveiciens, zvans, v\u0113stule vai d\u0101vana b\u016bs p\u0113d\u0113jais, ja adres\u0101tam tas nepatiks.<\/p>\n<p>Bet tie\u0161\u0101m - tas ir absurds. Kam\u0113r j\u016bs abi esat dz\u012bvi, jums ir neierobe\u017eots skaits m\u0113\u0123in\u0101jumu. Un viens no tiem iedarbin\u0101sies. Ja ne pirmais, tad varb\u016bt tr\u012bsdesmit ceturtais. Vissvar\u012bg\u0101kais ir tikai\u2026<\/p>\n<h3>Tre\u0161k\u0101rt: vadieties p\u0113c sirsn\u012bbas.<\/h3>\n<p>Negod\u012bgas attiec\u012bbas &quot;t\u0101p\u0113c, ka vajag&quot; ir tikpat ac\u012bmredzamas k\u0101 asinis uz sniega. Nedod laiku t\u0101p\u0113c, ka k\u0101ds tevi piespie\u017e \u2013 dod laiku t\u0101p\u0113c, ka tu to v\u0113lies. Br\u012bvpr\u0101t\u012bgi.<\/p>\n<p>Es, piem\u0113ram, visu laiku aizmirstu apsveikt vect\u0113vu dzim\u0161anas dien\u0101. Tom\u0113r, ja k\u0101dreiz pr\u0101toju, k\u0101 no\u017e\u0101v\u0113t \u0101bolus vai kaut kas noiet greizi, v\u0113r\u0161os pie vi\u0146a.<\/p>\n<h3>Ceturtais: Un mekl\u0113jiet sirsn\u012bbu.<\/h3>\n<p>Diem\u017e\u0113l \u0161eit nevaru sniegt nek\u0101du konkr\u0113tu padomu, jo ne tu, ne es nesp\u0113jam las\u012bt citu domas. Bet noteikti b\u016btu lab\u0101k, ja j\u016bs neietu un nerisin\u0101tu viens otra probl\u0113mas ap\u013cos un kvadr\u0101tos.<\/p>\n<p>Daudz lab\u0101k \u2013 uzkl\u0101jiet tie\u0161i. Un pie\u0146em atbildes t\u0101, it k\u0101 t\u0101s b\u016btu god\u012bg\u0101k\u0101s pasaul\u0113. Attiec\u012bbas balst\u0101s uz cie\u0146u, un t\u0101 tu respekt\u0113 otra cilv\u0113ka viedokli un v\u0113lmes. Ja vi\u0146\u0161 nev\u0113las ar jums kaut ko jaunu dar\u012bt, tad lai t\u0101 b\u016btu. Bet j\u016bs vismaz pam\u0113\u0123in\u0101j\u0101t, un tas ir svar\u012bgi.<\/p>\n<p>Tas nav daudz, bet ar to pietiek. Vajadz\u0113tu pietikt.<\/p>\n<p>J\u016bs jau zin\u0101t, k\u0101 sazin\u0101ties ar saviem vissvar\u012bg\u0101kajiem cilv\u0113kiem. Vienk\u0101r\u0161i sakot, j\u016bs, iesp\u0113jams, to \u0161obr\u012bd esat aizmirsis.<\/p>\n<h2>Ja ne \u0161odien, kad j\u016bs atjaunosiet savienojumu?<\/h2>\n<p>Neskatoties uz to, ka tev ir bail, ka tavas pa\u0161reiz\u0113j\u0101s attiec\u012bbas ar m\u012b\u013cajiem nav labas vai varb\u016bt nemaz nav un par sp\u012bti tam, ka ir tik gr\u016bti atrast laiku, kad tu to iznieko Facebook un nezini ar k\u0101d\u0101m aktivit\u0101t\u0113m nodarboties. .<\/p>\n<p>\u2026Laiks tik\u0161\u0137. Un vi\u0146\u0161 nekandid\u0113 tav\u0101 lab\u0101.<\/p>\n<p>Laiks ir lab\u0101k\u0101s z\u0101les pret nesaska\u0146\u0101m, un tas ir ar\u012b lab\u0101kais attiec\u012bbu slepkava.<\/p>\n<p>Bet j\u016bs varat ar\u012b skat\u012bties pozit\u012bv\u0101k. J\u016bs joproj\u0101m esat dz\u012bvs un jums v\u0113l ir laiks. Laiks iepaz\u012bt tuv\u0101kos cilv\u0113kus, atst\u0101t kop\u012bgu nospiedumu vi\u0146u dz\u012bv\u0113 un patur\u0113t sev lab\u0101k\u0101s atmi\u0146as.<\/p>\n<p>J\u016bsu \u0161odienas izv\u0113le ir:<\/p>\n<p>A) Neko nemainiet un dz\u012bvojiet k\u0101 agr\u0101k. Varb\u016bt n\u0101kotn\u0113 j\u016bs to no\u017e\u0113losit.<\/p>\n<p>B) Kaut ko dar\u012bt un padar\u012bt dz\u012bvi lab\u0101ku. Sev un citiem. \u0145emt to pats, nevis gaidot, kad tas ma\u0123iski notiks.<\/p>\n<p>Ko tu izv\u0113lies?<\/p>\n<p>Un ja ne \u0161om\u0113nes, tad kad?<\/p>\n<p>Es ceru, ka pirms n\u0101k N\u0101ves kungs. Tam \u010dalim ner\u016bp tavi p\u0113d\u0113jie raud\u0101\u0161anas mirk\u013ci un vi\u0146\u0161 nep\u0101rdod otro dz\u012bv\u012bbu par zelta mon\u0113t\u0101m.<\/p>\n<p>T\u0101tad, es aicinu j\u016bs pievienoties. Stiprin\u0101sim kop\u0101 vec\u0101s attiec\u012bbas!<\/p>\n<p>j\u016bsu tuvums<br \/>\n<div id=\"parasas\" class=\"\"><svg viewbox=\"0 0 900 189\" width=\"200\">\n        <path class=\"d-1\" d=\"M67 50L5 172\"\/>\n        <path class=\"d-2\" d=\"M19 152c7 8 30 33 59 32 41-1 76-46 80-100 2-22-6-77-42-79C61 2-1 54 46 76\"\/>\n        <path class=\"a\" d=\"M204 126.9c1.4-6-1-23.7-8.8-23.3-33.2 1-44 50-31 54 11 3 22-10 36-25 2-3 14 9 25 10\"\/>\n        <path class=\"nie\" d=\"M211 157c45-44 65-58 70-54 6 5-16 42-12 45 6 4 47-55 57-49 7 4-7 34 4 47 8 11 20 7 28 1 18-14 28-28 27-22s-5 38 46 16c21-9 22-29 13-36-3-2-16 6-16 16-1 18 14 29 37 28\"\/>\n        <path class=\"t-1\" d=\"M387 80a1 1 0 1 0 2 0 1 1 0 1 0-2 0\"\/>\n        <path class=\"liu\" d=\"M444 184C549 88 546 23 536 23c-19 0-57 74-57 122 0 4 5 13 13 16 5 3 11 2 16 1 6-1 11-6 17-10l39-32c0 6-2 8-3 14-2 7-2 10 1 14l5 4c6 3 14 1 20-1 17-7 26-19 44-29 3-1 8-4 12-2l5 6c4 11 1 16 4 22s13 10 20 8 12-9 13-14l4-13 3-5 6-4 13-5c3-1 6-3 10-8\"\/>\n        <path class=\"t-2\" d=\"M576 85a1 1 0 1 0 2 0 1 1 0 1 0-2 0\"\/>\n        <path class=\"s-1\" d=\"M720 142c8 2 27 3 35-3 6-4-18-36-22-32-3 4-6 19-30 65\"\/>\n        <path class=\"s-2\" d=\"M756 140c4-1 9-4 12-8\"\/><\/svg>\n    <\/div>\n    <noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/wp-content\/themes\/debesyla-uzrasai-child\/inc\/img\/fallback-parasas.png\" alt=\"Daniels\" style=\"top: -2.5em; position: relative;\"><\/noscript><\/p>\n<p>PS Izsakiet savu aizrau\u0161anos ar p\u0101rmai\u0146\u0101m koment\u0101ros zem\u0101k. T\u0101d\u0101 veid\u0101 j\u016bs ap\u0146ematies mazam, bet v\u0113rt\u012bgam un jautram piedz\u012bvojumam.<\/p>\n<div class=\"footnotes\"><hr \/><ol><li id=\"footnote-1-6830\" class=\"footnote\"><p>tu nomirsi Pie\u0146em to un esi laim\u012bgs. K\u0101p\u0113c? Es tev par to past\u0101st\u012bju\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/gyvenimo-pasiekimai\/\">&quot;Tu esi vair\u0101k, nek\u0101 dom\u0101 + atceries savu n\u0101vi&quot;<\/a>\u00a0beigu da\u013c\u0101.<a href=\"#note-1-6830\" class=\"footnote-return\">&#8617;<\/a><\/p><\/li><!--\/#footnote-1.footnote--><li id=\"footnote-2-6830\" class=\"footnote\"><p>T\u0101 ir Kau\u0146as priek\u0161pils\u0113ta zieme\u013cu pus\u0113. Tur ir apglab\u0101ti mani vecvec\u0101ki no t\u0113va puses un vair\u0101ki citi radinieki.<a href=\"#note-2-6830\" class=\"footnote-return\">&#8617;<\/a><\/p><\/li><!--\/#footnote-2.footnote--><li id=\"footnote-3-6830\" class=\"footnote\"><p>\u201cLab\u0101kais laiks koka st\u0101d\u012b\u0161anai bija pirms divdesmit gadiem. Otrs lab\u0101kais ir \u0161odien&quot; - \u0137\u012bnie\u0161u sak\u0101mv\u0101rds.<a href=\"#note-3-6830\" class=\"footnote-return\">&#8617;<\/a><\/p><\/li><!--\/#footnote-3.footnote--><li id=\"footnote-4-6830\" class=\"footnote\"><p>Nopietni, k\u0101di attaisnojumi jums ir? Nav laika? Nauda? Sp\u0113ks? Vi\u0146a... Paskat\u012bsimies, kas sak\u0101ms \u0161iem m\u016bsu dienas varo\u0146iem. \ud83d\ude42<a href=\"#note-4-6830\" class=\"footnote-return\">&#8617;<\/a><\/p><\/li><!--\/#footnote-4.footnote--><li id=\"footnote-5-6830\" class=\"footnote\"><p>Par kur\u0101m galvenaj\u0101m idej\u0101m es st\u0101st\u012bju \u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/penkios-meiles-kalbos\/\">&quot;Piecas m\u012blest\u012bbas valodas, kur\u0101s m\u0113s visi run\u0101jam&quot;<\/a>.<a href=\"#note-5-6830\" class=\"footnote-return\">&#8617;<\/a><\/p><\/li><!--\/#footnote-5.footnote--><li id=\"footnote-6-6830\" class=\"footnote\"><p>Viens no m\u016bsu \u0123imenes iecien\u012bt\u0101kajiem te\u0101triem. Ja nemaldos, m\u0113s to noskat\u012bj\u0101mies taj\u0101 dien\u0101 <a href=\"http:\/\/dramosteatras.lt\/lt\/spektaklis\/hamletas\/\">Vida Barei\u0137a &quot;Hamlets&quot;.<\/a>.<a href=\"#note-6-6830\" class=\"footnote-return\">&#8617;<\/a><\/p><\/li><!--\/#footnote-6.footnote--><li id=\"footnote-7-6830\" class=\"footnote\"><p>Ziemassv\u0113tki, Ziemassv\u0113tki, dzim\u0161anas dienas un negaid\u012btas cepel\u012bnu dienas ir m\u016bsu sv\u0113tki.<a href=\"#note-7-6830\" class=\"footnote-return\">&#8617;<\/a><\/p><\/li><!--\/#footnote-7.footnote--><\/ol><\/div><!--\/#footnotes-->","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Da\u017eas dienas pirms m\u012blest\u012bbas dienas Lietuvai pasaul\u0113 tiek atz\u012bm\u0113ta v\u0113l viena m\u012blest\u012bbas diena - Valent\u012bna diena. Iesp\u0113jams, slaven\u0101k\u0101 febru\u0101ra diena, aizmirstot to, kas da\u017ek\u0101rt notiek m\u0113ne\u0161a beig\u0101s. M\u012blest\u012bba. Kur\u0161 gan to nev\u0113las? Nu, sprie\u017eot p\u0113c t\u0101, par ko ir p\u0101rv\u0113rtusies \u0161\u012b \u010cetrpadsmit\u0101, m\u012blest\u012bba gandr\u012bz nevienam vairs nav vajadz\u012bga. Jo m\u012blest\u012bba ir vajadz\u012bga tikai cilv\u0113kiem, ar kuriem gribas sakarst un izveidot brig\u0101di [...]<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":16712,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[27],"tags":[69,47],"class_list":{"0":"post-6830","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-issukiai","8":"tag-meile","9":"tag-santykiai"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6830","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6830"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6830\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/16712"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6830"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6830"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6830"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}