{"id":2844,"date":"2017-07-08T21:00:41","date_gmt":"2017-07-08T18:00:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/danieliusg.lt\/?p=2844"},"modified":"2021-07-07T16:55:14","modified_gmt":"2021-07-07T13:55:14","slug":"meiles-darbas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/2017\/milestiba-ir-darbs\/","title":{"rendered":"Gr\u0101matas skices par noz\u012bmi:<\/i> K\u0101p\u0113c viss, ko tu dari, ir balst\u012bts uz m\u012blest\u012bbu?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Dienas m\u0113r\u0137is: 1512 v\u0101rdi<\/a>. Rakst\u012bts: 1030<\/b>.<\/p>\n

Kad pirms daudziem t\u016bksto\u0161iem (vai dr\u012bz\u0101k miljoniem) gadu lielaj\u0101 \u0137\u012bmisko elementu zup\u0101 par\u0101d\u012bj\u0101s pirm\u0101 dz\u012bv\u012bba, tai bija viena vien\u012bga v\u0113lme: p\u0101rveidot vienu \u0137\u012bmisko elementu citos elementos.<\/p>\n

Piem\u0113ram, t\u0101 var\u0113ja b\u016bt met\u0101na p\u0101rv\u0113r\u0161ana oglek\u013ca dioks\u012bd\u0101. Vai cit\u0101 veid\u0101. Bet prec\u012bzas formulas \u0161eit patie\u0161\u0101m nav svar\u012bgas.<\/p>\n

Pirm\u0101 dz\u012bve p\u0113c tam dabiski vai, iesp\u0113jams, Dieva vai nejau\u0161a likte\u0146a mudin\u0101ta, ik pa laikam s\u0101ka main\u012bties. Da\u017ek\u0101rt d\u012bvaini notikumi notika \u0161o \u0161\u016bnu un am\u0113bu dal\u012b\u0161an\u0101, no kur\u0101m att\u012bst\u012bj\u0101s dz\u012bv\u012bba. Main\u012bts.<\/p>\n

T\u0101d\u0101 veid\u0101 pag\u0101ja vair\u0101ki miljoni gadu un \u0161\u012b dz\u012bve soli pa solim p\u0101rv\u0113rt\u0101s par cilv\u0113ku.<\/p>\n

Cilv\u0113ki ir dz\u012bvnieki, kuru vien\u012bgais m\u0113r\u0137is ir aizst\u0101t vienu \u0137\u012bmisku vielu ar citu. Ta\u010du liel\u0101koties m\u0113s to neapzin\u0101mies, t\u0101p\u0113c visam saprotam, papla\u0161inot \u0123imeni, mekl\u0113jot person\u012bgo laimi vai veicot citas aktivit\u0101tes.<\/p>\n

B\u016bt\u012bb\u0101 viss, ko \u0161\u012b dz\u012bv\u012bbas forma, cilv\u0113ki, dara, ir bezj\u0113dz\u012bgi. Jo t\u0101pat k\u0101 dz\u012bve par\u0101d\u012bj\u0101s nezin\u0101mu iemeslu d\u0113\u013c, neviens nav izskaidrojis, k\u0101p\u0113c mums ir j\u0101dz\u012bvo.<\/p>\n

Bet m\u0113s gribam dz\u012bvot. Ak, m\u0113s gribam.<\/p>\n

Un m\u0113s dar\u012bsim visu, lai var\u0113tu izdz\u012bvot, papla\u0161in\u0101t \u0123imeni, un p\u0113c t\u0101 izdar\u012b\u0161anas aizsarg\u0101t ne tikai b\u0113rnus \u0123imen\u0113, bet ar\u012b mazb\u0113rnus vai, ja izdosies, mazmazb\u0113rnus, vai p\u0113c iesp\u0113jas vair\u0101k.<\/p>\n

M\u0113s c\u012bn\u012bsimies, vingrosim, mekl\u0113sim dz\u012bv\u012bbas eliks\u012bru, ietur\u0113sim di\u0113tu vai princip\u0101 dar\u012bsim jebko citu, lai dz\u012bvotu ilg\u0101k un g\u016btu labumu m\u016bsu klanam.<\/p>\n

(Starp citu, radiniekiem nav oblig\u0101ti j\u0101b\u016bt seksu\u0101li transmis\u012bviem. Da\u017ei cilv\u0113ki nev\u0113las papla\u0161in\u0101t savu \u0123enealo\u0123isko ciltsrakstu, bet vi\u0146i v\u0113las pal\u012bdz\u0113t cilv\u0113kiem, kurus vi\u0146i m\u012bl un ciena\u00a0\u2014 neatkar\u012bgi no t\u0101, vai tie ir viendzimuma partneri, kuc\u0113ni vai Tautas l\u012bderis.)<\/p>\n

Bet k\u0101p\u0113c es jums to saku?<\/p>\n

Nu, lieta ir t\u0101da... Viss, ko m\u0113s dar\u0101m, ir saist\u012bts ar m\u016bsu n\u0101vi. Pareiz\u0101k sakot, izvairoties no n\u0101ves.<\/p>\n

Viss. Ne tikai atbildot uz jaut\u0101jumiem "ko es \u0113d\u012b\u0161u", vai "kur es dz\u012bvo\u0161u", vai "kas par mani par\u016bp\u0113sies vecumdien\u0101s", vai "k\u0101 to band\u012btu vispirms pieveikt, lai vi\u0146\u0161 nenogalina". es vispirms". Bet ar\u012b iesaistoties jebkur\u0101 cit\u0101 darb\u012bb\u0101.<\/p>\n

\u0160eit, piem\u0113ram, ir viena aktivit\u0101te, ko \u013coti daudzi cilv\u0113ki ien\u012bst: tie ir ieraksti, lekcijas un da\u017e\u0101das runas auditorijas priek\u0161\u0101.<\/p>\n

Patie\u0161\u0101m nav svar\u012bgi, k\u0101 vi\u0146i izskat\u0101s, bet, ja m\u0113s vienk\u0101r\u0161i zin\u0101m, ka ir (vai b\u016bs, ja film\u0113jam n\u0101kotn\u0113) auditorija un k\u0101ds m\u016bs ties\u0101s - dabiski, ka mums nervi tr\u012bc.<\/p>\n

K\u0101p\u0113c? K\u0101p\u0113c m\u0113s tik \u013coti baid\u0101mies no publiskas uzst\u0101\u0161an\u0101s?<\/p>\n

[[Zin\u0101tniskais pamatojums]] teorija ir t\u0101da, ka tas notiek t\u0101p\u0113c, ka m\u0113s dabiski iedom\u0101jamies slikt\u0101ko, kas var\u0113tu notikt bai\u013cu situ\u0101cij\u0101s.<\/p>\n

\u2026Un kas ir slikt\u0101ks par goda un uztic\u012bbas zaud\u0113\u0161anu citu cilv\u0113ku ac\u012bs?<\/p>\n

Nu, paties\u012bb\u0101, j\u0101, j\u016bs varat izdom\u0101t veselu virkni slikt\u0101ku lietu. Bet tam, kas st\u0101v skatuves priek\u0161\u0101 \u2013 man vai tev \u2013 tas izskat\u0101s p\u0113c kaut k\u0101 \u0161ausm\u012bga. Tik briesm\u012bgi, ka nikns t\u012b\u0123eris atn\u0101ks un uzbruks mums.<\/p>\n

[[zin\u0101tniskais pamatojums]] piemin tie\u0161i \u0161\u0101du scen\u0101riju - ir v\u0113l viena teorija, kas apgalvo, ka m\u0113s baid\u0101mies b\u016bt skatuves priek\u0161\u0101 (vai pat vienai meitenei\/puisim, ko satiekam uz ielas), jo uzskat\u0101m, ka tad, ja m\u0113s to dar\u0101m. , m\u016bsu cilts, sabiedr\u012bba nosod\u012bs m\u016bs vientu\u013cai n\u0101vei.<\/p>\n

Un tas ir bied\u0113jo\u0161i. No n\u0101ves nebaid\u0101s tikai tie cilv\u0113ki, kuri sapratu\u0161i, ka tas ir neizb\u0113gami. Un t\u0101du cilv\u0113ku ir sal\u012bdzino\u0161i maz, pat starp m\u016bsu vec\u0101kajiem. \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n

Aha... Tas... Kur ien\u0101k j\u016bsu piemin\u0113t\u0101 M\u012blest\u012bba?<\/p>\n

J\u0101, paldies. M\u012blest\u012bba. K\u0101 jums vajadz\u0113tu atcer\u0113ties, run\u0101jot par m\u016bsu v\u0113lm\u0113m un v\u0113lm\u0113m, es saucu par V\u0112L\u0112MU augst\u0101ko l\u012bmeni M\u012blest\u012bba. Jo t\u0101da v\u0113lme ir tikpat nenosak\u0101ma, cik t\u0101 ir \u2013 bezgal\u012bga, neaptverama pat k\u0101p\u0113c t\u0101 ir v\u0113lama un gandr\u012bz neaprakst\u0101ma.<\/p>\n

Un m\u016bsu dz\u012bves pamat\u0101 ir M\u012blest\u012bba... Uz m\u016b\u017eu. Par izdz\u012bvo\u0161anu.<\/p>\n

M\u0113s v\u0113lamies dz\u012bvot dro\u0161i, \u0113rti un p\u0113c iesp\u0113jas mier\u012bg\u0101k un p\u0113c iesp\u0113jas ilg\u0101k. Atteikties no t\u0101 visa, bez argumentiem, k\u0101p\u0113c ir labi atteikties, var b\u016bt tikai piln\u012bgi nepr\u0101t\u012bgi. Kur\u0161 tik un t\u0101 k\u0101jas krat\u012bs k\u0101d\u0101 pamest\u0101 m\u0101j\u0101.<\/p>\n

(Ir dabiski padoties, sakot sev, ka b\u016bs lab\u0101k. Bet j\u016bs redz\u0113siet, ko es dom\u0101ju.)<\/p>\n

Aha. Mums pat\u012bk dz\u012bvot \u0113rti.
\nOho, tie ir jaunumi, kaptein Ac\u012bmredzamie!<\/p>\n

Es min\u0113\u0161u piem\u0113ru.<\/p>\n

Iedom\u0101jies, ka esi darbinieks k\u0101d\u0101 "UAB Niekam tu nerupi". J\u016bs nopeln\u0101t nabadz\u012bgu naudu, bet pietiekami visu m\u016b\u017eu. Bet slikt\u0101kais ir tas, ka, str\u0101d\u0101jot \u0161o darbu, nej\u016bta nek\u0101du laimi. Tu celies katru dienu t\u0101, it k\u0101 tu celtos uz k\u0101du darbu nometn\u0113 un taml\u012bdz\u012bgi.<\/p>\n

Jums ir divas izv\u0113les:<\/p>\n

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  1. Turpin\u0101t str\u0101d\u0101t par tr\u016bc\u012bgu atalgojumu, kas uztur tevi un tavu \u0123imeni, bet nej\u016btas laim\u012bgs (bet uztur visu \u0123imeni!);<\/li>\n
  2. Vai pamest darbu, pamest algu, aiziet dar\u012bt kaut ko, ko nezin\u0101t, nezin\u0101t, kur un nezin\u0101t, k\u0101, bez jebk\u0101das iesp\u0113jas atgriezties un k\u013c\u016bt varb\u016bt<\/em> Tiesa, bez naudas vispirms sava \u0123imene, un tad ar\u012b tu nomirsi bad\u0101 m\u0101j\u0101 bez apkures un elektr\u012bbas.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Hm K\u0101das divas pozit\u012bvas izv\u0113les, vai ne?<\/p>\n

    Iedom\u0101jieties, ka jums bija t\u0101da izv\u0113le. B\u016bt\u012bb\u0101 neskait\u0101miem cilv\u0113kiem vis\u0101 pasaul\u0113 ir \u0161\u0101da izv\u0113le, ta\u010du main\u0101s tikai situ\u0101cijas - darba viet\u0101 t\u0101s ir kaut k\u0101das b\u016bvin\u017eenieru studijas, studiju viet\u0101 varb\u016bt sliktas attiec\u012bbas, attiec\u012bbu viet\u0101, varb\u016bt briesm\u012bga pils\u0113ta vai k\u0101ds cits.<\/p>\n

    Ko tu izv\u0113lies?<\/p>\n

    Nu, tu atbild\u0113ji sav\u0101 pr\u0101t\u0101?<\/p>\n

    Labi, lieliski. Jo j\u016bsu atbilde \u0161oreiz bija nedaudz bezv\u0113rt\u012bga \u2013 galu gal\u0101, ja j\u016bs to vienk\u0101r\u0161i pateic\u0101t ska\u013ci, es to nevar\u0113tu dzird\u0113t caur gr\u0101matas vai datora lap\u0101m. \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n

    Bet nopietn\u0101k, pareiz\u0101 atbilde b\u016btu:<\/p>\n

    Es izv\u0113los to, uz ko man ir liel\u0101ka v\u0113lme un virz\u012bba.<\/p>\n

    Viss. Nek\u0101du "pagaidi, ir tre\u0161\u0101 iesp\u0113ja" vai taml\u012bdz\u012bgi - uzvar tas, kuru v\u0113laties visvair\u0101k.<\/p>\n

    Un ko tu gribi? Kuram priek\u0161metam jums bija liel\u0101ka v\u0113lme? Past\u0101v\u012bgam darbam vai riskantai laimei? Nop\u0113rc bageti un desu par p\u0101ris eiro, vai kas t\u0101 par Daniela Goriunova gr\u0101matu? Pirmaj\u0101 randi\u0146\u0101 nosk\u016bpst\u012bt savu pirmo m\u012blest\u012bbu vai nesk\u016bpst\u012bt?<\/p>\n

    Visas j\u016bsu dz\u012bves izv\u0113les l\u012bdz \u0161im, tagad un t\u0101s, kas b\u016bs n\u0101kotn\u0113, ir balst\u012btas uz v\u0113lmi. Vai ar\u012b lab\u0101kaj\u0101 gad\u012bjum\u0101, lai ar\u012b ne vienm\u0113r iesp\u0113jams, t\u012br\u0101kaj\u0101 l\u012bmen\u012b \u2013 M\u012blest\u012bba, v\u0113lme.<\/p>\n

    Ko tu v\u0113l\u0113jies vair\u0101k:<\/p>\n