{"id":2826,"date":"2017-07-05T11:49:01","date_gmt":"2017-07-05T08:49:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/danieliusg.lt\/?p=2826"},"modified":"2021-09-21T21:10:58","modified_gmt":"2021-09-21T18:10:58","slug":"santykiu-problemos","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/2017\/attiecibu-problemas\/","title":{"rendered":"Daniels run\u0101 ar sevi (par sav\u0101m attiec\u012bbu probl\u0113m\u0101m)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Dienas m\u0113r\u0137is: 1468 v\u0101rdi<\/a>. Rakst\u012bts: 984<\/b>.<\/p>\n

Ko tu j\u016bti, Daniel?<\/p>\n

Bailes. Trauksme.<\/p>\n

Kas tie\u0161i?<\/p>\n

Nu... man liekas... es nezinu, vai varu tev visu izst\u0101st\u012bt?<\/p>\n

J\u0101 tu vari! Uz priek\u0161u, te neviens tevi neties\u0101s.<\/p>\n

Tie\u0161i tad es j\u016btu \u0161aubas par sevi. Un bail par vi\u0146a attiec\u012bb\u0101m ar Je\u013cenu.<\/p>\n

Kas ir Elena?<\/p>\n

\u0160\u012b ir t\u0101da meitene, ar kuru es iepazinos apm\u0113ram pirms pusotra m\u0113ne\u0161a, un tad vi\u0146a piev\u0113rsa manu uzman\u012bbu. Negaid\u012bti, varb\u016bt mazliet \u0101tri, bet tom\u0113r pat\u012bkami un, man kontrol\u0113jot situ\u0101ciju, vi\u0146a pateica "j\u0101" manam l\u016bgumam p\u0101roties un tagad esam p\u0101ris.<\/p>\n

Jums ir ne\u0113rti un gr\u016bti run\u0101t par attiec\u012bb\u0101m, vai ne?<\/p>\n

Vai tu redzi? J\u0101, tas ir gr\u016bti. Man nav v\u0101rdu, lai to aprakst\u012btu. Man t\u0101s nedaudz pietr\u016bkst un... Tas ir kaut k\u0101 bied\u0113jo\u0161i. Vai \u0161\u012bs attiec\u012bbas b\u016bs ilgsto\u0161as?<\/p>\n

Papla\u0161in\u0101t?<\/p>\n

Nu, manas pazi\u0146as vienm\u0113r ir biju\u0161as divu veidu: a) t\u0101das, kur piedzimst un paliek draudz\u012bgas (ilgu laiku) un b) t\u0101das, kur piedzimst romantiski un tad l\u0113n\u0101m sabr\u016bk. Vai tas nav l\u0113n\u0101m?<\/p>\n

Vai j\u016bs baid\u0101ties no attiec\u012bbu sabrukuma ar Elenu?<\/p>\n

J\u0101, man ir bail. Baidos, ka atkal viss b\u016bs k\u0101 ar Mil\u0113nu. F\u016b, Mileta. Es jaucu v\u0101rdus.<\/p>\n

Nesteidzieties, nenervoz\u0113jieties, es klausos.<\/p>\n

Nu, baidos, ka kaut kas t\u0101ds atk\u0101rtosies. S\u0101kum\u0101 daudz m\u012blest\u012bbas un saiknes, bet p\u0113c pusgada pietr\u016bka paciet\u012bbas kaut ko dar\u012bt. D\u012bvaini, bet jau tagad j\u016btu to reto nesaska\u0146u un komunik\u0101cijas tr\u016bkumu ar Elenu. \u2026Lai gan vi\u0146as r\u016bpes ir tik burv\u012bgas\u2026<\/p>\n

Vai jums vienlaikus ir labas j\u016btas pret Elenu?<\/p>\n

Aha - vi\u0146as r\u016bpes, atbalsto\u0161ie v\u0101rdi un atbalsto\u0161ie piesk\u0101rieni man ir \u013coti svar\u012bgi. Es nezinu, vai tie ir svar\u012bgi, bet tie ir patie\u0161\u0101m jauki. \u2026 Hm, j\u0101, jaukie. Man ir labi, ja vi\u0146a ir k\u0101 kompanjons, k\u0101 atbalsto\u0161a m\u016bza.<\/p>\n

Bet da\u017ereiz kaut kas nav k\u0101rt\u012bb\u0101?<\/p>\n

J\u0101, da\u017ereiz kaut kas nav k\u0101rt\u012bb\u0101. Varb\u016bt mans pa\u0161apzi\u0146as tr\u016bkums \u0161eit ietekm\u0113jis...<\/p>\n

\u2026Vai kaut kas cits. Nenorakst\u012bsim slim\u012bbas tik \u0101tri.<\/p>\n

Nu vai kaut kas cits. Mutiski man da\u017ereiz ir gr\u016bti ar vi\u0146u run\u0101t un par\u0101d\u012bt vi\u0146ai savas j\u016btas. Reiz\u0113m vi\u0146a tos nemaz nesaprot \u2013 humoru pie\u0146em k\u0101 patiesu apgalvojumu, un uz svar\u012bg\u0101m s\u0101p\u0113m atbild \u201cTev pa\u0161am j\u0101risina, es tev nepal\u012bdz\u0113\u0161u\u201d.<\/p>\n

Vai vi\u0146a to teica?<\/p>\n

N\u0113, vi\u0146\u0161 dro\u0161i vien neteica. Vismaz es neatceros. Es tikai p\u0101rfr\u0101z\u0113ju.<\/p>\n

Varb\u016bt tie\u0161i \u0161eit j\u016bsu p\u0101rfr\u0101z\u0113\u0161ana nodara kait\u0113jumu? Un vai var b\u016bt, ka j\u016bs nesaprotat El\u0113nas j\u016btas?<\/p>\n

Hmm... J\u0101, t\u0101 var b\u016bt! T\u0101p\u0113c es patiesi cen\u0161os ar vi\u0146u run\u0101t...<\/p>\n

Kaut kas notika?<\/p>\n

\u2026J\u0101, es atcer\u0113jos, ko biju dom\u0101jis iepriek\u0161. Es tik \u013coti cen\u0161os pazi\u0146ot par vi\u0146as j\u016bt\u0101m un uztraucos par vi\u0146as labkl\u0101j\u012bbu, ka es var\u0113tu aizmirst sevi. Piem\u0113ram, \u0161obr\u012bd es dom\u0101ju, ko vi\u0146a dar\u012btu, ja izlas\u012btu \u0161os v\u0101rdus. Un es biju dom\u0101jusi, ka \u0161\u012bs p\u0101rm\u0113r\u012bg\u0101s r\u016bpes liek vi\u0146ai par mani ner\u016bp\u0113ties pret\u012b \u2013 es vienm\u0113r esmu blakus, vienalga, vai vi\u0146a m\u0113\u0123ina vai n\u0113. Tev vienk\u0101r\u0161i vi\u0146ai j\u0101pasaka, ka ir slikti un es esmu blakus. K\u0101 b\u0113rns.<\/p>\n

M\u0113s attiec\u012bb\u0101s uzsit\u0101m j\u016bt\u012bgu noti?<\/p>\n

Aha. Man \u0161\u0137iet, ka da\u017ereiz es pazaud\u0113ju sevi. Pie\u013caujot daudz kompromisu vi\u0146as lab\u0101. Dodot vi\u0146ai laiku, ko es var\u0113tu velt\u012bt darbam (lai gan tas nav nekas slikts, St\u012bvens Kings ir teicis, ka "Dz\u012bve nav atbalsta sist\u0113ma rakst\u012b\u0161anai, rakst\u012b\u0161ana ir atbalsta sist\u0113ma dz\u012bvei" - dz\u012bve ir svar\u012bg\u0101ka par darbu), dodot vi\u0146as uzman\u012bbu, lai piepild\u012btu vi\u0146as v\u0113lmes. M\u0113\u0123ina pal\u012bdz\u0113t ar piesk\u0101rieniem, labu seksu, idej\u0101m interesant\u0101m un jaun\u0101m aktivit\u0101t\u0113m... Un vi\u0146\u0161 nezina, ko sa\u0146em pret\u012b.<\/p>\n

Vai jums \u0161\u0137iet, ka k\u013c\u016bst par maz?<\/p>\n

M\u0113dz teikt, ka pats svar\u012bg\u0101kais lab\u0101s attiec\u012bb\u0101s ir tad, kad p\u0101ris viens no otra neko negaida. Es izlas\u012bju \u0161o par Tiny Buddha tie\u0161i \u0161odien.<\/p>\n

T\u0101 nav atbilde uz jaut\u0101jumu.<\/p>\n

J\u0101, man liekas, ka man san\u0101k par maz. Bet taj\u0101 pa\u0161\u0101 laik\u0101 man ir bail \u2013 man ta\u010du to nevajadz\u0113tu grib\u0113t, vai ne?<\/p>\n

Es nevaru jums sniegt atbildes, es varu tikai jaut\u0101t. Kas, tavupr\u0101t, tev \u0161obr\u012bd ir visvair\u0101k vajadz\u012bgs?<\/p>\n

es nezinu. Iesp\u0113jams, ka esmu kop\u0101 ar sevi un z\u012bme no Je\u013cenas, ka es vi\u0146ai patie\u0161\u0101m ir svar\u012bgs -<\/p>\n

Vai tie\u0161\u0101m j\u016bs dom\u0101jat, ka vislab\u0101k ir gaid\u012bt, kam\u0113r Elena pazi\u0146os, ka esat vi\u0146as cien\u012bgs?<\/p>\n

\u2026 Uhh. Tagad, kad tu to saki... Varb\u016bt nav laba doma past\u0101v\u012bgi mekl\u0113t atbalstu pie cita cilv\u0113ka. Varb\u016bt tad vajadz\u0113tu piev\u0113rst sev vair\u0101k uzman\u012bbas, k\u0101 to iesaka Tiny Buddha st\u0101sti, un turpin\u0101t uztic\u0113ties sav\u0101m sp\u0113j\u0101m.<\/p>\n

K\u0101 j\u016bs to var\u0113j\u0101t izdar\u012bt?<\/p>\n

es nezinu.<\/p>\n

Ko tad v\u0113l var dar\u012bt?<\/p>\n

P\u0113c tam varu atz\u012bties Elenai, ka da\u017ereiz neesmu tik p\u0101rliecin\u0101ta un da\u017ereiz atkal k\u013c\u016bstu par to mazo Danielu, kur\u0161 past\u0101v\u012bgi prasa uzman\u012bbu un atbalstu. "Vai viss ir k\u0101rt\u012bb\u0101? Vai tas ir labi? vai es tev pat\u012bku Ko tu tagad dom\u0101? Vai man tagad pat\u012bk lab\u0101k? Vai tu mani m\u012bli? m\u012bl\u0113simies Vai v\u0113laties palikt kop\u0101? Nem\u0113\u0123inot kaut ko no vi\u0146as dab\u016bt \u0101r\u0101, bet vienk\u0101r\u0161i. Es da\u017ereiz iem\u012blos \u0161im Danielam. Da\u017ereiz es piln\u012bb\u0101 uzticos, bet da\u017ereiz es kr\u012btu. Un viens no \u0161iem minimumiem ir tagad. Vienk\u0101r\u0161i. Es dom\u0101ju, ka t\u0101p\u0113c, ka vi\u0146a mani m\u012bl, un vi\u0146a to teica... Pala, es pat s\u0101ku vair\u0101k uztic\u0113ties sev *smejas*.<\/p>\n

Turpini *smaida*.<\/p>\n

Es dom\u0101ju, ka, t\u0101 k\u0101 vi\u0146a mani m\u012bl, vi\u0146a saprat\u012bs. Un ja tu nesaproti - man b\u016bs skaidr\u0101k vai-<\/p>\n

Hmm... Vai tie\u0161\u0101m j\u016bs dom\u0101jat, ka ir labi \u0161\u0101dus nosac\u012bjumus izvirz\u012bt pirms jaut\u0101juma? Vai esat aizmirsis, ko rakst\u012bj\u0101t sav\u0101 rakst\u0101 "K\u0101p\u0113c ir svar\u012bgi neko nesagaid\u012bt"?<\/p>\n

Hm Pa labi. Varb\u016bt tad es nejaut\u0101ju nek\u0101dos apst\u0101k\u013cos. Ak, tas ir, man k\u013c\u016bst mazliet miegains - es to neteik\u0161u ar nosac\u012bjumiem. Un glu\u017ei k\u0101 gr\u0113ks\u016bdze. T\u0101pat k\u0101 atz\u012bties, ka nakt\u012b no piektdienas uz tre\u0161dienu gul\u0113ju ar citu meiteni.<\/p>\n

\u2026Tu gul\u0113ji ar citu meiteni \u2013 ne El\u0113nu?<\/p>\n

Protams tas ir! Vi\u0146u bija daudz. Tiesa, \u0161o pusotru m\u0113nesi, kam\u0113r paz\u012bstu vi\u0146u, neesmu gul\u0113jusi. Un es netaisos to lauzt \u2013 es zinu, cik \u013coti man pa\u0161ai s\u0101p\u0113tu, ja vi\u0146a p\u0101rgul\u0113tu ar k\u0101du no pui\u0161iem, kas vi\u0146u sa\u010dakar\u0113. F\u016b\u2026<\/p>\n

Vai tav\u0101 bals\u012b dzirdu greizsird\u012bbu?<\/p>\n

J\u0101 nedaudz. Es j\u016btos greizsird\u012bgs. Vi\u0146a ir mana draudzene, sasod\u012bts! Un es ceru, ka vi\u0146a nepiespied\u012bs k\u0101dus idiotus ar ies\u0113t\u0101m bumbi\u0146\u0101m, lai k\u0101d\u0101 no t\u0101m ball\u012bt\u0113m vi\u0146ai nodar\u012btu ko sliktu - nek\u0101du izvaro\u0161anu vai taml\u012bdz\u012bgu. Paz\u012bstot vi\u0146u, vi\u0146a var\u0113tu spont\u0101ni kaut ko izdom\u0101t... Bet es ticu, ka nep\u0101rgul\u0113t. Dro\u0161i vien.<\/p>\n

Hm J\u016bs atkal izklaus\u0101ties mazliet nedro\u0161i.<\/p>\n

Aha. Galu gal\u0101 es par vi\u0146u to v\u0113l nezinu, neesmu pajaut\u0101jusi *smaida*. Bet pagaidiet, k\u0101 t\u0113ma \u0161eit nok\u013cuva?<\/p>\n

L\u0113n\u0101m tas k\u013cuva *smejas*. T\u0101tad, k\u0101 j\u016bs tagad j\u016btaties? Vai j\u016bs joproj\u0101m j\u016btat kaut ko nepareizi sev\u012b? Varb\u016bt v\u0113l kaut kas pietr\u016bkst?<\/p>\n

N\u0113, nekas nepar\u0101d\u0101s. Man vienk\u0101r\u0161i dro\u0161i vien j\u0101atgrie\u017eas pie darba, j\u0101rada kaut kas fantastisks, j\u0101izdara kaut kas traks (Varb\u016bt r\u012bt vienatn\u0113 j\u0101iet geocaching?) un viss b\u016bs k\u0101rt\u012bb\u0101. Ar\u012b past\u0101st\u012bt Elenai savu b\u0113du, ka reiz\u0113m j\u016btos v\u0101ja, bet tas p\u0101riet, ja varu izk\u0101pt no komforta zonas un p\u0101rvar\u0113t. Un tagad es dro\u0161i vien grib\u0113tu tikai gul\u0113t. Pils\u0113t\u0101 aiz loga ma\u0161\u012bnas jau kustas uz r\u012bta darbu. Man ar\u012b laiks iet gul\u0113t.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Dienas m\u0113r\u0137is: 1468 v\u0101rdi<\/a>. Rakst\u012bts: 984<\/b>.<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":15444,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[2,69,47],"class_list":{"0":"post-2826","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-pamastymai","8":"tag-365-tekstai","9":"tag-meile","10":"tag-santykiai"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2826","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2826"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2826\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/15444"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2826"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2826"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2826"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}