{"id":2825,"date":"2017-07-06T11:21:44","date_gmt":"2017-07-06T08:21:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/danieliusg.lt\/?p=2825"},"modified":"2021-09-25T01:20:51","modified_gmt":"2021-09-24T22:20:51","slug":"klausimai-sau","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/2017\/jautajumi-sev\/","title":{"rendered":"Jaut\u0101jumi, kurus uzdodu sev"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"font-size: 0.8em;\">Dienas m\u0113r\u0137is: <a style=\"border: none;\" href=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/issukis-365\/\">1483 v\u0101rdi<\/a>. Rakst\u012bts: <b>675<\/b>.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"font-size: 1.15em;\">Pag\u0101ju\u0161\u0101 gada novembr\u012b es sapratu: mana trak\u0101 aizrau\u0161an\u0101s ar sieviet\u0113m nav vesel\u012bga. \u0160\u012b aps\u0113st\u012bba aizpild\u012bt man\u012b k\u0101du tuk\u0161umu\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u2026es vispirms sarun\u0101ju tik\u0161anos ar psihoterapeitu. Eksistenci\u0101lisma virziens, jo eksistences jaut\u0101jumi man rad\u0101s vienm\u0113r.<\/p>\n<p>(\u017d\u0113l, ka agr\u0101k nebija psihoterapeita - dom\u0101ju, ka katram vajag, k\u0101 ar\u012b person\u012bgo \u0123imenes \u0101rstu.)<\/p>\n<p>\u2026Tik\u0161an\u0101s ar psihoterapeitiem, cik es zinu, vienm\u0113r nav veids, k\u0101 ieg\u016bt nor\u0101d\u012bjumus, k\u0101 r\u012bkoties. T\u0101 vair\u0101k ir saruna ar savu dv\u0113seli ar gida pal\u012bdz\u012bbu. Es neizb\u0113gami s\u0101ku sev uzdot jaut\u0101jumus.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Es savus jaut\u0101jumus pierakst\u012bju elektronisk\u0101 piez\u012bmju gr\u0101mati\u0146\u0101. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u0160eit tie ir rakst\u012bti 6 ned\u0113\u013cu psihoterapijas kursa laik\u0101, necenz\u0113ti:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>K\u0101p\u0113c es baidos, ka cilv\u0113ki ar mani nav l\u012bdz galam atkl\u0101ti un kaut ko sl\u0113pj?<\/li>\n<li>K\u0101p\u0113c es baidos, ka meitenes nav man atv\u0113rtas?<\/li>\n<li>K\u0101p\u0113c man \u0161\u0137iet, ka attiec\u012bb\u0101s man j\u0101dara kaut kas vair\u0101k?<\/li>\n<li>K\u0101p\u0113c es nej\u016btos apmierin\u0101ts ar to, kas esmu, vienk\u0101r\u0161i atrodoties \u0161eit?<\/li>\n<li>K\u0101p\u0113c es vienm\u0113r gribu vair\u0101k un vair\u0101k uzman\u012bbas un\u2026<\/li>\n<li>\u2026romantiski spr\u0101dzieni?<\/li>\n<li>\u2026Skaisti sk\u016bpsti, skatieni, mirk\u013ci?<\/li>\n<li>\u2026Piesk\u0101rieni un sekss?<\/li>\n<li>K\u0101p\u0113c man pat\u012bk, ja es kaut kur aizvedu meiteni, bet p\u0113c tam pat\u012bk, kad vi\u0146a domin\u0113 gult\u0101? Vai sadomazohistisk\u0101s attiec\u012bbas ir vesel\u012bgas m\u012blest\u012bbas izpausme? Vai t\u0101 ir vesel\u012bga m\u012blest\u012bba?<\/li>\n<li>K\u0101p\u0113c es gribu Elenu?<\/li>\n<li>Vai esmu pietiekami v\u012bri\u0161\u0137\u012bgs? Pietiekami stiprs, lai dz\u012bvotu vienatn\u0113?<\/li>\n<li>Vai es apzinos citu cilv\u0113ku emocijas? Vai es vi\u0146us redzu?<\/li>\n<li>Vai es aizvainoju citus cilv\u0113kus?<\/li>\n<li>Vai apvainot citus ir slikti?<\/li>\n<li>Vai es visp\u0101r varu aizvainot citus? Vai ar\u012b t\u0101 ir da\u013ca no vi\u0146u attiec\u012bb\u0101m?<\/li>\n<li>Ja es esmu atv\u0113rts citiem, k\u0101p\u0113c es neesmu atv\u0113rts sev?<\/li>\n<li>\u2026Vai es esmu atv\u0113rts citiem?<\/li>\n<li>Vai es veltu uzman\u012bbu un laiku tikai tad, kad v\u0113los kaut ko atg\u016bt no apk\u0101rt\u0113jiem?<\/li>\n<li>\u2026Vai t\u0101 ir da\u013ca no lab\u0101m attiec\u012bb\u0101m?<\/li>\n<li>\u2026Vai ar\u012b j\u0101dod, neko negaidot?<\/li>\n<li>\u2026K\u0101 dot neko negaidot?<\/li>\n<li>Ko dar\u012bt, ja es dodu p\u0101r\u0101k maz?<\/li>\n<li>Ja nu es vi\u0146ai nepat\u012bku?<\/li>\n<li>Man ir teikts, ka man s\u0101p p\u0113cpuse \u2013 vai man s\u0101p p\u0113cpuse?<\/li>\n<li>Vai nemit\u012bg\u0101 triku &quot;K\u0101...&quot; \u0137er\u0161ana un izmanto\u0161ana manipul\u0101cij\u0101m ir k\u013cuvusi par tik sliktu ieradumu, ka es vairs nevaru sazin\u0101ties, neizmantojot to?<\/li>\n<li>Vai es tus\u0113jos ar Je\u013cenu t\u0101p\u0113c, ka man vajadz\u0113ja seksu, uzman\u012bbu, romantikas devu \u2014 t\u0101s sasod\u012bti jauk\u0101s narkotikas \u2014 vai t\u0101p\u0113c, ka vi\u0146a ir vienk\u0101r\u0161i for\u0161a, m\u012b\u013ca, jauka meitene, draudzene?<\/li>\n<li>Vai draudz\u012bba ir attiec\u012bbu pamats? Vai t\u0101 s\u0101kas labas attiec\u012bbas?<\/li>\n<li>Vai visas m\u0101c\u012bbas par meite\u0146u piesaist\u012b\u0161anu mani sagr\u0101va un p\u0101rv\u0113rta par nedro\u0161u putru?<\/li>\n<li>Vai \u0161\u012bs meitenes lika man sniegt nepatiesus uzskatus?<\/li>\n<li>Vai es izv\u0113l\u0113jos savas iepriek\u0161\u0113j\u0101s draudzenes un simp\u0101tiju, jo vi\u0146i bija skaisti t\u0113li? Nevis smiekl\u012bgi, gudri, gudri, vienm\u0113r ir-ko-parun\u0101t-un-izdar\u012bt-traku-izaicin\u0101t-kop\u0101, bet vienk\u0101r\u0161i izskat\u012bgs, gl\u012bti \u0123\u0113rbies, iespaid\u012bgs m\u0101kslinieks, dejot\u0101js, skolot\u0101js, k\u0101ds cits darbs??<\/li>\n<li>Vai svar\u012bg\u0101k ir veidot draudz\u012bbu, jo, veidojot draudz\u012bbu, tu vienm\u0113r ieg\u016bsi draugu, bet v\u0113l\u0101k, iem\u012bloties vienam otr\u0101, partneri, ar kuru b\u016bs labi ne tikai Facebook v\u0101ka bild\u0113?<\/li>\n<li>Vai PUA bied\u0113\u0161ana &quot;Baidieties no drauga zonas&quot; ir tikai slikts padoms? Naid\u012bgs?<\/li>\n<li>\u2026Vai tas ir slikti, ja tu jau esi p\u0101rliecin\u0101ts un nebaidies r\u012bkoties?<\/li>\n<li>Vai es v\u0113l\u0113jos izveidot \u0123imeni, rad\u012bt b\u0113rnus, jo tas patie\u0161\u0101m padar\u012btu j\u0113gpilnu manas aktivit\u0101tes, darbu un centienus nopeln\u012bt?<\/li>\n<li>Varb\u016bt man vispirms - pirms kaut ko mekl\u0113t - vajadz\u0113tu sev izvirz\u012bt skaidrus m\u0113r\u0137us, kurus sievietes vienk\u0101r\u0161i nesp\u0113s main\u012bt?<\/li>\n<li>Vai varb\u016bt es neredzu savu j\u0113gu un p\u0113d\u0113jos gadus mekl\u0113ju p\u0101ris pa visiem iepaz\u012b\u0161an\u0101s kan\u0101liem, jo man pietr\u016bka k\u0101da, kas k\u013c\u016btu par manu m\u0113r\u0137u valdnieku?<\/li>\n<li>Varb\u016bt \u0161\u012b v\u0113lme b\u016bt kop\u0101 ar k\u0101du bija iek\u0161\u0113ja vajadz\u012bba b\u016bt vajadz\u012bgam?<\/li>\n<li>Vai sp\u0113c\u012bgas romantiskas attiec\u012bbas rodas no draudz\u012bbas?<\/li>\n<li>Vai varb\u016bt viss s\u0101kas vienk\u0101r\u0161i no draudz\u012bgas pazi\u0146as s\u0101kuma?<\/li>\n<li>Vai mana v\u0113lme p\u0113c m\u0113ne\u0161a piezvan\u012bt Elenai, manas fant\u0101zijas par to, k\u0101 vi\u0146a atbild\u0113s, k\u0101 pateiks N\u0112 vai k\u0101 tiksimies, par ko run\u0101sim, kad satiksimies, kas notiks, kad tik\u0161an\u0101s beigsies un la, la, la - visas t\u0101s fant\u0101zijas ir labas? Vai varb\u016bt tas ir slikti, un man par to nevajadz\u0113tu pat dom\u0101t?<\/li>\n<li>K\u0101p\u0113c El\u0113nas ieraksts Instagram padara mani tik \u013coti salauztu un ilgu\/dusmu pilnu?<\/li>\n<li>K\u0101p\u0113c es jutos tik m\u012b\u013ca un s\u0101p\u012bga, kad ieraudz\u012bju m\u016bsu kop\u012bg\u0101s fotogr\u0101fijas Palang\u0101 un sav\u0101s m\u0101j\u0101s?<\/li>\n<li>\u2026K\u0101p\u0113c man ir tik gr\u016bti par to dom\u0101t tagad, un es gribu to atstumt, piepild\u012bt ar las\u012b\u0161anu, darbu vai seri\u0101liem?<\/li>\n<li>Vai mana v\u0113lme satikt vi\u0146u k\u0101 draugus un atkal iem\u012bl\u0113ties... Pie velna, t\u0101 v\u0113lme patur\u0113t t\u0113ti\/mammu\/gl\u0101b\u0161anas l\u012bniju... T\u0101 nav zudusi. T\u0101 ir t\u0101 pati v\u0113lme!<\/li>\n<li>Ar\u012b nemit\u012bg\u0101 atvaino\u0161an\u0101s man\u0101 pr\u0101t\u0101 par vi\u0146as nodar\u012b\u0161anu ir t\u0101da pati v\u0113lme vi\u0146u ietekm\u0113t un manipul\u0113t! \u2026Tas ir tik!?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Es jau sen tic\u0113ju, ka jaut\u0101jumi ved uz atbild\u0113m. Es joproj\u0101m mekl\u0113ju atbildes uz da\u017eiem no \u0161iem jaut\u0101jumiem.<\/p>\n<p><strong>- Daniels, <\/strong><br \/>\n2017.\u00a0gada j\u016blijs<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p style=\"font-size: 0.8em;\">Dienas m\u0113r\u0137is: <a style=\"border: none;\" href=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/issukis-365\/\">1483 v\u0101rdi<\/a>. Rakst\u012bts: <b>675<\/b>.<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":15438,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[2,86],"class_list":{"0":"post-2825","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-pamastymai","8":"tag-365-tekstai","9":"tag-saves-pazinimas"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2825","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2825"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2825\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/15438"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2825"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2825"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2825"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}