{"id":1942,"date":"2017-03-25T12:15:29","date_gmt":"2017-03-25T09:15:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/danieliusg.lt\/?p=1942"},"modified":"2021-09-28T18:24:54","modified_gmt":"2021-09-28T15:24:54","slug":"meiles-analize","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/2017\/meiles-analyse\/","title":{"rendered":"M\u012blest\u012bbas anal\u012bze: k\u0101p\u0113c m\u0113s iem\u012blamies? <i>(Nesl\u012bp\u0113ti apsv\u0113rumi un iesp\u0113ja diskusijai)<\/i>"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"font-size: 0.8em;\">Dienas m\u0113r\u0137is: <a style=\"border: none;\" href=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/issukis-365\/\">532 v\u0101rdi<\/a>. Rakst\u012bts: <b>659<\/b>.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"font-size: 1.15em;\">Ja j\u016bs las\u0101t \u0161o tekstu, tas noz\u012bm\u0113, ka man pietiekami labi patika tas, ko es uzrakst\u012bju, vai ar\u012b es dom\u0101ju, ka j\u016bs varat sniegt atbildes un inform\u0101ciju, ko es mekl\u0113ju uz tekst\u0101 uzdotajiem jaut\u0101jumiem.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>M\u012blest\u012bba.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/kas-yra-meile\/\">P\u0113d\u0113j\u0101 v\u0113stul\u0113 m\u0113s m\u0113\u0123in\u0101j\u0101m noskaidrot, kas tas ir.<\/a> M\u0113s cent\u0101mies rast lo\u0123isku atbildi. Un m\u0113s atrad\u0101m savu atbildi.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">Tom\u0113r\u2026<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">Ar ko m\u012blest\u012bba at\u0161\u0137iras no iem\u012bl\u0113\u0161an\u0101s?<br \/>\nAr ko iem\u012bl\u0113\u0161an\u0101s at\u0161\u0137iras no iem\u012bl\u0113\u0161an\u0101s?<br \/>\nAr ko apbr\u012bna at\u0161\u0137iras no kaisles?<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">Ar ko kaisle at\u0161\u0137iras no m\u012blest\u012bbas?<\/p>\n<p>M\u012blest\u012bba ir sare\u017e\u0123\u012bta emocija (vai varb\u016bt lab\u0101k to raksturot k\u0101 saj\u016btu - s\u0101pes nav emocija, t\u0101s ir tikai saj\u016bta), p\u0113c kuras visi ilgojas. Cilv\u0113ki, kuri netiecas p\u0113c m\u012blest\u012bbas, labi, kuri apgalvo, ka vi\u0146i p\u0113c t\u0101s netiecas, melo. Cit\u0101di tas nav iesp\u0113jams.<\/p>\n<p>K\u0101p\u0113c?<\/p>\n<p>Nu... es nezinu. Es vienk\u0101r\u0161i j\u016btu - galu gal\u0101, vajadz\u0113tu b\u016bt t\u0101, ka visi v\u0113las m\u012blest\u012bbu, vai nav cit\u0101di? Galu gal\u0101 t\u0101 ir tik jauka saj\u016bta, ka t\u0101 ir pat jauk\u0101ka par to, ko m\u0113s izj\u016btam, kad ap\u0113dam visgar\u0161\u012bg\u0101ko sald\u0113jumu vai vecm\u0101mi\u0146as ceptu kugeli. Pat\u012bkam\u0101ka nek\u0101 miegs un pat\u012bkam\u0101ka nek\u0101 vienk\u0101r\u0161i sekss.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">...Lai gan j\u016bs var\u0113tu iebilst. Ja dom\u0101jat cit\u0101di, past\u0101stiet man, mani tas interes\u0113.<\/p>\n<p>M\u012blest\u012bba. Apskat\u012bsim laikus, kad es biju iem\u012bl\u0113jies, un m\u0113\u0123in\u0101sim noskaidrot, kad man\u012b dzima \u0161\u012bs j\u016btas. Es nesp\u0113ju iejusties citu cilv\u0113ku \u0137erme\u0146os, t\u0101p\u0113c piedodiet man - tas b\u016bs piln\u012bgi subjekt\u012bvi. Bet es dom\u0101ju, ka varu run\u0101t tikai par sevi, jo esmu diezgan viduv\u0113ja cilv\u0113ku cilts p\u0101rst\u0101ve.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">(Vai varb\u016bt es neesmu, bet atkal - past\u0101stiet man, ja esat.)<\/p>\n<h2>Meitenes, kur\u0101s iem\u012bl\u0113j\u0101s Daniels<\/h2>\n<p>Piedodiet man, jo es nezinu, vai es vi\u0146us patie\u0161\u0101m m\u012bl\u0113ju. Tas ir tas, ko es saku, vienk\u0101r\u0161i \"iem\u012bl\u0113ju\". L\u016bk, kas notika.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Pirmk\u0101rt. Gerda.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Es vi\u0146u satiku drauga dzim\u0161anas dienas ball\u012bt\u0113. Vi\u0146a bija interesanta meitene, un man patika ar vi\u0146u sarun\u0101ties un t\u0113rz\u0113t interneta valod\u0101 - tobr\u012bd vi\u0146a bija vien\u012bg\u0101, kas mani saprata. Es ar vi\u0146u daudz run\u0101ju Skype (aha, atceraties, kad tas bija svar\u012bgi?), m\u0113s pat rakst\u012bj\u0101m rom\u0101nu, p\u0101rmai\u0146us rakstot varo\u0146u darb\u012bbas.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">Vi\u0146a nebija mana draudzene. Bet es biju iem\u012bl\u0113jies vi\u0146\u0101, kad man bija gandr\u012bz 19 gadi.<\/p>\n<p>K\u0101du vakaru p\u0113c pas\u0101kuma, autobusa pietur\u0101 gaidot autobusu, es piesardz\u012bgi ierosin\u0101ju, ka m\u0113s kop\u0101 iesim uz te\u0101tri. Vi\u0146a teica, ka v\u0113las palikt draudzene. Es neatceros, k\u0101 m\u0113s p\u0113c tam atvad\u012bj\u0101mies.<\/p>\n<p>Tad es uzzin\u0101ju, ka es vi\u0146u nemaz neinteres\u0113ju un ka vi\u0146a ir aizr\u0101vusies ar manu lab\u0101ko draugu. Tas nedaudz saboj\u0101ja apbr\u012bnu.<\/p>\n<p>P\u0113c tam apm\u0113ram m\u0113nesi es biju neapmierin\u0101ta un mekl\u0113ju veidus, k\u0101 izk\u013c\u016bt no draugu zonas. T\u0101 es non\u0101cu iepaz\u012b\u0161an\u0101s un pa\u0161nov\u0113rt\u0113juma inform\u0101cijas pasaul\u0113 un s\u0101ku att\u0101lin\u0101ties no interneta un videosp\u0113l\u0113m.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Otrais. Laima.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Iepazinos ar vi\u0146u Facebook, t\u0101pat k\u0101 iepazinos ar Gerdu. Laimonu, izr\u0101d\u0101s, es jau biju redz\u0113jis da\u017eus m\u0113ne\u0161us iepriek\u0161, draugu diskusij\u0101s. Ar\u012b vi\u0146a bija meitene, kas dz\u012bvoja internet\u0101 un kurai patika Nyan Cat meme un citi taml\u012bdz\u012bgi.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">Vi\u0146a k\u013cuva par manu draudzeni. Pirm\u0101, kuru es nosk\u016bpst\u012bju 19 gadu vecum\u0101.<\/p>\n<p>Iesp\u0113jams, ka ar Laimonu es nodz\u012bvoju apm\u0113ram 3-4 m\u0113ne\u0161us, galvenok\u0101rt t\u0101p\u0113c, ka tas bija kaut kas jauns! Ugh! Pats s\u0101kums! Tad m\u0113s iz\u0161\u0137\u012br\u0101mies, kad man apnika un es teicu, ka pietiek. Es joproj\u0101m nesaprotu, k\u0101p\u0113c es to izdar\u012bju.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Tre\u0161ais. Tilda.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Vi\u0146a bija pirm\u0101, kurai bija piedz\u012bvojumi gult\u0101. Hm. Tie nebija ilgi.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ceturt\u0101. Mileta.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>T\u0101s bija visilg\u0101k\u0101s attiec\u012bbas. Un vi\u0146a, iesp\u0113jams, ir pirm\u0101, par kuru var teikt, ka es vi\u0146u patie\u0161\u0101m m\u012bl\u0113ju. Ne kaisl\u012bgi, bet piln\u012bgi. G\u0101d\u012bgi.<\/p>\n<p>Nesen las\u012bju\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/psichika.eu\/blog\/kas-tai-meile-ar-priklausomybe\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Brendas \u0160eferes (Brenda Schaeffer) gr\u0101mata \"Kas t\u0101 ir - m\u012blest\u012bba vai atkar\u012bba?\"<\/a>\u00a0un \u0161aj\u0101 gr\u0101mat\u0101 autors (starp citu, \u012bsts psihologs, nevis k\u0101ds v\u0113disko un NLP m\u012blo\u0161s \u0101rpr\u0101t\u012bgais) apraksta at\u0161\u0137ir\u012bbas starp \"m\u012blest\u012bbas\" piepras\u012b\u0161anu un t\u0101s do\u0161anu.<\/p>\n<p>Ar Militu es ar prieku atdevu vi\u0146ai visu sevi - tik daudz, cik man bija.<\/p>\n<p>Tad m\u0113s iz\u0161\u0137\u012br\u0101mies, jo Mileta bija gul\u0113jusi ar citu puisi un p\u0113c atz\u012b\u0161an\u0101s nol\u0113ma, ka lab\u0101k izbeigt attiec\u012bbas. Varb\u016bt mazliet negrib\u012bgi, bet es piekritu - galu gal\u0101 es nevaru vi\u0146u tur\u0113t piespiedu k\u0101rt\u0101.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Piektais...\u00a0<\/strong><strong>Un citi.<\/strong><strong>..<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Kuru es apbr\u012bnoju jau tad, kad ne tik \u013coti. Viss, ko es mekl\u0113ju, \u0161\u0137ir\u0161an\u0101s no Miletas, divi gadi skrie\u0161anas p\u0113c interesant\u0101ka sv\u0101rka.<\/p>\n<p>Ne p\u0101r\u0101k pat\u012bkamas attiec\u012bbas. Es neatceros daudzas no t\u0101m - t\u0101s bija tik \u012bsas.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">Un tad rodas jaut\u0101jums, kad attiec\u012bbas bija vislab\u0101k\u0101s?<br \/>\nKad es piedz\u012bvoju patiesu m\u012blest\u012bbu?<br \/>\nUn kas ir \u0161\u012b m\u012blest\u012bba?<\/p>\n<p>\u0160\u0137iet, ka tas dod. Pa\u0161aizliedz\u012bba. Galu gal\u0101, t\u0101s bija visilg\u0101k\u0101s attiec\u012bbas, k\u0101das jebkad biju\u0161as, un, iesp\u0113jams, l\u012bdz pa\u0161\u0101m beig\u0101m ar\u012b vispat\u012bkam\u0101k\u0101s.<\/p>\n<p>Bet vai j\u016bs neatdodat p\u0101r\u0101k daudz no sevis? Vai tad j\u016bs nek\u013c\u016bsiet par otra cilv\u0113ka mazul\u012bgo b\u0113rnu, kuru j\u016bs nemaz nev\u0113laties m\u012bl\u0113t? Vai dal\u012b\u0161an\u0101s patie\u0161\u0101m ir atbilde?<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">...Iesp\u0113jams, koplieto\u0161ana<strong>m\u0101sa<\/strong><strong>?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>K\u0101 j\u016bs dom\u0101jat? K\u0101das ir j\u016bsu atbildes un domas par pat\u012bkam\u0101ko saj\u016btu, ko m\u0113s varam izjust?<\/p>\n<p>Mulsina,<br \/>\n<strong>Daniels<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p style=\"font-size: 0.8em;\">Dienas m\u0113r\u0137is: <a style=\"border: none;\" href=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/issukis-365\/\">532 v\u0101rdi<\/a>. 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