{"id":13751,"date":"2019-11-06T13:02:00","date_gmt":"2019-11-06T10:02:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/?p=13751"},"modified":"2021-07-07T18:30:13","modified_gmt":"2021-07-07T15:30:13","slug":"kaip-as-isejau-is-draugu-zonos-bei-suviliojau-savo-svajoniu-moteri","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/2019\/ka-es-izkapu-no-draugu-zonas-un-savaldzinaju-manu-sapnu-sievieti\/","title":{"rendered":"K\u0101 es izk\u013cuvu no "Draugu zonas" un savaldzin\u0101ju savu sap\u0146u sievieti?"},"content":{"rendered":"

ES zinu to saj\u016btu. J\u016bs satik\u0101t tik br\u012bni\u0161\u0137\u012bgu cilv\u0113ku. Tu biji uz da\u017eiem randi\u0146iem. Varb\u016bt j\u016bs pat sk\u016bpst\u012bj\u0101ties vai dar\u012bj\u0101t v\u0113l to un to...<\/p>\n

...Un tad j\u016bs dzird\u0113j\u0101t "lab\u0101k vienk\u0101r\u0161i palikt draugiem".<\/p>\n

Ko dar\u012bt?<\/p>\n

Nu, ir da\u017ei fakti:<\/p>\n

    \n
  1. Nevienam tevi nav j\u0101m\u012bl. J\u016bs tam piekr\u012btat, vai ne?<\/li>\n
  2. T\u0101tad ar\u012b vi\u0146ai\/vi\u0146ai nav tevi j\u0101m\u012bl. T\u0101 ir taisn\u012bba, vai ne?<\/li>\n
  3. Tas, ka jums tie pat\u012bk, nenoz\u012bm\u0113, ka jums vi\u0146iem vajadz\u0113tu patikt. Tas ir fakts, vai ne?<\/li>\n
  4. Ja j\u016bs m\u0113\u0123in\u0101t piespiest vi\u0146u kaut ko dar\u012bt ar jums - pat ja tas ir "lab\u0101ks variants" -, t\u0101 ir izvaro\u0161ana. Es dom\u0101ju, ka tu ar\u012b piekristu, ka negrib\u0113tu b\u016bt piespiests un spiests kaut ko dar\u012bt pret savu gribu. Vai n\u0113? It \u012bpa\u0161i cilv\u0113ks, kur\u0161 tev nav pievilc\u012bgs.<\/li>\n
  5. Cilv\u0113kiem ir da\u017e\u0101das gaumes. Jums pat\u012bk da\u017ei cilv\u0113ki vair\u0101k nek\u0101 citi. Vai n\u0113? Galu gal\u0101 tu esi vi\u0146as apreibin\u0101ts tie\u0161i t\u0101p\u0113c, ka vi\u0146a izce\u013cas \u2013 vai ne?<\/li>\n
  6. Tas, ka tev nepat\u012bk cilv\u0113ks X, nenoz\u012bm\u0113, ka tev nepatiks Y. Un, ja tev nepat\u012bk vesela cilv\u0113ku grupa (teiksim, klasesbiedri vai...), tas nenoz\u012bm\u0113, ka tu neatrad\u012bsi k\u0101du, varb\u016bt kaut kur citur, kur\u0161 tevi m\u012bl\u0113s un pie\u0146ems. J\u016bs ta\u010du saprotat, ka t\u0101 ir taisn\u012bba, vai ne?<\/li>\n
  7. Jums \u0161obr\u012bd nav j\u0101b\u016bt attiec\u012bb\u0101s. Vai tu tagad nomirsi? Cilv\u0113ks bez \u016bdens mirst p\u0113c da\u017e\u0101m dien\u0101m. Bez \u0113diena - p\u0113c m\u0113ne\u0161a. Cilv\u0113ks nemirst bez partnera. Vienk\u0101r\u0161i.<\/li>\n
  8. Tas, ka jums nav partnera, nenoz\u012bm\u0113, ka esat slikt\u0101ks cilv\u0113ks. Galu gal\u0101, da\u017eiem cilv\u0113kiem ir partneri, bet vi\u0146i joproj\u0101m ir visslikt\u0101k\u0101s negant\u012bbas. Manupr\u0101t, tas ir ac\u012bmredzami \u2013 j\u016bs paz\u012bstat tik negl\u012btus cilv\u0113kus, pat ar p\u0101ri \u2013 vai ne?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Nu, par ko tu run\u0101?<\/p>\n

    P\u0113d\u0113jo 5 gadu laik\u0101 esmu bijis vair\u0101k nek\u0101 100 randi\u0146os... "N\u0113" esmu dzird\u0113jis daudzas, daudzas, daudzas reizes. Bie\u017ei es vi\u0146u nep\u0101rprotami nedzird\u0113ju - \u0161ie cilv\u0113ki vienk\u0101r\u0161i aizb\u0113ga...<\/p>\n

    \u2026es m\u0113dzu jaut\u0101ju draugiem \u2013 k\u0101p\u0113c? Vai es esmu slikts?<\/p>\n

    Vi\u0146i teica n\u0113.<\/p>\n

    Bet iepaz\u012b\u0161an\u0101s partneri aizb\u0113ga. Hei, zeme\u0146u, tu neesi priek\u0161 manis. \u0160\u0137iet, ka tu jau mekl\u0113 partneri, un es vienk\u0101r\u0161i \u0161obr\u012bd nemekl\u0113ju attiec\u012bbas... Vai ne. Es gribu citu v\u012brieti.<\/p>\n

    Bet k\u0101du dienu es satiku VI\u0145U.<\/p>\n

    Es nedom\u0101ju, ka ar vi\u0146u kaut kas izdosies. Es biju neapmierin\u0101ts ar iepaz\u012b\u0161anos. Es piekritu vi\u0146u satikt tikai t\u0101p\u0113c, ka nejau\u0161i atrados taj\u0101 pils\u0113tas da\u013c\u0101, kur vi\u0146a tik un t\u0101 taj\u0101 dien\u0101 dz\u012bvo. Es s\u0113d\u0113ju kafejn\u012bc\u0101 ar kapu\u010d\u012bno tasi un gaid\u012bju vi\u0146u. Vi\u0146a atn\u0101ca. Es neteiktu, ka pasakaini skaista. Tas vienk\u0101r\u0161i atn\u0101ca un viss. M\u0113s ar vi\u0146u run\u0101j\u0101m par nesenaj\u0101m prezidenta v\u0113l\u0113\u0161an\u0101m, bet saruna turpin\u0101ja aizvirz\u012bt kaut kur citur... Bet man patika. Es jutos labi. Tobr\u012bd skatoties uz vi\u0146u (acis, deguns, piere, grumbas, kr\u016btis, pirksti...) es nedom\u0101ju, ka v\u0113l\u0113tos ar vi\u0146u m\u012bl\u0113ties.<\/p>\n

    Vienoj\u0101mies, ka tiksimies n\u0101kamreiz.<\/p>\n

    Satik\u0101mies un dev\u0101mies pastaig\u0101 pa pils\u0113tas galerij\u0101m. Grib\u0113ju uzd\u0101vin\u0101t mammai bildi, t\u0101p\u0113c mekl\u0113ju k\u0101du jauku. VI\u0145A pal\u012bdz\u0113ja. Ar vi\u0146u bija jautri.<\/p>\n

    V\u0113l da\u017eas tik\u0161an\u0101s, pastaigas, randi\u0146i da\u017e\u0101dos pils\u0113tas nost\u016bros...<\/p>\n

    Es tikko sadraudz\u0113jos ar vi\u0146u.<\/p>\n

    Atkal ieg\u0101ju "Draugu zon\u0101". Bet \u0161aj\u0101 br\u012bd\u012b es k\u013cuvu pats no sevis. Ne t\u0101p\u0113c, ka es uzskr\u0113ju vi\u0146ai virs\u016b un grib\u0113ju vi\u0146u nosk\u016bpst\u012bt, un vi\u0146a to nev\u0113l\u0113j\u0101s. Gleznoju, jo ar vi\u0146u vienk\u0101r\u0161i bija pat\u012bkami komunic\u0113t. VI\u0145A bija laba draudzene!!!<\/p>\n

    K\u0101du dienu m\u0113s uzk\u0101p\u0101m uz pamestas \u0113kas jumta pils\u0113tas centr\u0101. Pils\u0113ta dr\u012bz gras\u012bj\u0101s \u0161o \u0113ku nojaukt, jo grib\u0113j\u0101s baud\u012bt ainavu...<\/p>\n

    ...Saspiedu\u0161ies m\u0113s skat\u012bj\u0101mies uz pils\u0113tu. M\u0113s apklus\u0101m.<\/p>\n

    Tad es pagriezos pret vi\u0146u, pa\u0146\u0113mu ar plaukstu vi\u0146as vaigu, pagriezos pret sevi un... Aizverot acis, es pieliecos, lai vi\u0146u nosk\u016bpst\u012btu. Vi\u0146a pieliec\u0101s pie manis.<\/p>\n

    Sazin\u0101ties.<\/p>\n

    \u0160odien, zini, es dom\u0101ju, ka agr\u0101k manas attiec\u012bbas nekad nes\u0101k\u0101s, jo iek\u0161\u0113ji es mekl\u0113ju dzi\u013c\u0101ku saikni \u2013 kaut ko dzi\u013c\u0101ku \u2013, bet, kad satikos, es vispirms c\u012bn\u012bjos. Sieviet\u0113m, kuras toreiz satiku, tas bija pats interesant\u0101kais. K\u0101dreiz c\u012bn\u012bj\u0101mies. Un, kad es teicu, ka gribu vair\u0101k, vi\u0146i pazuda.<\/p>\n

    Mekl\u0113ju dzi\u013cumu, bet g\u0101ju aizrau\u0161an\u0101s ce\u013cu.<\/p>\n

    N\u0113... \u0160odien es saprotu, ka, ja v\u0113l\u0113jos DZI\u013bAS attiec\u012bbas, man bija j\u0101s\u0101k ar vi\u0146u. Atrodi k\u0101du, ar kuru v\u0113los b\u016bt tikai draugs. Un izbaudi to. Un tad, ja v\u0113lies, JA ABI GRIB, varb\u016bt \u0146em un pied\u0101v\u0101 sevi k\u0101 romantisku partneri. nosk\u016bpst\u012bt<\/p>\n

    J\u016bs zin\u0101t, kas \u0161eit ir vissvar\u012bg\u0101kais?<\/p>\n

      \n
    1. Es p\u0101rtraucu izvarot sievietes, kuras grib\u0113ja ar mani "tikai draudz\u0113ties", bet ar\u012b vi\u0146as nev\u0113l\u0113j\u0101s \u0161\u012bs draudz\u012bbas. Jo, ja vi\u0146i to negrib, vi\u0146i to negrib. \u0160eit nekas nav k\u0101rt\u012bb\u0101. M\u0113s visi esam cilv\u0113ki. Tu un es ar\u012b negribam ar visiem draudz\u0113ties, vai ne? \ud83d\ude42<\/li>\n
    2. Es sev atzinu, ka nev\u0113los m\u012bzt \u2013 gribu dzi\u013cu saikni. T\u0101p\u0113c es p\u0101rst\u0101ju sl\u012bd\u0113t apak\u0161ve\u013c\u0101 tre\u0161aj\u0101 randi\u0146\u0101. S\u0101ku kontakt\u0113ties ar sieviet\u0113m t\u0101, k\u0101 v\u0113los \u2013 dzi\u013ci. Es gribu iedzi\u013cin\u0101ties, t\u0101p\u0113c es to dar\u012bju. Neizb\u0113gami atradu k\u0101du, kur\u0161 ar\u012b to grib\u0113ja!<\/li>\n
    3. Tom\u0113r, kad jutu, ka s\u0101ku just kaisli, es to par\u0101d\u012bju. Ja vi\u0146a b\u016btu teikusi "N\u0113" - tas ir labi - galu gal\u0101 m\u0113s ar vi\u0146u tik un t\u0101 esam sasod\u012bti labi draugi! Bet vi\u0146a teica "J\u0101", t\u0101tad... Laikam tu saproti, ka labas lietas notiek abos gad\u012bjumos? Vai nav j\u0101baid\u0101s izr\u0101d\u012bt savas j\u016btas, ja esi laim\u012bgs t\u0101 vai cit\u0101di?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      "Draugu zonas" pame\u0161ana nav piespiedu k\u0101rt\u0101. Nav nek\u0101da k\u0101rdin\u0101juma. Nav nebeidzamu iel\u016bgumu uz "interesantiem" randi\u0146iem. Dievs, nav skrie\u0161anas un m\u0113\u0123in\u0101juma izskat\u012bties pievilc\u012bgi un nosl\u0113pumaini.<\/p>\n

      Ko dar\u012bt, ja v\u0113lies pamest "Draugu zonu"?<\/p>\n

      Pavadiet laiku ar cilv\u0113kiem, ar kuriem j\u016bs vienk\u0101r\u0161i v\u0113l\u0113tos b\u016bt draugi.<\/p>\n

      No kur\u0101m draudz\u012bb\u0101m tu ieg\u016bsti tik daudz un sa\u0146em pietiekami daudz, ka negribas uztraukties par m\u012btisko "Draugu zonu". Aizmirstiet \u0161o zonu. Tas ir vienk\u0101r\u0161i absurds - kad tu izvaro citu (atz\u012bsti to) un v\u0113l par to raudi. Tas ir mu\u013c\u0137\u012bbas, vai ne?<\/p>\n

      No kuras tev pietiek ar draudz\u012bbu, lai "esim tikai draugi" nenoz\u012bm\u0113 kaut k\u0101du l\u0101stu. Ar kuru tas noz\u012bm\u0113tu, ka nekas nemain\u012bsies, t\u0101tad b\u016btu... Tikpat for\u0161i!!!<\/p>\n

      ...Starp citu, ko dar\u012bt, ja j\u016bs vienk\u0101r\u0161i v\u0113laties sajust kaisl\u012bbu, sk\u016bpst\u012bt, sam\u012b\u013cot, izklaid\u0113ties, un j\u016bs nemekl\u0113jat dzi\u013c\u0101ku saikni?<\/p>\n

      Tas nav slikti \ud83d\ude42 T\u0101 turpin\u0101t.<\/p>\n

      Un, ja j\u016bs mekl\u0113jat dzi\u013c\u0101ku saikni \u2013 partneri \u2013 nes\u0101ciet ar aizraut\u012bbu.<\/p>\n

      Tas ir viss. Jauki pavad\u012bt laiku draugu zon\u0101!<\/p>\n

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