{"id":1089,"date":"2016-12-17T19:09:03","date_gmt":"2016-12-17T16:09:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/danieliusg.lt\/?p=1089"},"modified":"2021-10-01T02:48:05","modified_gmt":"2021-09-30T23:48:05","slug":"kas-yra-meile","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/lv\/2016\/kas-ir-milestiba\/","title":{"rendered":"[V\u0113stule]<\/i> L\u016bk, kas, manupr\u0101t, ir m\u012blest\u012bba"},"content":{"rendered":"

Dienas m\u0113r\u0137is: 231 v\u0101rds<\/a>. Rakst\u012bts: 1192<\/b>.<\/p>\n

Kas ir m\u012blest\u012bba, kas ir m\u012blest\u012bba? \u0160\u012b dziesma man aus\u012bs skan jau pusstundu.<\/span><\/p>\n

...Jaut\u0101jums, ko uzdev\u0101t "Kas ir m\u012blest\u012bba?", skan jau divas dienas.<\/p>\n

\u0160o jaut\u0101jumu: "Kas ir m\u012blest\u012bba?" Es sev uzdevu vair\u0101k nek\u0101 pirms trim gadiem... Tas joproj\u0101m ir patiess \u0161odien. Varb\u016bt ne velti \u0161\u012bs dziesmas YouTube remikss ilgst 10 stundas \u2013 p\u0113c interneta standartiem veselu m\u016b\u017e\u012bbu?<\/p>\n

Es atceros \u0161o jaut\u0101jumu, kad uzdevu sev pirms trim gadiem. Es prec\u012bzi neatceros, kad tas bija, pirms vai p\u0113c manas pirm\u0101s draudzenes. Bet atceros, ka pirmo reizi par to dom\u0101ju Dariusa Ra\u017eauska lekcij\u0101 Kau\u0146\u0101, Miega zilo\u0146u z\u0101l\u0113, net\u0101lu no Aug\u0161\u0101mcel\u0161an\u0101s bazn\u012bcas.<\/p>\n

Es sev uzdevu \u0161o jaut\u0101jumu.<\/p>\n

Es nevar\u0113ju izdom\u0101t atbildi. T\u0101p\u0113c es uzrakst\u012bju jaut\u0101jumu.<\/p>\n

P\u0113c k\u0101da laika es aizmirsu jaut\u0101jumu. Dabiski. Nezinu - varb\u016bt atkal iem\u012bl\u0113jos k\u0101d\u0101 meiten\u0113 un aizmirsu jaut\u0101jumu?<\/p>\n

V\u0113l viens br\u012bdis, ko atceros, bija tas, ka atv\u0113ru vecu piez\u012bmju gr\u0101mati\u0146u un redz\u0113ju to atkal gadu p\u0113c jaut\u0101juma uzrakst\u012b\u0161anas. Tad es biju p\u0101rsteigts, ka uzdevu sev \u0161o jaut\u0101jumu. Un es atkal m\u0113\u0123in\u0101ju vi\u0146am atbild\u0113t. Es joproj\u0101m neesmu atradis atbildi.<\/p>\n

Vai t\u0101p\u0113c, ka es nedom\u0101ju atbildes?<\/h3>\n

n\u0113 ko tu Es izdom\u0101ju vair\u0101k nek\u0101 vienu atbildi. Vien\u012bg\u0101 probl\u0113ma bija t\u0101, ka neviens no vi\u0146iem ne\u0161\u0137ita pareizi. Pietiekami sp\u0113c\u012bga. Pietiekami re\u0101ls. P\u0113c k\u0101da laika es atkal aizmirsu jaut\u0101jumu. Varb\u016bt es atkal iem\u012bl\u0113jos.<\/p>\n

(Vai nav ironiski, ka tie\u0161i tad, kad esam iem\u012bl\u0113ju\u0161ies, pareiz\u0101k sakot, iem\u012bl\u0113ju\u0161ies un iegrimu\u0161i taj\u0101, ko saucam par m\u012blest\u012bbu, m\u0113s it k\u0101 aizmirstam t\u0101dus \u0161im br\u012bdim piem\u0113rotus jaut\u0101jumus?)<\/p>\n

Es nezinu, cik reizes tas notika. Bet es zinu pietiekami daudz, lai paman\u012btu atk\u0101rto\u0161anos. Un es paman\u012bju, ka nevaru atrast atbildi.<\/p>\n

Interesanti - ko tu vi\u0146am atbild\u0113si? Varb\u016bt TAVA atbilde b\u016bs t\u0101, kas nostiprin\u0101s manas domas un iededzin\u0101s man\u0101 atmi\u0146\u0101 jaunu defin\u012bciju?<\/p>\n

Nu, vai j\u016bs dom\u0101jat, ko es izdom\u0101ju?<\/h2>\n

T\u0101 k\u0101 t\u0101 ir v\u0113stule (k\u0101 redzat), es nevaru dzird\u0113t j\u016bsu atbildi. Tom\u0113r man ir saj\u016bta, ka j\u016bs interes\u0113 - galu gal\u0101 es jau zinu, ka jums pat\u012bk las\u012bt to, ko es rakstu.<\/p>\n

\u0160eit ir atbildes uz m\u016b\u017e\u012bgo jaut\u0101jumu "Kas ir m\u012blest\u012bba?".<\/p>\n

(Kas ir m\u012blest\u012bba, kas ir m\u012blest\u012bba...)<\/p>\n

Atbilde n\u0113. 1: M\u012blest\u012bba - t\u0101 ir tikai saj\u016bta, kas ir.<\/h3>\n

Da\u017eiem cilv\u0113kiem pietiek ar to, ka m\u012blest\u012bba past\u0101v. Par\u0101d\u0101s. M\u012blest\u012bba ir tur. Vi\u0146a n\u0101k, kad v\u0113las. Tas par\u0101d\u0101s, kad j\u016bs to vismaz\u0101k gaid\u0101t. Redzot skaistu meiteni. Vai puisis. Vai mazs b\u0113rns.<\/p>\n

\u010dau N\u0113. Nav mazs b\u0113rns! Tu pedofils! Fu!<\/p>\n

*kostel*<\/p>\n

(Tom\u0113r \u2013 kas gan slikts, ja m\u012bli mazu b\u0113rnu?)<\/p>\n

M\u012blest\u012bba ir tur. Un atliek tikai izbaud\u012bt to, jo tu to nevar\u0113si kontrol\u0113t. Tu dz\u012bvo tikai vienreiz. #TGTK. #YOLO. Izbaudi saj\u016btu, jo t\u0101 tur ir.<\/p>\n

\u2026\u0160\u012b atbilde mani neapmierin\u0101ja. Man vajadz\u0113ja kaut ko vair\u0101k. Es vienm\u0113r esmu bijis "K\u0101p\u0113c?" b\u0113rns. Un es turpin\u0101ju mekl\u0113t.<\/p>\n

Atbilde n\u0113. 2: M\u012blest\u012bba \u2013 t\u0101 ir laime, kas mums tika dota.<\/h3>\n

Dievs ir m\u012blest\u012bba. Kristie\u0161iem pat\u012bk \u0161\u012b fr\u0101ze. V\u0113du sekot\u0101jiem, budistiem, pat, es dom\u0101ju, musulma\u0146iem ar\u012b pat\u012bk \u0161\u012b fr\u0101ze.<\/p>\n

Jo k\u0101p\u0113c gan vi\u0146ai nepatikt?<\/p>\n

M\u012blest\u012bba ir br\u012bni\u0161\u0137\u012bga saj\u016bta, kas rodas tad, kad to vismaz\u0101k gaidi. Un vi\u0146\u0161 ir tik laipns. Skaidrs, ka t\u0101 ir Dieva d\u0101vana, ko vair\u0101k!?<\/p>\n

Dievs ir m\u012blest\u012bba. Tom\u0113r \u0161\u012b fr\u0101ze man iekrita.<\/p>\n

Nezinu, varb\u016bt t\u0101p\u0113c, ka man vienm\u0113r ir paticis iedzi\u013cin\u0101ties v\u0101rdu un teikumu noz\u012bm\u0113s? Dievs ir m\u012blest\u012bba. T\u0101tad m\u012blest\u012bba ir Dievs. Lo\u0123iski? Lo\u0123iski. M\u012blest\u012bba past\u0101v (par\u0101d\u0101s) \u2013 t\u0101tad Dievs eksist\u0113. Un otr\u0101di. Lo\u0123iski? Lo\u0123iski.<\/p>\n

\u2026Bet ko tad, ja Dieva nav un m\u0113s visi esam tikai nejau\u0161a \u0137\u012bmiska un fizik\u0101la eksperimenta rezult\u0101ts? Vai tas noz\u012bm\u0113, ka m\u012blest\u012bba ar\u012b neeksist\u0113?<\/p>\n

Tom\u0113r... Tas past\u0101v! Skaidrs!? Galu gal\u0101 es to ik pa laikam j\u016btu, zem negaisa!<\/p>\n

\u2026Vai ko es j\u016btu? Kas tas ir?<\/p>\n

Atbilde n\u0113. 3: M\u012blest\u012bba \u2013 tas ir \u0137\u012bmisks savienojums galv\u0101.<\/h3>\n

\u013boti popul\u0101ra teorija saka, ka m\u012blest\u012bba ir tikai biolo\u0123isks dzinulis m\u016bsu rasei, cilv\u0113kiem, vairoties un t\u0101dai ar\u012b palikt.<\/p>\n

Tas ir patie\u0161\u0101m vienk\u0101r\u0161i:<\/p>\n

Pirmk\u0101rt\u2026<\/strong><\/h4>\n

J\u016bs redzat izskat\u012bgu puisi\/meiteni, kuru j\u016bsu smadzenes nov\u0113rt\u0113 k\u0101 piem\u0113rotu p\u0101ro\u0161anai \u2014 izskat\u012bgu, piem\u0113rotu, ar bag\u0101t\u012bbas, varas un autorit\u0101tes paz\u012bm\u0113m.<\/p>\n

\u0160oreiz neiedzi\u013cin\u0101\u0161os krit\u0113rijos, bet tas ir tradicion\u0101li - meiten\u0113m liela kr\u016btis un dibens; musku\u013ci un liela gara \u010d\u016bska biks\u0113s pui\u0161iem.<\/p>\n

Lo\u0123iski.<\/p>\n

Otrk\u0101rt\u2026<\/h4>\n

Smadzenes s\u016bta jums \u013coti \u0101tru sign\u0101lu: "Uz priek\u0161u!" Brauciet! Jums ir j\u0101izs\u0113j (j\u0101b\u016bt ies\u0113tai) \u0161\u012b meitene (tas puisis). Izveidojiet daudz mazo J\u016aS!\u201d.<\/p>\n

Tu iem\u012blies.<\/p>\n

(\u0160is izteiciens ang\u013cu valod\u0101 ir labs - "falling in love". Atbilsto\u0161i.)<\/p>\n

Tre\u0161k\u0101rt\u2026<\/h4>\n

J\u016bs uzbr\u016bkat sazin\u0101ties. J\u016bs j\u016btat prieku, interesi, saj\u016bsmu, to specifisko siltuma saj\u016btu - kad tiek iesl\u0113gti hormon\u0101lie dzin\u0113ji, tie jums s\u016bta visu, kas vi\u0146iem ir, lai tikai j\u016bs var\u0113tu p\u0101roties ar cilv\u0113ku, kuru redzat, lai kas ar\u012b notiktu.<\/p>\n

Hormon\u0101lie satricin\u0101jumi ir visliel\u0101kie pusaud\u017eiem. V\u0113l\u0101k, ar vecumu, t\u0101s nolietojas, jo \u0137ermenis (smadzenes) s\u0101k "atmest cer\u012bbu" \u2013 b\u016bt\u012bb\u0101 t\u0101s s\u0101k uzskat\u012bt, ka j\u016bsu \u0137ermenis ir p\u0101r\u0101k vecs, lai p\u0101roties. Ko j\u016bs zin\u0101t, t\u0101 ir paties\u012bba.<\/p>\n

(Atcerieties sarunas t\u0113mu, kad - vai tas ir labi, ka m\u0113s pavad\u012bj\u0101m savus kaisl\u012bg\u0101kos pusaud\u017ea gadus, nedr\u0101\u017eoties ar to, ar kuru iekrit\u0101m? ...Pareiz\u0101k sakot, labi, ka es to piedz\u012bvoju? Es dom\u0101ju, ka nevain\u012bbu j\u016bs zaud\u0113j\u0101t 16 vai 17 gados?)<\/p>\n

*\u0160eit Daniels veic matem\u0101tikas so\u013cus, lai p\u0101rbaud\u012btu savu min\u0113jumu. Kosteli turpina tur, kur p\u0101rtrauca.*<\/p>\n

Ceturtk\u0101rt\u2026<\/h4>\n

J\u016bs iztiekat ar savu "dz\u012bves m\u012blest\u012bbu". Smadzenes s\u0101k s\u016bt\u012bt citu \u0137\u012bmisko vielu, atkal, neatceros nosaukumu, bet tas ir specifisks.<\/p>\n

Kas? Jo tas darbojas k\u0101 z\u0101les. Kad pirm\u0101s \u0137imik\u0101lijas deva jums laimi p\u0101roties... \u0160\u012b ir atkar\u012bba no \u0161\u012bs laim\u012bg\u0101s saj\u016btas. Tu gribi izdr\u0101zt. Daudz. Un piedz\u012bvot laimi kop\u0101. Daudz laimes.<\/p>\n

Un piedz\u012bvo to visu.<\/p>\n

Es nezinu, kad laim\u012bg\u0101 \u0137\u012bmija beidzas. Tikko pamekl\u0113ju googl\u0113, vai past\u0101v korel\u0101cija starp p\u0101ru \u0161\u0137ir\u0161anos un 9 m\u0113ne\u0161us p\u0113c negaid\u012bt\u0101s m\u012blest\u012bbas, bet pirmaj\u0101 lap\u0101 neko nevar\u0113ju atrast.<\/p>\n

Zinu tikai to, ka efekts ir j\u016btams m\u0113nesi, da\u017ereiz divus vai tr\u012bs, un da\u017ereiz pat pusgadu p\u0113c \u0161\u0137ir\u0161an\u0101s. Pat ja jums nebija daudz seksa ar savu m\u012b\u013coto.<\/p>\n

Tie\u0161i t\u0101p\u0113c m\u0113nesi, divus vai vair\u0101k m\u0113s j\u016btam v\u0113lmi atgriezties biju\u0161\u0101 rok\u0101s. Ilgums katram ir at\u0161\u0137ir\u012bgs \u2013 teic\u0101t, ka p\u0113c diviem l\u012bdz trim m\u0113ne\u0161iem s\u0101k\u0101t justies lab\u0101k. Es p\u0113c m\u0113ne\u0161a. Es tikai nezinu, k\u0101ds ir ilgums p\u0113c atkar\u012bbas.<\/p>\n

\u0160\u012bs \u0137\u012bmisk\u0101s vielas specifika ir tur\u0113t j\u016bs p\u0101r\u012b l\u012bdz b\u0113rna piedzim\u0161anai (k\u0101 minimums - galu gal\u0101 gr\u016btniece ir visneaizsarg\u0101t\u0101k\u0101) un, v\u0113lams, l\u012bdz audzin\u0101\u0161anai. Tad pien\u0101k br\u012bdis, kad k\u013c\u016bsti neaugl\u012bga un viss nok\u0101rtojas \u2013 vari iet katrs savu ce\u013cu.<\/p>\n

Nu, m\u0113s var\u0113tu. L\u012bdz kristiet\u012bbai un k\u0101z\u0101m. Bet \u0161eit ir cita t\u0113ma.<\/p>\n

Piekt.. Aaah\u2026 Piektais\u2026<\/h4>\n

Galu gal\u0101 \u0137\u012bmisk\u0101 m\u012blest\u012bba beidzas. S\u0101kas vec\u0101 lab\u0101 \u201cEs tevi ien\u012bstu, bet m\u0113s esam prec\u0113ju\u0161ies, t\u0101p\u0113c izliksimies, ka m\u012blam viens otru\u201d dz\u012bve.<\/p>\n

Mazliet skumji. Bet t\u0101 darbojas m\u016bsu \u0137ermenis.<\/p>\n

Bet vai m\u0113s neesam sava \u0137erme\u0146a vergi?<\/p>\n

Atbilde n\u0113. 4: M\u012blest\u012bba \u2013 t\u0101s ir r\u016bpes par citiem.<\/h3>\n

Es nezinu, ko j\u016bs rakst\u012bj\u0101t sav\u0101 v\u0113stul\u0113, bet es dom\u0101ju, ka t\u0101 ir j\u016bsu izv\u0113le. J\u016bs jau esat daudz par to rakst\u012bjis. Es nebr\u012bn\u012btos.<\/p>\n

P\u0113c citu cilv\u0113ku dom\u0101m, m\u012blest\u012bba ir r\u016bpes par citiem. \u012apa\u0161i - sengrie\u0137u filozofi: Aristotelis un Platons. Vi\u0146upr\u0101t, m\u012blest\u012bbai ir pietiekami daudz valodu - no r\u016bp\u0113m par draugiem, \u0123imeni, b\u0113rniem un beidzot ar apbr\u012bnu un aizrau\u0161anos ar citiem. Bet tas viss ir saist\u012bts ar r\u016bp\u0113m un v\u0113lmi pal\u012bdz\u0113t.<\/p>\n

"Es gribu, lai citi b\u016btu laim\u012bgi... Lai es b\u016btu laim\u012bgs pats" b\u016btu fr\u0101ze, kas raksturo to cilv\u0113ku attieksmi, kuriem pat\u012bk \u0161\u012b atbilde.<\/p>\n

(Diem\u017e\u0113l taisn\u012bba, ka liel\u0101k\u0101 da\u013ca atceras tikai fr\u0101zes pirmo da\u013cu un par otro klus\u0113, t\u0101d\u0113j\u0101di p\u0101rv\u0113r\u0161oties par kaut k\u0101diem varo\u0146iem. Lai gan vi\u0146i pa\u0161i bie\u017ei zina, ka t\u0101di nav.)<\/p>\n

M\u012blest\u012bba ir r\u016bpes. M\u012blest\u012bba ir kop\u0101 b\u016b\u0161ana. M\u012blest\u012bba ir pal\u012bdz\u012bba. Vienk\u0101r\u0161i.<\/p>\n

Bet kura atbilde ir pareiza? Vai t\u0101da ir?<\/h2>\n

Es uzskait\u012bju \u010detras atbildes, kas ien\u0101ca pr\u0101t\u0101. \u010cetras atbildes, kur\u0101m tic\u0113ju un p\u0113c kur\u0101m dz\u012bvoju. \u010cetras atbildes, kuras pierakst\u012bju un atk\u0101rtoju citiem.<\/p>\n

Bet kur\u0161 no tiem ir pareizs? Vai ir vismaz viens?<\/p>\n

Un kurai atbildei es tagad ticu?<\/p>\n

Labi jaut\u0101jumi. Kuras atbildes, diem\u017e\u0113l, atst\u0101ju citai reizei.<\/p>\n

Jo tagad acis asaro, un negribas dubultot jau t\u0101 rekordgaruma burtu (\u0161is jau sasniedz 1200 v\u0101rdus - divreiz gar\u0101ks par mani gar\u0101kajiem!). Es zinu, ka j\u016bs labpr\u0101t to izlas\u012btu. Bet es lab\u0101k atbild\u0113\u0161u uz \u0161o jaut\u0101jumu atsevi\u0161\u0137\u0101 da\u013c\u0101.<\/p>\n

T\u0101tad, ko j\u016bs teic\u0101t sav\u0101 v\u0113stul\u0113? \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n

P\u0101rbaudot m\u012blest\u012bbu,
\nDaniels<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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