{"id":509,"date":"2016-10-08T16:38:27","date_gmt":"2016-10-08T14:38:27","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/danieliusg.lt\/?p=509"},"modified":"2021-07-21T21:24:40","modified_gmt":"2021-07-21T18:24:40","slug":"kaip-isties-buti-savimi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/2016\/how-to-be-yourself\/","title":{"rendered":"How to be yourself and leave the best impression on the world?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"font-size: 0.8em;\">Goal of the day: <a style=\"border: none;\" href=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/issukis-365\/\">113 words<\/a>. Written: <b>310<\/b>.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"font-size: 1.15em;\">Have you heard these phrases?<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\"So don't fake it and keep it simple!\"<\/li>\n<li>\"So be the same as always!\"<\/li>\n<li>\"So be yourself!\"<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>If you've ever asked your friends (or the writers of bad articles on the internet) how to behave on a first date, on stage for the first time, in a job interview for the first time, for the first time... then I'm sure you've heard these words many times.<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes I hear them too.<\/p>\n<p>Then I think: \"wow, thanks for the tip\". Because, you know, it's so easy to be someone else when you've spent your whole life in your body. (That's sarcasm, by the way.)<\/p>\n<p>But the next thought is slightly different:<\/p>\n<p><strong>\"After all, they recommend simply relaxing<\/strong><strong>...\"<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>And this thought (and the actions that follow it) helps more.<\/p>\n<h2 style=\"text-align: left;\">What do the people who advise us to be ourselves really mean?<\/h2>\n<p>As with most friendly advice, the focus here should not be on the words themselves, but on the meaning behind them. Here are a few simple steps on what you should do:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Listen to the advice given and try to understand it.<\/li>\n<li>If you don't understand what you are being told, give in. Everything is fine with you.<\/li>\n<li>Think about it, why are they telling you this at all?<\/li>\n<li>If no idea works, give up too. It's not essential.<\/li>\n<li>Start thinking about what better question you need to ask to get more accurate advice.<\/li>\n<li>But if you don't, give up again.<\/li>\n<li>Breathe. Deeply. Calmly and gently, as best you can. If possible, try to smell your surroundings. (Just don't start acting like a dog.)<\/li>\n<li>...Pala, what was the problem?<\/li>\n<li>Enjoy the moment - you've just forgotten the tension, the fear, the uncomfortableness and everything else that made you feel so bad that you asked for advice to calm yourself.<\/li>\n<li>And stay relaxed. Because when you're not tormented by tension, you're yourself.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>And that's it.<\/p>\n<p>People who advise you to \"just be yourself\" are not doing so to confuse you. They say this because in moments of tension, you are not acting like a human being, but rather like a high-voltage line pole.<\/p>\n<p>...And the high-voltage pylons transmit electricity, but they don't feel good about it. And in the worst situations, they behave like REAL pylons.<\/p>\n<p>What are you - a man or a pillar?<\/p>\n<p>Breathe.<\/p>\n<p>Breathable,<br \/>\n<strong>Daniel<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p style=\"font-size: 0.8em;\">Goal of the day: <a style=\"border: none;\" href=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/issukis-365\/\">113 words<\/a>. Written: <b>310<\/b>.<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":14509,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[2,73,47],"class_list":{"0":"post-509","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-pamastymai","8":"tag-365-tekstai","9":"tag-drasa","10":"tag-santykiai"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/509","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=509"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/509\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/14509"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=509"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=509"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=509"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}