{"id":3161,"date":"2017-08-31T17:58:52","date_gmt":"2017-08-31T14:58:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/danieliusg.lt\/?p=3161"},"modified":"2021-10-01T02:59:17","modified_gmt":"2021-09-30T23:59:17","slug":"matt-weyland","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/2017\/matt-weyland\/","title":{"rendered":"<i>Interview with Matt Weyland:<\/i> How to interest and hook a girl?"},"content":{"rendered":"<aside style=\"font-size: 0.8em;\">Goal of the day: <a style=\"border: none;\" href=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/issukis-365\/\">2252 words<\/a>. Written: <b>782<\/b>.<\/aside>\n<p>And how do you manage to communicate with citizens of the opposite (or same) sex? Yes, I know this is a personal question, but I was wondering - do you have sweaty palms too? (Or hooves?)<\/p>\n<p>In today&#039;s interview I am talking <strong>I see<\/strong> (or Matt Weyland) who for a long time in his life had a VERY hard time getting a girl he liked or even finding a girl who wouldn&#039;t freak out after three seconds.<\/p>\n<p>However, this has changed for the better. Matas studied and grew.<\/p>\n<p>And today he will tell you about his challenge, during which <strong>daily<\/strong> had to ask at least 3 nice girls each, <strong>30 consecutive days<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, it would be a joke to some people. And today it is not difficult for Mata himself. But it used to be a big challenge\u2026<\/p>\n<p>\u2026And this is how he overcame it:<\/p>\n<h3>Hello Matt! First, introduce yourself. In five sentences or less - who are you?<\/h3>\n<p>I am the author of coachingas.lt. Since I was a teenager, I have been interested in comprehensive self-development, and especially in the psychology of communication. Previously, in the Weyland Life project, I counseled men on issues of communication with girls and self-confidence. Now I just live for the day and try to help those who want my help.<\/p>\n<h3>Do you often challenge yourself? Where would you place yourself on a ten-point scale from the cowardly Nuobodila to the superhero Batman?<\/h3>\n<p>Every year I do at least one challenge of a month or longer. Others worth mentioning are meditation every day for an hour for a month, not eating meat for the same month, and completely abstaining from alcohol for a year (2014!).<\/p>\n<p>How would I rate myself on this scale of &quot;heroes&quot;? I think Forest Gump would be the closest, I just do what feels right and good at the time and don&#039;t think too much about the consequences. For some it is a challenge, for me it is a way of life, self-knowledge.<\/p>\n<h3>Tell us what challenge you took on and what were the rules?<\/h3>\n<p>The challenge, which I&#039;ve done a total of three times, I&#039;m sure some will find funny, silly, weird, or otherwise.<\/p>\n<p>So the essence of my challenge was to ask out 3 girls I don&#039;t know who like me every day.<\/p>\n<p>The minimum goal is a conversation, the maximum goal is how much the girl likes me. Such a challenge is usually done for about 30 days. After each day I analyzed my spells, looking for mistakes and room for improvement.<\/p>\n<h3>And why did you choose this challenge?<\/h3>\n<p>After finding the pickup community, putting the new knowledge into practice, I found that it really works. I wanted to improve faster and faster, to feel freer in the company of attractive girls, to be a man who can choose the girls he wants instead of waiting for them to choose.<\/p>\n<h3>Overall, how did you go about achieving your goal?<\/h3>\n<p>The first one was really wow. Lots of dates, adventures or otherwise pleasant interactions with beautiful girls. There were also very difficult days when I felt tragic and girls ignored me, but I think that&#039;s when the most realizations came.<\/p>\n<p>The challenge required a lot of willpower and discipline, because as I mentioned it wasn&#039;t just hanging but also analyzing what I did wrong, where I went wrong and so on, but everything worked out, just like I planned.<\/p>\n<p>The second &quot;marathon&quot; was more successful in terms of results, because I was already more experienced, but I didn&#039;t learn much, the third one showed me that it&#039;s time to change again and go for quality, and quantity...<\/p>\n<h3>But what stood in your way the most? So what did you do when it was hard and you wanted to throw everything away?<\/h3>\n<p>Interrupted by\u2026 family.<\/p>\n<p>My relatives didn&#039;t understand me and didn&#039;t want to understand me, but I still did my thing and I don&#039;t regret it at all.<\/p>\n<aside>About, <a href=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/dejau\/\">how to learn to say &quot;I did&quot; sometimes is also written in Debesyla<\/a>.<\/aside>\n<p>I never wanted to leave. When things got tough, I meditated, looked for reasons why I felt bad, or just said &quot;fuck it&quot; and let it go.<\/p>\n<h3>How did you feel after completing the challenge? Did you achieve what you initially hoped for? And what did you learn during the challenge?<\/h3>\n<p>I have achieved more than I thought I could. I felt great. I realized that my mood depends only on me, not on others or the environment. I even became stronger psychologically in general.<\/p>\n<p>I would dare to say that I even matured a little while running after skirts, because only after tasting those pleasant sensations, you start to look at them as a part of life, and not a miracle for the chosen ones.<\/p>\n<h3>Do you have any advice for people who want to repeat or surpass your adventure?<\/h3>\n<p>Preparation and determination. You have to promise yourself that you will finish the challenge no matter what - that is, you will not let your complexes, doubts and fears overwhelm you, but you will just go step by step towards the goal.<\/p>\n<p>Pain is part of progress.<\/p>\n<p>Choosing the right &quot;technique&quot; is also important, because there are millions of interviewing methods, but only a couple of them will work for you.<\/p>\n<h3>Soooooo\u2026 What challenge will you take on now? Already have ideas or secret desires?<\/h3>\n<p>Really so. I think the next challenge will be writing. I love doing this and I know people love the information I share, so I&#039;ll have to force myself to do it everyday, not just when I&#039;m lazy \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n<h3>Thanks for the story <strong>See!<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Well, I&#039;m not going to comment on the techniques of interviewing girls (or guys)... But it seems that Matas has just repeated the old truth - through suffering to the stars. And also the sweet fruits of the bitter roots of science, or something like that.<\/p>\n<p>I don&#039;t use any hanging techniques myself because I believe honesty is best - even if you&#039;re an ugly old horseradish in your own way. After all, through communication, that ugliness is treated and cured!<\/p>\n<p>And among other things, at the end:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>About <a href=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/kaip-radau-draugu-lietuvoje\/\">his challenge in general meeting new people in Lithuania<\/a> Antanas from Debesy gave an interview;<\/li>\n<li>And my chef Daniel has written a long, long, book-worthy one <a href=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/kaip-radau-draugu-lietuvoje\/\">a guide on how to learn how to communicate with people<\/a>.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>I hope it helps you readers!<\/p>\n<p>yours,<br \/>\n<strong>Pig Antanas<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<aside style=\"font-size: 0.8em;\">Goal of the day: <a style=\"border: none;\" href=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/issukis-365\/\">2252 words<\/a>. Written: <b>782<\/b>.<\/aside>\n<p>And how do you manage to communicate with citizens of the opposite (or same) sex? 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