{"id":2964,"date":"2017-09-12T19:52:26","date_gmt":"2017-09-12T16:52:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/danieliusg.lt\/?p=2964"},"modified":"2021-07-07T19:05:17","modified_gmt":"2021-07-07T16:05:17","slug":"saves-apdovanojimas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/2017\/self-reward\/","title":{"rendered":"Why self-reward is a poor motivator for achieving goals\u2026 And what better to do instead?"},"content":{"rendered":"<aside style=\"font-size: 0.8em;\">Goal of the day: <a style=\"border: none;\" href=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/issukis-365\/\">2537 words<\/a>. Written: <strong>679<\/strong>.<\/aside>\n<p>&quot;Think of all the positives you&#039;ll get from achieving your goal or challenge, and you&#039;ll reach your goal before you know it.&quot;<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\">- Probably a quote from some random &quot;motivational&quot; book<\/p>\n<p><strong>* * *<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Reward yourself. This is recommended by everyone, it seems:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Your boss who eats most of your earnings for himself;<\/li>\n<li>That book &quot;100,000 Inspirational Quotes While Sitting on the Toilet&quot; that costs 600 euros;<\/li>\n<li>That Guru, having read one book about the Monk and the Zaporozhian;<\/li>\n<li>Utena beer that wishes to celebrate every evening, morning and hearty lunch;<\/li>\n<li>And hundreds\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.alfa.lt\/straipsnis\/870453\/6-pagrindiniai-zingsniai-norintiems-pradeti-sportuoti\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">tragic articles in local newspapers<\/a>\u00a0(see points 1 and 5).<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>\u2026How can it not work!? Well, how can you not recommend it!?<\/p>\n<p>Well, usually.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, it works. But it&#039;s REAL\u00a0<strong>not the best thing you could do. <\/strong>Well, at least I, personally, would ~never~ recommend it to you.<\/p>\n<p>Because motivation with future self-rewards is not effective.<\/p>\n<p>* * *<\/p>\n<p>Here is an interesting, scientifically proven fact of human psychology:<\/p>\n<p><strong>We are often almost twice (and more) fiercer in defending what we have than we are in fighting for something we will still get in the future.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Even if the future advantage will be better than what we have now. Even if giving up what we have would be the best solution.<\/p>\n<p>We tend to defend what we have. Instead of fighting for something new.<\/p>\n<p>This can be seen in the activities of other people (others, of course, are easier to judge). Some groups in society and those around us struggle\u2026<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\u2026Against immigrants because they will take away all the jobs;<\/li>\n<li>\u2026Against emigrants, because they will take all the jobs with them;<\/li>\n<li>\u2026Against gay people, because how can we allow someone to enjoy and love;<\/li>\n<li>\u2026Before independence, because of course it was better before;<\/li>\n<li>...Against the new shopping centers, because the ruins were also good;<\/li>\n<li>...Against new habits, a healthier life or quitting smoking, because everything has been the same so far. And grandmother Birut\u0117, she drank all her life and is still alive, so wow!<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>And I believe that you can also see something in yourself that you fight for with all your limbs. For justice. For a peaceful and good life.<\/p>\n<p>&quot;Come on, don&#039;t bother me, I&#039;m fine!&quot;<\/p>\n<p>This is normal for us. And to tell the truth, this psychological phenomenon is also used by clever merchants who are in a hurry to push their goods on us. Here&#039;s an example:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>These are insurance agents offering to insure the car with Casco insurance, as if after an accident\u00a0<strong>you will recover\u00a0<\/strong>a car, not simply money.<\/li>\n<li>This is the mother Maxima of all of us, offering to buy only from her and nowhere else, because she is\u00a0<strong>time tested<\/strong>, a real mother. Not like those awful newer and better stores!<\/li>\n<li>It&#039;s all those books and seminars that teach you how\u00a0<strong>save\u00a0<\/strong>relationships with other people, not how to avoid bad acquaintances altogether.<\/li>\n<li>and myself\u00a0<strong>Clouds<\/strong>\u00a0the author. &quot;Feel like you&#039;re wasting your life?&quot; Then press this big green button and get emails from me.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Fear. Lose, misplace, miss opportunity or not regain.<\/p>\n<p>I also manipulate these fears of yours (and all of us). After all, it is &quot;scientifically tested and personally tested&quot; for a reason. \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n<p>* * *<\/p>\n<p><strong>So what is this psychological phenomenon called?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>In English it is\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Loss_aversion\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Loss Aversion<\/a>. And in Lithuanian, it would probably sound similar to &quot;avoidance of losses&quot;.<\/p>\n<p>And I guarantee that if you&#039;ve ever bought\u2026 Well, I guess, whatever\u2026 You&#039;ve come across it. Because this desire to save, what we have... Is common to everyone. Especially for people.<\/p>\n<p>* * *<\/p>\n<p>So. But what does this have to do with Goose?<\/p>\n<p>Answer: In Cloud Gusi, I will use this psychological trick to help. And instead of encouraging you to achieve goals (and overcome challenges) with some kind of positive reward\u2026<\/p>\n<p>\u2026Instead of medals, washing machines, cookies or hugs\u2026<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u2026I will make you fear for your future.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Or rather, in my system, you will force yourself to do it yourself. And you will be left with only two choices: to gather all your strength and not be lazy to do what you want to do... Or lose something very, very important.<\/p>\n<p>What is that important thing?<\/p>\n<p>Well\u2026 I&#039;ll reveal that in the future, a week or two before the Goose launches. (I still have maybe a month of work left.) I can only tell you right now that this is NOT your life, the lives of your loved ones, your home or your self-respect.<\/p>\n<p>...Because it turns out that in Lithuania, threatening people with the greatest possible loss - death or lesser - blackmailing with honor is not allowed by law. Woe :&#039;(<\/p>\n<p>* * *<\/p>\n<p>So, remember this psychological rule. And watch where you apply it.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe you don&#039;t want to break up with a close but hated partner because you loved each other for so long? Maybe you&#039;re pulling something out of the fridge and eating it because it&#039;s going to go bad? Maybe you&#039;re saving your money for retirement, even though you still have 30-50 years left?<\/p>\n<p>It&#039;s just Loss Avoidance speaking. It&#039;s just a secret desire to be safe and stay where we are. Not moving from the point of death until death itself comes to us.<\/p>\n<p>Your friend<br \/>\n<strong>Daniel<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<aside style=\"font-size: 0.8em;\">Goal of the day: <a style=\"border: none;\" href=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/issukis-365\/\">2537 words<\/a>. 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