{"id":13805,"date":"2019-09-28T14:47:00","date_gmt":"2019-09-28T11:47:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/?p=13805"},"modified":"2021-09-25T01:22:20","modified_gmt":"2021-09-24T22:22:20","slug":"cringe-ka-daryti-kai-geda-del-savo-praeities","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/2019\/cringe-what-to-do-when-you-shame-part-of-your-past\/","title":{"rendered":"Cringe. What to do when you are ashamed of your past?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I don&#039;t even know how cringe would be in Lithuanian - disgust? Cramp? Inner pain? Someone else&#039;s (or own) shame? You know that feeling. And maybe that&#039;s why it doesn&#039;t matter what you call it.<\/p>\n<p>But looking at my ten-year-old posts on Facebook... Well, the ones I wrote when I was 17.<\/p>\n<p>You too have such memories and reminders. I believe.<\/p>\n<p><strong>What to do when you start cringing at your own actions?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>On...<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>It's OK. It happens to everyone.<\/li>\n<li>That's why no one remembers you - everyone remembers their own shames and mistakes more.<\/li>\n<li>Not remembering is unhealthy - if you don't remember, then you block, then you refuse to reassess those situations, then you refuse to learn, then you don't move.<\/li>\n<li>It's not healthy to be nervous about old mistakes - someone else made them. Past you. A lot has changed. You, too.<\/li>\n<li>You will continue to make mistakes. But that's OK. After a while, it will be just memories. And that's okay.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Well, for today, remember the nonsense and mistakes you've tried and made in the past, so you know better today.<\/p>\n<div id=\"parasas\" class=\"\"><svg viewbox=\"0 0 900 189\" width=\"200\">\n        <path class=\"d-1\" d=\"M67 50L5 172\"\/>\n        <path class=\"d-2\" d=\"M19 152c7 8 30 33 59 32 41-1 76-46 80-100 2-22-6-77-42-79C61 2-1 54 46 76\"\/>\n        <path class=\"a\" d=\"M204 126.9c1.4-6-1-23.7-8.8-23.3-33.2 1-44 50-31 54 11 3 22-10 36-25 2-3 14 9 25 10\"\/>\n        <path class=\"nie\" d=\"M211 157c45-44 65-58 70-54 6 5-16 42-12 45 6 4 47-55 57-49 7 4-7 34 4 47 8 11 20 7 28 1 18-14 28-28 27-22s-5 38 46 16c21-9 22-29 13-36-3-2-16 6-16 16-1 18 14 29 37 28\"\/>\n        <path class=\"t-1\" d=\"M387 80a1 1 0 1 0 2 0 1 1 0 1 0-2 0\"\/>\n        <path class=\"liu\" d=\"M444 184C549 88 546 23 536 23c-19 0-57 74-57 122 0 4 5 13 13 16 5 3 11 2 16 1 6-1 11-6 17-10l39-32c0 6-2 8-3 14-2 7-2 10 1 14l5 4c6 3 14 1 20-1 17-7 26-19 44-29 3-1 8-4 12-2l5 6c4 11 1 16 4 22s13 10 20 8 12-9 13-14l4-13 3-5 6-4 13-5c3-1 6-3 10-8\"\/>\n        <path class=\"t-2\" d=\"M576 85a1 1 0 1 0 2 0 1 1 0 1 0-2 0\"\/>\n        <path class=\"s-1\" d=\"M720 142c8 2 27 3 35-3 6-4-18-36-22-32-3 4-6 19-30 65\"\/>\n        <path class=\"s-2\" d=\"M756 140c4-1 9-4 12-8\"\/><\/svg>\n    <\/div>\n    <noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/wp-content\/themes\/debesyla-uzrasai-child\/inc\/img\/fallback-parasas.png\" alt=\"Daniel\" style=\"top: -2.5em; position: relative;\"><\/noscript>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I don&#039;t even know how cringe would be in Lithuanian - disgust? Cramp? Inner pain? Someone else&#039;s (or own) shame? You know that feeling. And maybe that&#039;s why it doesn&#039;t matter what you call it.<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":14403,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[70,53],"class_list":{"0":"post-13805","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-pamastymai","8":"tag-klaidos","9":"tag-laime"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13805","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13805"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13805\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/14403"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13805"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13805"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13805"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}