{"id":1132,"date":"2017-01-06T14:39:38","date_gmt":"2017-01-06T12:39:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/danieliusg.lt\/?p=1132"},"modified":"2021-07-07T14:26:04","modified_gmt":"2021-07-07T11:26:04","slug":"eksperimentas-pirmi-interviu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/2017\/experiment-first-interview\/","title":{"rendered":"<i>Experiment 059:<\/i> How did I interview for the first time in my life and what did I learn?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"font-size: 0.8em;\">Goal of the day: <a style=\"border: none;\" href=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/issukis-365\/\">281 words<\/a>. Written: <b>325<\/b>.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"font-size: 1.15em;\">Three years and 8 months ago (ha, a long time ago) I didn&#039;t know how to interview. Well, I&#039;ve never tried it, and I only knew how to do it from a few google searches.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Then, in April 2013, I challenged myself to take 3 interviews. I took two because the author of one disappeared (maybe my fault, maybe not hers?).<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">I learned little then.\u00a0<strong>Just these two things:<\/strong><\/p>\n<h3>A) Please don&#039;t ask stupid questions.<\/h3>\n<p>If you talk to a person, read and think about him. If you&#039;re interviewing a completely unknown (or unrevealing) character, then don&#039;t forget to first ask who he is and what he does in life. Well, because you are talking to a person, not a slipper.<\/p>\n<p>Let&#039;s say you probably don&#039;t ask the president &quot;Would you like to become president sometime in your life?&quot; And you don&#039;t ask an unknown character about his innermost dreams without at least asking his name first, do you?<\/p>\n<p>So. Conversation. Logic. Man. Communicate as if you were communicating with your muse on a first date. Get to know each other.<\/p>\n<h3>B) Politeness. At least in the beginning.<\/h3>\n<p>I did not realize this error during this experiment, but a little later. When I contacted Ilze Butkute, I wanted to share with her a link to an article that basically talked about the same topic as Ilze in her recent texts. And accidentally, forgetting politeness, I addressed her as if communicating with my readers in letters or on Facebook - with the address &quot;you&quot;.<\/p>\n<p>Well, &quot;you, boba blew up&quot; <strong>of course<\/strong> I didn&#039;t say, but I forgot the courtesy. Then Ilze unexpectedly found me on Facebook and blocked me. She did not reply to the letter and only later, when I noticed that I could no longer find her on Facebook, when I asked why, she replied that she did not like my familiarity and was not going to communicate with me anymore.<\/p>\n<p>Etc. Pity. I&#039;ll probably have to wait about 5 years until we both become different and write to her again. But already with &quot;you&quot; inflections. And I advise you not to make such a mistake - I did not think and already made the mistake. I did the same in one of the first interviews.<\/p>\n<p>Although you are communicating with a person, not with a slipper (slippers never had a brain, so you can get offended much faster), but don&#039;t forget to be polite.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">\u2026And that should be enough for your first lesson!<\/p>\n<p>Go ahead. Now do an experiment and talk to your guru. okay?<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">While drinking mango tea,<br \/>\n<strong>Daniel<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p style=\"font-size: 0.8em;\">Goal of the day: <a style=\"border: none;\" href=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/uzrasai\/en\/issukis-365\/\">281 words<\/a>. 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