\u0160is raksts ir dom\u0101ts tev, ja nesen esi s\u0101cis interes\u0113ties par pa\u0161izgl\u012bt\u012bbu vai, glu\u017ei pret\u0113ji, esi pieredz\u0113jis pa\u0161izgl\u012bt\u012bbas skolot\u0101js.<\/strong><\/p>\n M\u0113s esam tas, ko dom\u0101jam. Un m\u0113s dom\u0101jam to, ko run\u0101jam. Pareiz\u0101k sakot, m\u0113s uztveram pasauli caur runas da\u013c\u0101m (parasti v\u0101rdiem).<\/p>\n \u0160\u012b doma 1921. gad\u0101 gr\u0101mat\u0101 "Tractatus Logico-Philosophicus" 1<\/a> izplato\u0161s filozofs Ludvigs Vitgen\u0161teins<\/a> <\/strong>satricin\u0101ja akad\u0113misko pasauli taj\u0101 laik\u0101. Un vi\u0146\u0161 k\u013cuva par, iesp\u0113jams, ietekm\u012bg\u0101ko 20. gadsimta dom\u0101t\u0101ju.<\/p>\n K\u0101 cilv\u0113ks vi\u0146\u0161 bija diezgan d\u012bvaina person\u012bba. Un da\u017ei vi\u0146a filozofiskie darbi ir kritikas v\u0113rti (un v\u0113l\u0101kos gados vi\u0146\u0161 tos kritiz\u0113ja). Bet viena doma patie\u0161\u0101m ir v\u0113r\u0101 \u0146emama:<\/p>\n "V\u0101rdi un to strukt\u016bras teikumos atspogu\u013co realit\u0101ti." - L. Vitgen\u0161teins, filozofs<\/p><\/blockquote>\n P\u0113c Vitgen\u0161teina dom\u0101m, tas nav m\u016bsu domas un to ori\u0123inalit\u0101tes tr\u016bkums 2<\/a> izgudroja un ieviesa pasaulei v\u0101rdus, un v\u0101rdus <\/strong>deva pr\u0101t\u0101 idejas. L\u012bdz\u012bgi k\u0101 ce\u013ca z\u012bme "stop" izsaka domu, ka ir pareizi apst\u0101ties.<\/p>\n Citiem v\u0101rdiem sakot, m\u0113s ar v\u0101rdiem nododam noz\u012bmi.<\/p>\n Un pats interesant\u0101kais - t\u0101 k\u0101 v\u0101rdus sak\u0101m un klaus\u0101mies visu m\u016b\u017eu (un abi, iesp\u0113jams, p\u0101rsvar\u0101 lietuvie\u0161u valod\u0101) - \u0161ie v\u0101rdi maina m\u016bsu dom\u0101\u0161anu. M\u0113s dom\u0101jam ar v\u0101rdiem, kas mums ir apk\u0101rt. Ne abstrakcij\u0101s. Ne gabalos.<\/p>\n Un ja netici - tad pagaidi, apst\u0101jies. Un izdom\u0101jiet argumentu pret. Es b\u016b\u0161u p\u0101rsteigts, ja domas pa galvu skries, neizmantojot v\u0101rdus.<\/p>\n Tom\u0113r ko v\u0113rtas ir da\u017eas filozofa idejas? Nu, vi\u0146\u0161 bija cien\u012bts filozofs, bet tom\u0113r? Vai ir k\u0101ds zin\u0101tnisks pamatojums domai, ka v\u0101rdi ietekm\u0113 domas?<\/p>\n Izr\u0101d\u0101s, ka ir. Vitgen\u0161teins nebija vien\u012bgais, kur\u0161 run\u0101ja par domu un v\u0101rdu saist\u012bbu. \u013boti l\u012bdz\u012bg\u0101 veid\u0101, bet bez aicin\u0101juma sakopt valodu, psiholo\u0123ijas pasaule ir piev\u0113rsusi uzman\u012bbu \u0161ai sakar\u012bbai.<\/p>\n Tas s\u0101k\u0101s ar slaveno Zigmundu Freidu, 3<\/a> kur\u0161 v\u0113l bija dz\u012bvs 1922. gad\u0101 un iedzi\u013cin\u0101j\u0101s cilv\u0113ka zemapzi\u0146\u0101 un t\u0101s ietekm\u0113 dz\u012bv\u0113. Bet tad viss main\u012bj\u0101s \u0101tr\u0101k Kurfs un Sapirs<\/a><\/strong> 4<\/a> par godu tiem, kas aizs\u0101ka visp\u0101r\u0113jo valodas un domas teoriju.<\/p>\n \u0160\u012b teorija apgalvoja to pa\u0161u, ko Vitgen\u0161teins, un \u0101tri k\u013cuva par vienu no slaven\u0101kaj\u0101m pasaul\u0113. Un, ja j\u016bs k\u0101dreiz esat dzird\u0113ju\u0161i teicienus par \u010duk\u010diem un 100 v\u0101rdus sniega raksturo\u0161anai; vai cik ret\u0101m valod\u0101m nav v\u0101rdu, lai aprakst\u012btu laiku - \u0161eit ir t\u0101 pati t\u0113ma.<\/p>\n taisn\u012bba probl\u0113ma: <\/strong>Kurfisms tika kritiz\u0113ts pag\u0101ju\u0161\u0101 gadsimta beig\u0101s par pier\u0101d\u012bjumu tr\u016bkumu v\u0101rda un darb\u012bbas savienojumam. 5<\/a> K\u0101 rad\u0101s neirolingvistisk\u0101 programm\u0113\u0161ana, kas c\u0113lusies no whorfisma. 6<\/a><\/p>\n Bet Labas zi\u0146as: <\/strong>kognit\u012bv\u0101 psihoterapija<\/a> n\u0101ca pal\u012bg\u0101 un k\u013cuva par starpnieku starp \u0161\u012bm teorij\u0101m 1967. gad\u0101. \u0160ie p\u0113t\u012bjumi ir pozit\u012bvi. Un diezgan daudz no tiem. 7<\/a><\/p>\n Tas, ko m\u0113s dzirdam, ir tas, ko m\u0113s dom\u0101jam. Un, kad m\u0113s dom\u0101jam, m\u0113s piel\u0101gojamies.<\/p>\n T\u0101tad. Atgriez\u012bsimies pie person\u012bg\u0101s att\u012bst\u012bbas:<\/p>\n Ar person\u012bbas att\u012bst\u012bbu var saist\u012bt \u010detras idejas. Tas mudina\u2026<\/p>\n K\u0101p\u0113c b\u016bt pa\u0161am, ja var b\u016bt ide\u0101ls? Ener\u0123isks k\u0101 Tims Feriss, vilt\u012bgs k\u0101 Nikolo Makjavelli, sp\u0113c\u012bgs k\u0101 \u017dydr\u016bnas Savickas un gudrs k\u0101 A\u013c\u0123imants \u010cekuolis? 8<\/a><\/p>\n Da\u017eiem \u0161o v\u0113lmi k\u013c\u016bt lab\u0101kam ar\u012b izdodas p\u0101rv\u0113rst par elku.Piem\u0113ram, Lietuv\u0101 ir pat tr\u012bs pa\u0161att\u012bst\u012bbas projekti ar t\u0101diem ori\u0123in\u0101liem nosaukumiem k\u0101: Tobul\u0117jam, 9<\/a> Att\u012bst\u012bba 10<\/a> un uzlabosim. 11<\/a> Un j\u0101, tos ir rad\u012bju\u0161i da\u017e\u0101di cilv\u0113ki.<\/p>\n Vien\u0101 no t\u0101m autors pat ir nodibin\u0101jis Facebook grupu ar dev\u012bzi \u201cUzlabojies, sasniedz m\u0113r\u0137us un k\u013c\u016bsti par pievilc\u012bgu person\u012bbu\u201d.<\/p>\n Jo, redzi, ja tu nepiederi patiesas piln\u012bbas grupai, vienalga, vai tu b\u016btu Da\u013ca Gr\u012bbauskaite vai Senis \u0160altis, tu neesi pietiekami pievilc\u012bgs. Jo nekad nevajag b\u016bt pa\u0161am, bet vienm\u0113r pilnveidoties, pilnveidoties...<\/p>\n Ja person\u012bbas pa\u0161izaugsmes t\u0113ma b\u016btu popul\u0101ra gr\u0101matu un apm\u0101c\u012bbu t\u0113ma (he, pagaidi, t\u0101 ir), tad \u0161\u012bs t\u0113mas autori b\u016btu \u013coti priec\u012bgi (hei, vi\u0146i ir).<\/p>\n Jo par \u0161o t\u0113mu var rad\u012bt bezgal\u012bgi \u2013 pat atk\u0101rtojot apm\u0101c\u012bbu un p\u0101rdodot vienu ideju piecpadsmit gr\u0101mat\u0101s ar da\u017e\u0101diem v\u0101kiem \u2013 tie, kas v\u0113las pilnveidoties, to tik un t\u0101 ieg\u0101d\u0101sies.<\/p>\n Jo cilv\u0113kiem, kuri tiecas p\u0113c piln\u012bbas, ar to nekad nepietiks. Patie\u0161\u0101m, t\u0101 k\u013c\u016bst k\u0101 aps\u0113st\u012bba. T\u0101 viet\u0101, lai m\u0101c\u012btos m\u0101c\u012bties, tu pilnveidojies, lai \u201ck\u013c\u016btu lab\u0101ks\u201d. Facebook tiek kop\u012bgotas cit\u0101tu, z\u012bl\u012b\u0161u un automa\u0161\u012bnu ilustr\u0101cijas un tiek uzskat\u012bts, ka tas viss n\u0101ks ar piln\u012bbu. 12<\/a><\/p>\n Gr\u0101matu un filmu s\u0113rija Secret, 13<\/a> Roberta T. Kiyosaki gr\u0101matas \u201cBag\u0101tie un nabagie t\u0113ti\u201d. 14<\/a> un Deila K\u0101rnegi asoci\u0101cija, 15<\/a> labi zina bezgal\u012bgo v\u0113lmi pilnveidoties. Un \u0161\u0101di gudri uz\u0146\u0113m\u0113ji to izmanto, lai nopeln\u012btu eiro. Aptuveni 12 miljardi eiro gad\u0101 tikai ASV<\/a>. 16<\/a><\/p>\n Tikai jaut\u0101jums:<\/strong> K\u0101 past\u0101v\u012bga tiek\u0161an\u0101s p\u0113c piln\u012bbas n\u0101k par labu censo\u0146am? It \u012bpa\u0161i, ja dom\u0101\u0161ana main\u0101s no "es m\u0101c\u012bjos un esmu laim\u012bgs" uz "Es m\u0101c\u012bjos un esmu laim\u012bgs, bet es gribu k\u013c\u016bt V\u0112L lab\u0101ks"?<\/p>\n Personisk\u0101 att\u012bst\u012bba veicina aps\u0113st\u012bbu.<\/p>\n Bet pagaidiet, kas nosaka piln\u012bbu? Un, k\u0101 jau min\u0113ju, cik tas ir izdev\u012bgi topo\u0161ajiem? Diem\u017e\u0113l nereti piln\u012bbu defin\u0113 tie pa\u0161i "ide\u0101l\u0101s dz\u012bves" p\u0101rdev\u0113ji.<\/p>\n Vieni saka, ka ide\u0101la dz\u012bve ir dz\u012bvo\u0161ana bag\u0101t\u012bb\u0101, citi saka, ka vissvar\u012bg\u0101kais ir pak\u0101rt skaistu meiteni ar spr\u0101dzieniem (mmm bangs!). Tre\u0161ais attiecas uz to, ka ide\u0101ls cilv\u0113ks ir tas, kur\u0161 seko k\u0101dai reli\u0123ijai.<\/p>\n Un cilv\u0113ks, kur\u0161 ir iekritis person\u012bbas att\u012bst\u012bbas slazd\u0101, nekad nedom\u0101s par to, vai vi\u0146a m\u0113r\u0137is vi\u0146am pal\u012bdz\u0113s sasniegt \u0161\u0101du "piln\u012bbu". K\u0101p\u0113c rodas jaut\u0101jumi "k\u0101p\u0113c", ja var pirkt, pirkt, m\u0101c\u012bties, vairot savu ego, daloties ar vis\u0101diem cit\u0101tiem un cit\u0101di masturb\u0113t?<\/p>\n K\u0101p\u0113c dz\u012bvot nepiln\u012bgi, ja var nopirkt gr\u0101matas un m\u0101c\u012bbas un tiekties p\u0113c augst\u0101k\u0101 l\u012bme\u0146a gar\u012bg\u0101s un fizisk\u0101s Piln\u012bbas? 17<\/a><\/p>\n Un visbeidzot, visas iepriek\u0161 min\u0113t\u0101s idejas ir iesp\u0113jams apvienot vien\u0101. Tas ir aicin\u0101jums, da\u017ereiz pat spiests, dz\u012bvot perfektu dz\u012bvi.Bet kas ir t\u0101 ide\u0101l\u0101 dz\u012bve? Nopietni. Atbildi man, jo es nezinu.<\/p>\n Vai dz\u012bve, kur\u0101 esi t\u0101da, k\u0101da esi \u2013 varb\u016bt ne t\u0101 lab\u0101k\u0101, bet vair\u0101k vai maz\u0101k apmierin\u0101ta \u2013 ir ide\u0101la vai nepiln\u012bga? Un mani vecvec\u0101ki, kuri visu m\u016b\u017eu nezin\u0101ja savu "dz\u012bves j\u0113gu", bija ide\u0101li vai n\u0113?<\/p>\n Un, ja dz\u012bve ir nepiln\u012bga, vai ir v\u0113rts dz\u012bvot? Varb\u016bt lab\u0101k uzreiz iet nogalin\u0101t sevi un tad reinkarn\u0113ties par k\u0101du ka\u0137i, kur\u0161 gu\u013c pusi dienas un snau\u017e otru pusi?<\/p>\n Vai dz\u012bve ir ide\u0101la, ja p\u0113rkat gr\u0101matas par piln\u012bbu un nekad nej\u016btaties patiesi laim\u012bgs?<\/strong><\/p>\n Atkal nopietns jaut\u0101jums.<\/p>\n Bet es iesaku citu veidu. T\u0101 viet\u0101, lai c\u012bn\u012btos ar nesasniedzamu Piln\u012bbu, ko izdom\u0101jis k\u0101ds gudrs biznesmenis, m\u0113s varam augt. T\u0101pat k\u0101 koki. M\u0113s varam m\u0101c\u012bties un b\u016bt laim\u012bgi kop\u0101.<\/p>\n Es iesaku nomain\u012bt fr\u0101zi person\u012bg\u0101 uzlabo\u0161ana uz person\u012bgo izaugsmi. Un tad pamaz\u0101m main\u012bt priek\u0161statu par sevi un apk\u0101rt\u0113jiem, k\u0101da ir \u0161\u012bs pa\u0161att\u012bst\u012bbas j\u0113ga.<\/p>\n Jo t\u0101 noz\u012bme tie\u0161\u0101m ir nepirkt d\u0101rgus kursus tikai t\u0101p\u0113c, ka k\u0101ds to ieteica.<\/p>\n Person\u012bg\u0101 izaugsme veicin\u0101tu\u2026<\/p>\n Iedom\u0101jieties garu, divdesmit piecus gadus vecu ozolu, kas aug j\u016bsu pagalma st\u016br\u012b\u2026<\/p>\n Man ir divi jaut\u0101jumi:<\/p>\n Atbilde uz pirmo jaut\u0101jumu ir diezgan vienk\u0101r\u0161a - t\u0101 ir tur nav <\/strong>ide\u0101ls koks T\u0101s stumbrs ir l\u012bks, viet\u0101m apt\u012bts ap lapenes rest\u0113m, v\u0113ja izliekts un izliekts. T\u0101 lapotne nav ov\u0101la vai apa\u013ca, un taj\u0101 dz\u012bvo tikai tr\u012bs, nevis divpadsmit melnie.<\/p>\n Bet \u0161is koks izauga no z\u012bles. T\u0101 par\u0101d\u0101s visi ozoli - neviens tos nedzemd\u0113 un m\u0101ksl\u012bgi neapdruk\u0101.<\/p>\n Tas auga un auga. Un tas, visticam\u0101k, turpin\u0101s augt, jo neviens to negras\u0101s nocirst.Ozols, ko mana vect\u0113va iest\u0101d\u012bja p\u0113c pirm\u0101s sirds oper\u0101cijas, 18<\/a> izauga liels. Un taj\u0101 ir ligzdas strazdiem un strazdiem. T\u0101s lapas ir gar\u0161\u012bgas sliek\u0101m, un \u0113na ir pat\u012bkama karst\u0101 dien\u0101.<\/p>\n K\u0101p\u0113c gan mums, kas v\u0113las sevi att\u012bst\u012bt, b\u016btu j\u0101atsak\u0101s no \u0161\u0101das dabiskas, cilv\u0113ciskas izaugsmes k\u0101rt\u012bbas un j\u0101tiecas p\u0113c m\u0101ksl\u012bgas piln\u012bbas? M\u0113s varam augt k\u0101 koki. Ne vienm\u0113r ide\u0101ls, bet tur laim\u012bgi.<\/strong><\/p>\n Dz\u012bve, kur\u0101 aug sav\u0101 veid\u0101, ir lab\u0101ka nek\u0101 tiek\u0161an\u0101s p\u0113c neiesp\u0113jama skaistuma, veiksmes un laimes standarta.<\/p>\n Kuram ir ties\u012bbas teikt, ka, lai b\u016btu laim\u012bgs, ir j\u0101nodarbojas ar sportu, j\u0101ce\u013cas \u010detros no r\u012bta, j\u0101lasa daudz gr\u0101matu vai, teiksim, j\u0101veido \u0123imene?<\/p>\n Galu gal\u0101 da\u017ei cilv\u0113ki ir laim\u012bgi, neuzklausot visu veidu guru padomus. Iesp\u0113jams, tikai t\u0101p\u0113c, ka vi\u0146i dz\u012bvo sav\u0101 veid\u0101.<\/p>\n Nu, ja j\u016bs dom\u0101jat, ka person\u012bg\u0101 att\u012bst\u012bba ir ar\u012b izgl\u012btojo\u0161a, t\u0101 ir tev ir taisn\u012bba. <\/strong>Ta\u010du izaugsme izgl\u012bt\u012bb\u0101 darbojas lab\u0101k. Jo:<\/p>\n Izaugsme ir uztveres darb\u012bbas v\u0101rds. Vi\u0146\u0161 aicina j\u016bs augt. Uz aug\u0161u, uz s\u0101niem un ar sakn\u0113m zem\u0113. Un uzlabo\u0161anas aicin\u0101jumi... Ko tie\u0161i dar\u012bt?<\/p>\n Kas \u012bsti ir "uzlabo\u0161ana"? No kurienes \u0161is v\u0101rds c\u0113lies m\u016bsu valod\u0101s? Un ko tas noz\u012bm\u0113? Galu gal\u0101 neviens nesaka "koks s\u0101ka uzlaboties" vai "santehni\u0137is uzlaboja \u016bdensvadu".<\/p>\n ...Un "izaugsme" ir v\u0101rds, ko saprot pat maz\u0101kie b\u0113rni.<\/p>\n Person\u012bg\u0101 izaugsme mudina dar\u012bt to, ko, piem\u0113ram, filozofi Imanuels Kants<\/a>, kur\u0161 1724.-1804.gad\u0101 dz\u012bvoja Mazaj\u0101 Lietuv\u0101, k\u0101 cilv\u0113ka b\u016bt\u012bbu nosauca izaugsmi. Un \u0161is v\u0101rds saka vair\u0101k nek\u0101 uzlabojumi.<\/p>\n Un tad, lai gan tas nav iekod\u0113ts v\u0101rd\u0101 "izaugsme", tas ir rakst\u012bts piln\u0101 fr\u0101z\u0113. Person\u012bg\u0101 izaugsme ir izaugsme, kur\u0101 cilv\u0113ks aug k\u0101 person\u012bba. Person\u012bgi un es pats.<\/p>\n T\u0101 nav koku birzs pavairo\u0161ana un nav veiksm\u012bga biznesa veido\u0161ana. Bet tas ir j\u016bsu person\u012bgais ce\u013cojums pa j\u016bsu person\u012bgo ce\u013cu.<\/p>\n Un tas pal\u012bdz atcer\u0113ties, ka cilv\u0113ki, kas visvair\u0101k sp\u0113j main\u012bt sevi... esam m\u0113s pa\u0161i. Lai gan citi m\u016bs ietekm\u0113, m\u016bsu r\u012bc\u012bba joproj\u0101m ir vissvar\u012bg\u0101k\u0101, kas pal\u012bdz mums kontrol\u0113t sevi. 19<\/a><\/p>\n Es aicinu j\u016bs pievienoties. Neatkar\u012bgi no t\u0101, kas j\u016bs esat - ies\u0101c\u0113js pa\u0161izgl\u012bt\u012bb\u0101 sevis (vai laimes) mekl\u0113jumos vai profesion\u0101ls skolot\u0101js \u0161aj\u0101 jom\u0101. Un aizst\u0101jiet atkar\u012bbu izraiso\u0161o v\u0101rdu ar br\u012bv\u0101ku.<\/p>\n T\u0101s ir nelielas izmai\u0146as valod\u0101, bet lielas izmai\u0146as dom\u0101s.<\/strong> Mazs v\u0101rdos, bet liels dz\u012bv\u0113. Maz darba, liela balva.<\/p>\n Mums ir j\u0101pieliek punkts person\u012bgajai "uzlabo\u0161anai". Laiks izaugsmei.<\/strong><\/p>\n Izaugsmei tas ir dabiski. 20<\/a><\/p>\n \u2026Vai tu esi tie\u0161saist\u0113?<\/p>\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/03\/mes-esame-ka-kalbame.jpg\" "\\"\\"")
<\/span><\/p>\nVarb\u016bt noz\u012bm\u012bg\u0101kais 20. gadsimta filozofs un vi\u0146a valodas lo\u0123ika.<\/h2>\n
M\u016bsdienu psiholo\u0123ija un valodas p\u0113t\u012bjumi.<\/h3>\n
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<\/span><\/p>\nKo veicina "uzlabo\u0161ana"?<\/h2>\n
Pirmk\u0101rt:<\/em> \u2026Nekad neesi tu pats un k\u013c\u016bsti lab\u0101ks.<\/h3>\n
Otrk\u0101rt:<\/em> \u2026Nep\u0101rtraukti tiekties p\u0113c piln\u012bbas.<\/h3>\n
Tre\u0161ais:<\/em> \u2026Sasniegt piln\u012bbas l\u012bmeni, ko nosaka tas, kur\u0161 nezina.<\/h3>\n
Ceturtais:<\/em> \u2026dz\u012bvot perfekti.<\/h3>\n
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<\/span><\/p>\nAizst\u0101sim "piln\u012bbu" ar izaugsmi.<\/h2>\n
A)<\/em> \u2026Esot sev, sav\u0101 veid\u0101.<\/h3>\n
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b)<\/em> \u2026 R\u012bkojieties apzin\u0101ti.<\/h3>\n
c)<\/em> \u2026Pie\u0146emiet savu dz\u012bvi k\u0101 SAVU.<\/h3>\n
Ideja: s\u0101ksim augt, nevis vilcin\u0101sim ar piln\u012bbu.<\/h2>\n