{"id":5806,"date":"2015-10-22T10:52:56","date_gmt":"2015-10-22T07:52:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/?p=5806"},"modified":"2022-02-12T03:00:53","modified_gmt":"2022-02-12T01:00:53","slug":"kaip-pasitiketi-savimi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/lv\/ka-uzticeties-sev\/","title":{"rendered":"K\u0101 ieg\u016bt pa\u0161apzi\u0146u? (T\u0101 divi veidi un praktisk\u0101s metodes)<\/i>"},"content":{"rendered":"

Internets ir pilns ar rakstiem par pa\u0161apzi\u0146a<\/strong>. Bet liel\u0101k\u0101 da\u013ca no t\u0101m ir tikai jauki skano\u0161as fr\u0101zes.<\/p>\n

...Piem\u0113ram, \"esi sevi\", \"dom\u0101 pozit\u012bvi\", \"iedom\u0101jies, k\u0101 tu sasniegsi savus m\u0113r\u0137us\", \"m\u012bli sevi\", \"saki sev, ka es to varu\", \"n\u0113s\u0101 kabat\u0101 10 centus\" un vis\u0101di cit\u0101di \u0161amaniski...<\/p>\n

Ir pien\u0101cis laiks izmantot psiholo\u0123ijas zin\u0101\u0161anas, lai beidzot uzzin\u0101tu, kas ir pa\u0161apzi\u0146a<\/strong> un k\u0101 to dab\u016bt?<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Ko noz\u012bm\u0113 \u201cpa\u0161p\u0101rliecin\u0101t\u012bba\u201d?<\/h2>\n

Saska\u0146\u0101 ar v\u0101rdn\u012bc\u0101m:<\/p>\n

"Pa\u0161p\u0101rliecin\u0101t\u012bba <...> ir saist\u012bta ar uzskatiem par cilv\u0113ka visp\u0101r\u0113jo sp\u0113ju risin\u0101t situ\u0101cijas un probl\u0113mas pasaul\u0113."<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Cilv\u0113ki run\u0101: <\/strong>pa\u0161p\u0101rliecin\u0101tam cilv\u0113kam ir p\u0101rliec\u012bba "es varu tikt gal\u0101". Un nedro\u0161s cilv\u0113ks saka - "Ak, Dievs, es nezinu, ko es dar\u012b\u0161u, ja man b\u016bs j\u0101prezent\u0113 \u0161\u012b prezent\u0101cija!".<\/p>\n

T\u0101tad, balstoties uz lo\u0123iku, k\u013c\u016bst skaidrs, ka pa\u0161p\u0101rliecin\u0101t\u012bba ir bai\u013cu tr\u016bkums, jo ar stingru p\u0101rliec\u012bbu, ka "lai kas notiktu, es varu tikt gal\u0101", cilv\u0113ks nej\u016bt bailes.<\/p>\n

Paskaidro\u0161u ar bildi.<\/p>\n

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Divu veidu pa\u0161apzi\u0146a.<\/h2>\n

Pasaul\u0113 nav bezbail\u012bgu varo\u0146u - supermenu un betmenu. M\u0113s visi da\u017e\u0101d\u0101s situ\u0101cij\u0101s j\u016btamies at\u0161\u0137ir\u012bgi. T\u0101d\u0113j\u0101di p\u0113tnieki iz\u0161\u0137ir 2 veidus: visp\u0101r\u0113jo pa\u0161apzi\u0146u (BP) un specifisko pa\u0161apzi\u0146u (SP).<\/p>\n

1) Visp\u0101r\u0113j\u0101 pa\u0161apzi\u0146a:<\/h3>\n

T\u0101 ir cilv\u0113ka \u0161aubas par sevi \u2013 \u201ces varu p\u0101rvar\u0113t visas gr\u016bt\u012bbas\u201d. 1<\/a> Liel\u0101k\u0101 da\u013ca psihologu uzskata, ka tas izriet no t\u0101, k\u0101 cilv\u0113ks nov\u0113rt\u0113 sp\u0113jas pag\u0101tnes situ\u0101cij\u0101s.<\/p>\n

Piem\u0113ram, ja j\u016bs katru dienu var\u0113j\u0101t veikt vienk\u0101r\u0161us uzdevumus, 2<\/a> tev nav \u0161aubu, ka ar\u012b turpm\u0101k tiksi gal\u0101 viegli.<\/p>\n

2) \u012apa\u0161a pa\u0161apzi\u0146a:<\/h3>\n

Tas veicina visp\u0101r\u0113jo p\u0101rliec\u012bbu. Sp\u0113ja tikt gal\u0101 ar konkr\u0113tu uzdevumu konkr\u0113t\u0101 kontekst\u0101. 3<\/a><\/p>\n

Piem\u0113ram: es k\u0101dreiz sp\u0113l\u0113ju basketbolu, un vienam no maniem komandas biedriem bija zema visp\u0101r\u0113j\u0101 pa\u0161apzi\u0146a. Ta\u010du, ieejot basketbola laukum\u0101, vi\u0146\u0161 k\u013cuva par supermenu, kas liktu Lebronam D\u017eeimsam kautr\u0113ties!<\/p>\n

T\u0101 ir p\u0101rliec\u012bba veikt sare\u017e\u0123\u012btus uzdevumus. 4<\/a><\/p>\n

K\u0101 \u0161ie pa\u0161apzi\u0146as veidi mijiedarbojas?<\/h3>\n

Ir pamats uzskat\u012bt, ka konkr\u0113t\u0101 pa\u0161apzi\u0146a ir vair\u0101k emocion\u0101lais st\u0101voklis<\/strong>, ko var ieg\u016bt, nostiprin\u0101t, main\u012bt. Un visp\u0101r\u0113j\u0101 pa\u0161apzi\u0146a ir vair\u0101k person\u012bbas iez\u012bme<\/strong>. T\u0101p\u0113c specifisk\u0101 uztic\u0113\u0161an\u0101s ir k\u0101 sekund\u0101rs, papildu bloks.<\/p>\n

Tas noz\u012bm\u0113, ka B.P. ir stabila j\u016bsu person\u012bbas da\u013ca, kas neizpl\u0113n p\u0113c vienas dienas, savuk\u0101rt S.P. nav stabila, jo t\u0101s pamat\u0101 ir da\u017e\u0101das pieredzes.Un tas ir viens no p\u0101rsteidzo\u0161\u0101kajiem m\u016bsu psiholo\u0123ijas aspektiem, jo S.P. var palielin\u0101ties \u013coti \u012bs\u0101 laik\u0101, atk\u0101rtoti piedz\u012bvojot konkr\u0113tas dz\u012bves sf\u0113ras.<\/p>\n

...Un taj\u0101 pa\u0161\u0101 laik\u0101 S.P. nav tik svar\u012bgs. <\/p>\n

K\u0101 stiprin\u0101t pa\u0161apzi\u0146u?<\/h2>\n

Rezum\u0113jot, mums ir divi veidi, k\u0101 to izdar\u012bt: A) <\/strong>Pa\u0161anal\u012bzes metodes un b)<\/strong> Praktisko iema\u0146u apguves metodes.<\/p>\n

S\u0101k\u0161u ar pa\u0161anal\u012bzi, jo \u0161aj\u0101 - nekas \u013coti jauns neb\u016bs j\u0101dara. Vienk\u0101r\u0161i iesl\u0113dziet nov\u0113ro\u0161anas smadzenes 5<\/a> un p\u0101rbaudi pats.<\/p>\n

Pa\u0161anal\u012bze I: Ierobe\u017eojo\u0161i uzskati<\/em><\/h3>\n

Mums visiem t\u0101s ir, tikai m\u0113s t\u0101s ne vienm\u0113r atpaz\u012bstam. \u0160\u0101di uzskati ierobe\u017eo r\u012bc\u012bbas iesp\u0113jas, at\u0146em drosmi un liek nemit\u012bgi \u0161aub\u012bties. 6<\/a><\/p>\n

...Slikt\u0101kais ir tas, ka m\u016bsu smadzenes ieprogramm\u0113ti, lai mekl\u0113tu apstiprin\u0101jumu, ka m\u016bsu uzskati ir pareizi.<\/strong> Un tas ir piln\u012bgi dabiski.<\/p>\n

\u0160ai par\u0101d\u012bbai ir daudz zin\u0101tnisku terminu: "retikul\u0101r\u0101 aktiviz\u0113jo\u0161\u0101 sist\u0113ma" (RAS), apstiprin\u0101juma neobjektivit\u0101te<\/a> (apstiprin\u0101juma tendence) un taml\u012bdz\u012bgi. Tie visi noz\u012bm\u0113, ka m\u0113s piev\u0113r\u0161am uzman\u012bbu pier\u0101d\u012bjumiem, kas apstiprina m\u016bsu uzskatus, un ignor\u0113jam faktus, kas tiem ir pretrun\u0101. 7<\/a><\/p>\n

Tas viss noved pie uzved\u012bbas par\u0101d\u012bbas, ko sauc pa\u0161piepildo\u0161s pare\u0123ojums<\/strong>. Piem\u0113ram: \u201cEs uzskatu, ka es citiem nepat\u012bku, t\u0101p\u0113c tur\u0113\u0161os t\u0101l\u0101k no ball\u012btes. Es zinu, ka es nevienam nepatik\u0161u.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u0160\u0101da uzved\u012bba noved pie t\u0101, ka cilv\u0113ki s\u0101k jums nepatikt. T\u0101p\u0113c tic\u012bba, lai ar\u012b s\u0101kum\u0101 t\u0101 nebija patiesa, piepild\u0101s. J\u016bsu r\u012bc\u012bba to padar\u012bja patiesu.<\/p>\n

Da\u017ereiz var noder\u0113t pa\u0161piepildo\u0161s pare\u0123ojums.<\/p>\n

Tom\u0113r tikai izlik\u0161an\u0101s par veiksm\u012bgu cilv\u0113ku negarant\u0113, ka par t\u0101du k\u013c\u016bsi. "Fake it till you made it" darbojas pietiekami reti.<\/p>\n

Pa\u0161anal\u012bze II: Pa\u0161v\u0113rt\u012bba<\/em><\/h3>\n

Un pa\u0161cie\u0146ai ir maz sakara ar prasmi veikt uzdevumus, jo vair\u0101k runa ir par sp\u0113ju sevi nov\u0113rt\u0113t pozit\u012bvi.<\/p>\n

Piem\u0113ram: <\/strong>Skol\u0101 tu vari b\u016bt piln\u012bgs mu\u013c\u0137is - neveikls, neveikls un t\u0101 t\u0101l\u0101k..., bet eks\u0101menos tev joproj\u0101m ir augsts pa\u0161v\u0113rt\u0113jums, jo tu tici, ka esi labs cilv\u0113ks. Pat ja tam nav lo\u0123iskas saist\u012bbas ar uzdevumiem - j\u016bs joproj\u0101m ticat sev.<\/p>\n

K\u0101das domas par sevi tu atk\u0101rto pie sevis?<\/p>\n

Un tad... Praktisko iema\u0146u metodes.<\/h2>\n

Lai paaugstin\u0101tu visp\u0101r\u0113jo pa\u0161apzi\u0146u, m\u0113\u0123iniet k\u013c\u016bt par ekspertu vair\u0101k\u0101s jom\u0101s. <\/strong>Tas var b\u016bt sports, m\u0101ksla, kulin\u0101rija, mas\u0101\u017eas, dzejas deklam\u0113\u0161ana, programm\u0113\u0161ana, video mont\u0101\u017ea, gr\u0101matu las\u012b\u0161ana. Vai kaut kas cits. Ja sp\u0113jat apg\u016bt vair\u0101kas dz\u012bves jomas, paaugstin\u0101s sp\u0113ja tikt gal\u0101 ar uzdevumiem un probl\u0113m\u0101m.<\/p>\n

Vairums no mums ir saist\u012bti ar viena veida SP, soci\u0101lo uztic\u0113\u0161anos. Tas ietver visas citas lietas, kur\u0101s cilv\u0113ki mijiedarbojas. Lai gan visas soci\u0101l\u0101s situ\u0101cijas ir l\u012bdz\u012bgas, t\u0101s prasa unik\u0101lu pa\u0161apzi\u0146as l\u012bmeni. T\u0101 k\u0101 nav vienotas un univers\u0101las soci\u0101l\u0101s p\u0101rliec\u012bbas, past\u0101v DAUDZ da\u017e\u0101du soci\u0101lo p\u0101rliec\u012bbu.<\/p>\n

Piem\u0113ram, man nekad nav bijis probl\u0113mu uzst\u0101ties auditorijas priek\u0161\u0101, ta\u010du reiz\u0113m ball\u012bt\u0113s k\u013cuvu kautr\u012bgs. Tie pa\u0161i cilv\u0113ki, tas pats tu, bet citi apst\u0101k\u013ci un cita pa\u0161apzi\u0146a.<\/p>\n

Piem\u0113rs: Soci\u0101l\u0101s situ\u0101cijas<\/em><\/h3>\n

Atg\u0101din\u0101\u0161u, ka tavs pa\u0161apzi\u0146as l\u012bmenis katr\u0101 situ\u0101cij\u0101 ir stipri atkar\u012bgs no tavas iepriek\u0161\u0113j\u0101s pieredzes l\u012bdz\u012bg\u0101 situ\u0101cij\u0101.<\/p>\n

Visefekt\u012bv\u0101kais veids, k\u0101 ieg\u016bt soci\u0101lo p\u0101rliec\u012bbu, ir:<\/p>\n

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  1. Saprast, k\u0101 uzvesties situ\u0101cij\u0101s (zin\u0101\u0161anas).<\/li>\n
  2. Praktiz\u0113jiet prasmes, izmantojot vair\u0101kus izm\u0113\u0123in\u0101jumus (prakse).<\/li>\n
  3. Piedz\u012bvo p\u0113c iesp\u0113jas vair\u0101k "veiksmes" (p\u0101rliec\u012bbas).<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Tas ir viens no tie\u0161\u0101kajiem, bet bied\u0113jo\u0161\u0101kajiem ce\u013ciem. T\u0101p\u0113c drosme ir viena no svar\u012bg\u0101kaj\u0101m liet\u0101m pa\u0161apzi\u0146as sasnieg\u0161an\u0101.<\/p>\n

    Praktiski vingrin\u0101jumi. Drosme. Kas tas ir?<\/h2>\n

    Drosmei ir viena \u013coti prec\u012bza defin\u012bcija:<\/p>\n

    T\u0101 ir j\u016bsu griba tiekties uz v\u0113rt\u012bgu m\u0113r\u0137i, neskatoties uz bail\u0113m, nenoteikt\u012bbu un risku. J\u016bs baid\u0101ties, j\u016bs nezin\u0101t, j\u016bs zin\u0101t risku, bet j\u016bs to dar\u0101t vienalga.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

    Un, kad tu s\u0101c apg\u016bt soci\u0101l\u0101s prasmes, tu izj\u016bti daudz bai\u013cu un nenoteikt\u012bbas, k\u0101 ar\u012b saskati riskus. 8<\/a> Drosme pal\u012bdz tikt gal\u0101.<\/p>\n

    Pie\u0146emsim, ka v\u0113laties vasar\u0101 doties uz citu valsti, dz\u012bvot un str\u0101d\u0101t. Tom\u0113r j\u016bs pat nezin\u0101t, ar kuru autobusu doties uz lidostu, nemaz nerun\u0101jot par darba mekl\u0113jumiem sve\u0161\u0101 valst\u012b, pils\u0113t\u0101, kur\u0101 nekad neesat bijis un par kuru neko nezin\u0101t.<\/p>\n

    Iedom\u0101jieties, ka p\u0101rl\u016bkojat internetu un atrodat l\u0113tu lidojumu uz valsti, kuru v\u0113laties apmekl\u0113t p\u0113c p\u0101ris ned\u0113\u013c\u0101m...<\/p>\n

    Pirmais solis: S\u0101c tagad!<\/em><\/h3>\n

    M\u016bsu pirm\u0101 so\u013ca m\u0113r\u0137is ir noskaidrot, k\u0101 lietas darbojas. J\u016bs nekad neesat bijis \u0161\u0101d\u0101 situ\u0101cij\u0101, t\u0101p\u0113c j\u016bs dabiski izj\u016btat lielu nenoteikt\u012bbas saj\u016btu. Un nezin\u0101mais ir bai\u013cu lab\u0101kais draugs, jo, kad nezini, ko sagaid\u012bt, tu \u0161aubies, vai sp\u0113si tikt gal\u0101 ar situ\u0101ciju. Un rezult\u0101ts ir zema pa\u0161apzi\u0146a un bailes.<\/p>\n

    Neskaidr\u012bba var b\u016bt element\u0101ra: vai ir autobuss, kas j\u016bs aizved\u012bs no lidostas uz pils\u0113tu? Vai autobus\u0101 pietiks vietas? Ieliksi koferi bag\u0101\u017eniek\u0101 vai salon\u0101? Vai tas nepazud\u012bs? Kuru viesn\u012bcu izv\u0113l\u0113ties? Cik tas man maks\u0101s? 9<\/a><\/p>\n

    Visi \u0161ie apst\u0101k\u013ci rada bailes un \u0161aubas. <\/strong>Lab\u0101 zi\u0146a ir t\u0101, ka bailes mazin\u0101sies ar katru (ce\u013cojuma) procesu.<\/p>\n

    T\u0101p\u0113c jau tikai atra\u0161an\u0101s jaun\u0101 situ\u0101cij\u0101 vairo specifisku pa\u0161apzi\u0146u. Tu iem\u0101cies tikt gal\u0101 ar konkr\u0113t\u0101m probl\u0113m\u0101m un uzzini, ko sagaid\u012bt \u2013 mazinot s\u0101p\u012bgo nezin\u0101m\u0101 devu.<\/p>\n

    Ir t\u0101ds teiciens: "Tu nezin\u0101si, ja nepam\u0113\u0123in\u0101si." Es nevaru saskait\u012bt, cik reizes tas man ir izdevies.<\/p>\n

    OTRAIS SOLIS: Prakse<\/em><\/h3>\n

    \u0160oreiz pietiks zin\u0101t pa\u0161u svar\u012bg\u0101ko: Ja v\u0113laties lab\u0101k komunic\u0113t ar cilv\u0113kiem... jums vienk\u0101r\u0161i vair\u0101k j\u0101komunic\u0113 ar vi\u0146iem.<\/strong><\/p>\n

    \u0160eit nav nek\u0101das ma\u0123ijas. Un tas nav atkar\u012bgs no k\u0101da psiholo\u0123isk\u0101 tipa. Ekstraverti viegl\u0101k komunic\u0113 nevis t\u0101p\u0113c, ka vi\u0146i ir ekstraverti - vi\u0146i viegl\u0101k komunic\u0113 t\u0101p\u0113c, ka komunic\u0113jot atg\u016bst sp\u0113ku... Un vi\u0146i vienm\u0113r ir komunic\u0113ju\u0161i vair\u0101k!<\/p>\n

    T\u0101p\u0113c jums j\u0101iem\u0101c\u0101s pieiet pie sve\u0161inieka un pateikt: \"Sveiki, mans v\u0101rds ir...\"<\/a>. \u0160\u0101da r\u012bc\u012bba lielas bailes nerad\u012bja. Daudziem cilv\u0113kiem nav pietiekami daudz prakses, t\u0101p\u0113c vi\u0146i izj\u016bt bailes bez p\u0101rliec\u012bbas.<\/p>\n

    Bet ir vajadz\u012bga drosme, lai spertu pirmo soli.<\/strong> Nevis st\u0101v\u0113t st\u016br\u012b ar kokteili rok\u0101s vai sp\u0113l\u0113t viedt\u0101lrun\u012b.<\/p>\n

    Daniels vair\u0101k par komunik\u0101ciju st\u0101sta \u0161\u0101dos rakstos:<\/p>\n