{"id":5767,"date":"2015-08-12T12:10:52","date_gmt":"2015-08-12T09:10:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/?p=5767"},"modified":"2021-10-06T02:18:45","modified_gmt":"2021-10-05T23:18:45","slug":"kaip-pamilti-save","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/lv\/ka-milet-sevi\/","title":{"rendered":"B\u016bt sevi m\u012blo\u0161am = b\u016bt labam cilv\u0113kam <i>(vai k\u0101 m\u012bl\u0113t sevi)<\/i>"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Vai jums da\u017ereiz \u0161\u0137iet, ka j\u016bsu dz\u012bv\u0113 tr\u016bkst k\u0101da posma? \u0160\u0137iet, ka viss ir k\u0101rt\u012bb\u0101, bet kaut kas joproj\u0101m nav k\u0101rt\u012bb\u0101? <strong>Dz\u012bvot p\u0113c laim\u012bgas dz\u012bves noteikumiem, bet nej\u016btaties k\u0101 uzvar\u0113t\u0101js?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Ar\u012b es t\u0101 jutos, l\u012bdz beidzot atrisin\u0101ju vienu no savas person\u012bg\u0101s dz\u012bves m\u012bkl\u0101m un sajutu milz\u012bgu atvieglojumu.<\/p>\n<p>Tagad es v\u0113los dal\u012bties ar \u0161o atkl\u0101jumu ar visiem.<\/p>\n<p>Sav\u0101 \u012bsaj\u0101 m\u016b\u017e\u0101 un v\u0113l \u012bs\u0101k\u0101 apzin\u0101t\u0101s izaugsmes period\u0101 esmu sapratis kaut ko t\u0101du, kas ir aizmirsts un aiz\u0113nots, p\u0101r\u0101k reti praktiz\u0113ts un kas, manupr\u0101t, ir svar\u012bgs solis ce\u013c\u0101 uz lab\u0101ku dz\u012bvi.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Ar p\u0101rliec\u012bbu varu teikt, ka m\u012blu sevi.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 1em;\">Un es ceru, ka \u0161is apgalvojums ne\u0161\u0137it\u012bs egocentrisks. Protams, es nepretend\u0113ju uz visu zin\u0101t vai b\u016bt eksperts \u0161aj\u0101 jom\u0101. Es ar\u012b nevaru teikt, ka m\u012blu sevi visos aspektos vai simtprocent\u012bgi \u2013 to nav iesp\u0113jams zin\u0101t.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Bet es esmu p\u0101rliecin\u0101ts, ka dabiska m\u012blest\u012bba pret sevi ir vit\u0101li svar\u012bga.<\/p>\n<p><strong>JAUNUMS: <\/strong>Varat ar\u012b noklaus\u012bties rakstu - ierun\u0101jusi meitene no Debesy <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/Dziunga\" style=\"outline: none;\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Just\u012bna Pilkaite<\/a>:<\/p>\n<h2>Kas mums ir m\u012blest\u012bba?<\/h2>\n<p>Cilv\u0113ki to saprot da\u017e\u0101di. Vienk\u0101r\u0161\u0101kais apraksts ir <strong>pozit\u012bvu saj\u016btu kopums, kas v\u0113rsts uz konkr\u0113tu personu vai cilv\u0113ku grupu.<\/strong> Protams, var b\u016bt ar\u012b m\u012blest\u012bba pret darb\u012bbu, darbu, bet par to m\u0113s tagad nerun\u0101jam.<\/p>\n<p>M\u012b\u013cot\u0101ji m\u012blest\u012bbu defin\u0113 \u0161\u0101di:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>B\u016bt kop\u0101,<\/li>\n<li>V\u0113lme nest laimi citam cilv\u0113kam,<\/li>\n<li>V\u0113lme justies laim\u012bgam vienam,<\/li>\n<li>Piln\u012bbas saj\u016bta un taml\u012bdz\u012bgi.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Vec\u0101ki m\u012blest\u012bbu raksturo \u0161\u0101di:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>R\u016bpes,<\/li>\n<li>pal\u012bdz\u0113t,<\/li>\n<li>V\u0113lme sniegt savam b\u0113rnam lab\u0101ko,<\/li>\n<li>Pie\u0137er\u0161an\u0101s un t\u0101.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Un k\u0101 m\u0113s defin\u0113jam sevis m\u012blest\u012bbu?<\/p>\n<h3>IZAICIN\u0100JUMS<\/h3>\n<p>Ja dom\u0101jat, ka m\u012blat sevi, m\u0113\u0123iniet atrast v\u0101rdus, lai aprakst\u012btu saj\u016btu, kas jums ir pret SEVI. K\u0101das saj\u016btas rodas, dom\u0101jot par sevi? K\u0101 tu sevi redzi no malas? Vai esat lepns un apmierin\u0101ts ar sevi? Vai varb\u016bt tu esi dusm\u012bgs un nesaproti?&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Ir svar\u012bgi iedzi\u013cin\u0101ties sav\u0101s patiesaj\u0101s saj\u016bt\u0101s, nevis taj\u0101s &quot;standarta&quot; vai taj\u0101s, ko mums iebaro vide.<\/p>\n<p>Padom\u0101 par to. Nav tik viegli, vai ne?<\/p>\n<h2>K\u0101p\u0113c iedvesmojo\u0161as fr\u0101zes var b\u016bt maldino\u0161as?<\/h2>\n<p>Pirms to atkl\u0101t <span style=\"color: rgb(46, 43, 95);\">s<\/span><span style=\"color: rgb(139, 0, 255);\">t.i<\/span><span style=\"color: rgb(255, 0, 0);\">e<\/span><span style=\"color: rgb(255, 127, 0);\">b<\/span><span style=\"color: rgb(204, 204, 17);\">u<\/span><span style=\"color: rgb(0, 255, 0);\">k<\/span><span style=\"color: rgb(0, 0, 255);\">l<\/span><span style=\"color: rgb(46, 43, 95);\">i<\/span><span style=\"color: rgb(139, 0, 255);\">n<\/span><span style=\"color: rgb(255, 0, 0);\">g<\/span><span style=\"color: rgb(255, 127, 0);\">a<\/span> recepte, kas s\u0101kas ar sevis m\u012blest\u012bbu, man ir j\u0101preciz\u0113 da\u017eas lietas.<\/p>\n<p>K\u0101 jau min\u0113ju, m\u012blest\u012bbu katrs saprot l\u012bdz\u012bgi, bet tom\u0113r sav\u0101d\u0101k. Un patm\u012bl\u012bba ir v\u0113l sav\u0101d\u0101ka. Nepie\u013caujiet k\u013c\u016bdu, dom\u0101jot, ka patm\u012bl\u012bba var b\u016bt akla! N\u0113, n\u0113, tas t\u0101 nemaz nav. \u013bauj man paskaidrot.<\/p>\n<p>J\u016bs, iesp\u0113jams, esat dzird\u0113ju\u0161i iedvesmojo\u0161o fr\u0101zi daudzas reizes <strong>&quot;m\u012bli sevi t\u0101du, k\u0101ds esi&quot;<\/strong>. Ko tas \u012bsti noz\u012bm\u0113?<\/p>\n<p>Tas nav nekas vair\u0101k k\u0101 attaisnojums, lai paliktu taj\u0101 pa\u0161\u0101 punkt\u0101 un nejustos slikti. Liekais svars, sm\u0113\u0137\u0113\u0161ana, alkohola lieto\u0161ana, da\u017e\u0101das citas atkar\u012bbas un aps\u0113st\u012bbas, dusmas, agresija, manipul\u0101cijas... t\u0101s ir tikai da\u017eas no liet\u0101m, no kur\u0101m da\u017eiem cilv\u0113kiem vajadz\u0113tu, bet citi v\u0113l\u0113tos atbr\u012bvoties sav\u0101 dz\u012bv\u0113.<\/p>\n<p>Un \u0161\u0137iet, ka tie\u0161i tad, kad vi\u0146i s\u0101k spert savus pirmos so\u013cus uz izaugsmi, k\u0101ds sve\u0161inieks izn\u0101k no \u0113rk\u0161\u0137og\u0101m un \u010dukst: &quot;m\u012bli sevi t\u0101du, k\u0101ds esi&quot;. Un viss ir k\u0101rt\u012bb\u0101 <span style=\"color: rgb(0, 255, 0);\">Mr<\/span><span style=\"color: rgb(0, 0, 255);\">a<\/span><span style=\"color: rgb(46, 43, 95);\">s<\/span><span style=\"color: rgb(139, 0, 255);\">i<\/span><span style=\"color: rgb(255, 0, 0);\">k<\/span><span style=\"color: rgb(255, 127, 0);\">e<\/span><span style=\"color: rgb(212, 212, 9);\">i<\/span><span style=\"color: rgb(0, 255, 0);\">N\u0113<\/span><span style=\"color: rgb(0, 0, 255);\">i<\/span><span style=\"color: rgb(46, 43, 95);\">a<\/span>.<\/p>\n<p>Cilv\u0113ks uzskata, ka vi\u0146am nav j\u0101main\u0101s, jo pats galvenais ir m\u012bl\u0113t sevi ar visu net\u012bro bag\u0101\u017eu! <strong>\u0160\u012b ir maldino\u0161a fr\u0101ze, un daudzi to p\u0101rprot.<\/strong> J\u0101, sevi vajag m\u012bl\u0113t, bet ne akli. Jums ir j\u0101m\u012bl sevi, jo jums pat\u012bk pats. <a href=\"#footnote-1-5767\" id=\"note-1-5767\" class=\"footnote-link\">1<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Es person\u012bgi apzin\u0101ti nemekl\u0113ju sevis m\u012bl\u0113\u0161anu...<\/p>\n<p>...Tikai laim\u012bgu nejau\u0161\u012bbu, da\u017eu gr\u0101matu un dz\u012bves p\u0101rmai\u0146u d\u0113\u013c es p\u0113k\u0161\u0146i k\u0101du dienu, atrodoties pu\u0137u dob\u0113, sapratu, ka es sevi m\u012blu!<\/p>\n<h2>Bet, ak, t\u0101 m\u012blest\u012bba ir melis!<\/h2>\n<p>Abstrakti run\u0101jot, <strong>Patm\u012bl\u012bbu var iedal\u012bt divos veidos:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"\" data-id=\"16995\" width=\"615\" height=\"346\" title=\"sevis m\u012blest\u012bba-virspus\u0113ja-vai-re\u0101la\" src=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/meile-sau-pavirsutiniska-arba-tikra.jpg\" style=\"\"><\/span><\/p>\n<p>K\u0101da ir at\u0161\u0137ir\u012bba starp \u0161iem veidiem?<\/p>\n<p>Sekla m\u012blest\u012bba ir t\u0101da, kurai ner\u016bp ilgtermi\u0146a risin\u0101jumi. Vi\u0146ai r\u016bp tikai \u0160EIT UN TAGAD, un n\u0101kotne un sekas neeksist\u0113.<\/p>\n<p>\u0160\u0101da m\u012blest\u012bba ir paredz\u0113ta tikai mierin\u0101jumam, \u013caujot sev mirklim, nedom\u0101jot par n\u0101kotnes izredz\u0113m. Es \u0161\u0101du m\u012blest\u012bbu sauktu par meliem. Tas ir t\u0101pat k\u0101 ar tiem d\u012bvainajiem putek\u013cs\u016bc\u0113ju p\u0101rdev\u0113jiem \u2013 tas p\u0101rv\u0113r\u0161 tavas smadzenes putek\u013cos, un, kam\u0113r tu saproti, kas noticis, ir par v\u0113lu mekl\u0113t vainu.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Piem\u0113ram:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Mar\u012bte v\u0113las skat\u012bties televizoru. R\u0101da savu m\u012b\u013c\u0101ko filmu. Ta\u010du vi\u0146a zina, ka vajag iem\u0113\u0123in\u0101t et\u012bdi uz klavier\u0113m, jo p\u0113c m\u0113ne\u0161a v\u0113las piedal\u012bties M\u0101tes dienas koncert\u0101. Marijai ir divas izv\u0113les:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Nem\u0113\u0123iniet un neskatieties video,<\/li>\n<li>M\u0113\u0123iniet un neskatieties video.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Pirmaj\u0101 gad\u012bjum\u0101 Marite uzreiz g\u016btu gandar\u012bjumu no smiekl\u012bgiem video. Otrk\u0101rt, gandar\u012bjums par izn\u0101k\u0161anu uz skatuves b\u016btu j\u016btams pavisam dr\u012bz.<\/p>\n<p>Ar\u012b baudas &quot;daudzums&quot; \u013coti at\u0161\u0137iras. P\u0113c koncerta apmekl\u0113juma un aplausu sa\u0146em\u0161anas Marite izjustu liel\u0101ku eiforiju nek\u0101 p\u0113c video noskat\u012b\u0161an\u0101s.<\/p>\n<p>Maryte uzskata, ka dal\u012bba koncert\u0101 vi\u0146ai dos daudz p\u0101rliec\u012bbas par sevi turpm\u0101kaj\u0101 pianistes karjer\u0101. T\u0101 ar\u012b liks vi\u0146ai lepoties ar sevi. Bet videoklipi ir tik jautri un vilino\u0161i...<\/p>\n<p><span><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"\" data-id=\"16994\" width=\"955\" height=\"593\" title=\"izv\u0113le-\u0101tri-vai-pat\u012bkami-milena-koles-debesyla\" src=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/pasirinkimai-greiti-ar-malonus-milena-koles-debesyla.jpg\" style=\"\"><\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Ko izv\u0113l\u0113tos TU?<\/strong> \/\/ Ilustr\u0101cijas autore Mil\u0113na Ko\u013ca<\/p>\n<h2>Dopam\u012bns dikt\u0113 savus noteikumus?<\/h2>\n<p style=\"\">M\u0113s esam prieku mekl\u0113t\u0101ji rad\u012bjumi. M\u016bsu smadzen\u0113s atrodas t\u0101 sauktie baudas centri, kur izdal\u0101s \u0137\u012bmiskais savienojums dopam\u012bns. <a href=\"#footnote-2-5767\" id=\"note-2-5767\" class=\"footnote-link\">2<\/a> Vi\u0146\u0161 ir atbild\u012bgs par to, lai m\u0113s justos laim\u012bgi. T\u0101p\u0113c ir \u013coti norm\u0101li, ka jums ir atkar\u012bba no dopam\u012bna. <a href=\"#footnote-3-5767\" id=\"note-3-5767\" class=\"footnote-link\">3<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Kas stimul\u0113 dopam\u012bna ra\u017eo\u0161anu? Lietas, kas mums pat\u012bk un lietas, kas m\u016bs izklaid\u0113. No laba seksa l\u012bdz skaistam manik\u012bram. <a href=\"#footnote-4-5767\" id=\"note-4-5767\" class=\"footnote-link\">4<\/a><\/p>\n<p>M\u0113s gribam prieku \u0101tri un daudz, t\u0101p\u0113c gandr\u012bz vienm\u0113r izv\u0113lamies viegl\u0101ko ce\u013cu. T\u0101p\u0113c daudzi cilv\u0113ki to dod priek\u0161roku <a href=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/lv\/maksla-bez-filmas-un-speles\/\" style=\"outline: none;\">skatoties televizoru un sp\u0113l\u0113jot datorsp\u0113les<\/a>, nevis vingrot vai pagatavot gardas vakari\u0146as.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Bet patiesa m\u012blest\u012bba prasa zin\u0101mas p\u016bles.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Tikai ne t\u0101p\u0113c, ka tas tiek pan\u0101kts ar cie\u0161an\u0101m, bet t\u0101p\u0113c, ka esam aizmirsu\u0161i un nepieradu\u0161i pie sava dabisk\u0101 st\u0101vok\u013ca, kas ir patm\u012bl\u012bba. Cilv\u0113ks, kur\u0161 patiesi m\u012bl sevi, vienm\u0113r nov\u0113l\u0113s sev to lab\u0101ko. Nevis fikt\u012bvais, bet ilgsto\u0161ais labums. T\u0101da labest\u012bba, kas garant\u0113s laimi uz ilgu laiku.<\/p>\n<p>T\u0101p\u0113c, ja Marite izv\u0113l\u0113tos m\u0113\u0123in\u0101jumu, nevis skat\u012btos video, vi\u0146a nodro\u0161in\u0101tu sev liel\u0101ku laimi n\u0101kotnei, tagad upur\u0113jot kaut ko maz\u0101ku. Un v\u0113l\u0101k tu pateiksi sev paldies.<\/p>\n<p>Tom\u0113r daudziem cilv\u0113kiem ir \u013coti nepareiza izpratne par sevis m\u012blest\u012bbu.<\/p>\n<p>T\u0101 nav akla sevis piel\u016bg\u0161ana un mierin\u0101\u0161ana vai savu k\u013c\u016bdu pie\u0146em\u0161ana. Protams, mums visiem ir tr\u016bkumi. Tom\u0113r ne visi no mums ir ap\u0146\u0113m\u012bbas pilni tos labot. Patiesa patm\u012bl\u012bba nav k\u0101 pl\u0101ksne, kas iestr\u0113dzis tav\u0101 galv\u0101, kas liek tev justies lab\u0101k par saviem sliktajiem l\u0113mumiem.<\/p>\n<p>Patiesa patm\u012bl\u012bba ir tad, kad tu patiesi v\u0113lies sev lab\u0101ko un velti savu ener\u0123iju t\u0101 sasnieg\u0161anai.<\/p>\n<h3>Burvju likums.<\/h3>\n<p>Bet tas viss mal\u0101! Es beidzot varu to atbr\u012bvot <strong>vien\u012bgais princips, kas jums ir nepiecie\u0161ams m\u012bl\u0113t sevi.<\/strong> Vai tu esi gatavs?<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">Jums ir j\u0101b\u016bt piln\u012bb\u0101 atv\u0113rtam pret sevi.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"width: 100%;\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"\" width=\"175\" height=\"137\" title=\"P\u0113di\u0146as_att\u0113ls_03\" data-id=\"41605\" src=\"\/\/debesyla.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/tcb_content_templates\/contentblock\/images\/Quotation_marks_image_03.png\" style=\"\"><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"\"><span style=\"font-size: 1em;\">J\u0101, es saprotu, ka burvju likums neizklaus\u0101s \u012bpa\u0161i ma\u0123iski. Bet paties\u012bba sl\u0113pjas \u0161aj\u0101 vienk\u0101r\u0161\u012bb\u0101.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Tikai piln\u012bb\u0101 atv\u0113rts pret sevi cilv\u0113ks var augt un p\u0101riet uz &quot;augst\u0101ku l\u012bmeni&quot;. Vai j\u016bs zin\u0101t, cik reizes esat sev par kaut ko melojis un p\u0113c tam to no\u017e\u0113lojis? Dro\u0161i vien bezgal\u012bgi. Es zinu, jo ar\u012b es to dar\u012bju.<\/p>\n<p>Katru reizi, kad tev par kaut ko j\u0101pie\u0146em l\u0113mums, bet tu j\u016bti \u0161aubas, pajaut\u0101 sev: &quot;Vai es tie\u0161\u0101m to gribu&quot;?<\/p>\n<p><span><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"\" data-id=\"17264\" width=\"955\" height=\"5626\" title=\"\" src=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/stephen-fry-citata-komiksas-lietuviskai-sportavimas-pakeisti-save.jpg\" style=\"\"><\/span><\/p>\n<h2>\u0160eit ir da\u017ei praktiski padomi, k\u0101 b\u016bt piln\u012bgi atkl\u0101tam pret sevi.<\/h2>\n<h3>PIRMAIS: Neignor\u0113jiet savas emocijas.<\/h3>\n<p>Kad j\u016btaties dusm\u012bgs \u2013 pasakiet (sev), ka j\u016btaties dusm\u012bgs; kad j\u016bti m\u012blest\u012bbu - saki, ka j\u016bti m\u012blest\u012bbu; kad j\u016bti bailes - saki, ka j\u016bti bailes un t\u0101 t\u0101l\u0101k.<\/p>\n<p>Ja k\u0101da situ\u0101cija j\u016bs kaitin\u0101ja vai lika justies nepat\u012bkamai, veltiet laiku, lai p\u0101rdom\u0101tu notiku\u0161\u0101s saj\u016btas. <a href=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/lv\/jausmu-valdymas\/\" style=\"outline: none;\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Nok\u013c\u016bstiet sav\u0101 st\u0101vokl\u012b un nem\u0113\u0123iniet to apspiest.<\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>Pajaut\u0101jiet sev: <\/strong>K\u0101p\u0113c \u0161\u012b situ\u0101cija mani kaitin\u0101ja? Un atbildiet uz jaut\u0101jumu p\u0113c iesp\u0113jas detaliz\u0113t\u0101k. <a href=\"#footnote-5-5767\" id=\"note-5-5767\" class=\"footnote-link\">5<\/a><\/p>\n<p>M\u0113\u0123iniet analiz\u0113t savas j\u016btas katr\u0101 ne\u0113rt\u0101 situ\u0101cij\u0101.<\/p>\n<p>...Un nebaidieties atz\u012bt sev, ka, ja j\u016btat greizsird\u012bbu, kaunu, nicin\u0101jumu - \u0161\u012bs emocijas nedr\u012bkst sl\u0113pt, t\u0101s ir j\u0101izp\u0113ta un j\u0101saprot, no kurienes t\u0101s n\u0101k un ar k\u0101du m\u0113r\u0137i. J\u016bs varat bezgal\u012bgi analiz\u0113t sevi sav\u0101 pr\u0101t\u0101 - neviens j\u016bs nedzird\u0113s, t\u0101p\u0113c neviens j\u016bs neties\u0101s.<\/p>\n<h3>OTR\u0100: Ja dz\u012bv\u0113 ir situ\u0101cijas, kur\u0101s nev\u0113lies iek\u013c\u016bt, neiesaistieties taj\u0101s.<\/h3>\n<p>Piem\u0113ram, ja nev\u0113lies braukt ciemos pie v\u012bram\u0101tes un baidies v\u012bram pateikt \u2013 tev ir j\u0101piek\u0101pjas \u2013, tu dari pret sevi nepareizi.<\/p>\n<p>Jums r\u016bp\u012bgi j\u0101p\u0101rdom\u0101, k\u0101p\u0113c nev\u0113laties to dar\u012bt. Varb\u016bt v\u012bram\u0101te tevi kritiz\u0113 un tas grauj tavu pa\u0161apzi\u0146u? Vai varb\u016bt v\u0113laties uzzin\u0101t katru s\u012bkumu par savu dz\u012bvi, kaut ar\u012b nemaz nev\u0113laties ar to dal\u012bties? Vai ar\u012b vi\u0146a ir briesm\u012bga persona \u2014 tir\u0101ns ar sievietes galvu \u2014 un j\u016bs nev\u0113laties ar vi\u0146u neko dar\u012bt?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Tad atbildiet sev god\u012bgi<\/strong>, k\u0101p\u0113c tas t\u0101 ir, un pie\u0146emiet l\u0113mumu, kas jums \u0161\u0137iet vislo\u0123isk\u0101kais un vislab\u0101kais. Piem\u0113ram, es sev teiktu: \u201cMan\u0101 dz\u012bv\u0113 ir tik daudz negat\u012bvu cilv\u0113ku <a href=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/lv\/diemzel\/\" target=\"_blank\" style=\"outline: none;\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">nav nepiecie\u0161ams un nemaz nav svar\u012bgi<\/a>ka \u0161\u012b ir mana v\u012bra m\u0101te\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>\u012as\u0101k sakot, kad j\u016bs saprotat savas iek\u0161\u0113j\u0101s saj\u016btas un to, ka t\u0101m ir pamats un t\u0101s nav tikai izdom\u0101tas, dariet to, kas, j\u016bsupr\u0101t, padar\u012bs j\u016bs vislaim\u012bg\u0101ko.&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/lv\/diemzel\/\" style=\"outline: none;\">Nebaidieties teikt &quot;Sasod\u012bts&quot; un nedariet nepat\u012bkamas lietas<\/a>. Dz\u012bve ir p\u0101r\u0101k \u012bsa sp\u012bt\u012bbai.<\/p>\n<h3>TR\u012aS: zini savas r\u012bc\u012bbas pamatu.<\/h3>\n<p>Galu gal\u0101 var b\u016bt ar\u012b pret\u0113js variants. Varb\u016bt k\u0101ds jums ir l\u016bdzis k\u0101du pakalpojumu, ko j\u016bs teor\u0113tiski var\u0113tu izdar\u012bt lieliski, bet j\u016bs esat apmulsis vai j\u016btaties kautr\u012bgs vai neveikli. Piem\u0113ram, st\u0101vot uz skatuves priek\u0161nesuma laik\u0101 un rok\u0101s karogu.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Koncentr\u0113jieties un pajaut\u0101jiet sev:<\/strong> k\u0101p\u0113c tu tie\u0161\u0101m nev\u0113lies to dar\u012bt? Vai j\u016btat bailes? Neuztic\u012bba? Kauns? Saprotiet, ka da\u017eas j\u016btas nav balst\u012btas uz personisku pieredzi un ir vienk\u0101r\u0161i neracion\u0101lu bai\u013cu piem\u0113rs.<\/p>\n<p>Atbildiet sev, k\u0101p\u0113c j\u016bs patie\u0161\u0101m nev\u0113laties veikt \u0161o pakalpojumu. Nem\u0113\u0123iniet izvair\u012bties.<\/p>\n<p>Piel\u0101gojiet jaut\u0101jumu no pirm\u0101 so\u013ca un atkl\u0101jiet paties\u0101s saj\u016btas, kas izskaidro, k\u0101p\u0113c j\u016bs t\u0101 j\u016btaties. Un tad, ja nolemjat, ka nav laba iemesla kaut ko nedar\u012bt, <a href=\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/lv\/sakt\/\" target=\"_blank\" style=\"outline: none;\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">vienk\u0101r\u0161i uzdr\u012bkst\u0113ties un pie\u0146emt pied\u0101v\u0101jumu<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Izmantojiet \u0161os vingrin\u0101jumus sav\u0101 ikdienas dz\u012bv\u0113. Ja k\u0101ds tev l\u016bdz no r\u012bta izt\u012br\u012bt m\u0101ju, bet tu to nemaz nev\u0113lies dar\u012bt, pajaut\u0101 sev, k\u0101p\u0113c. J\u016bs, iesp\u0113jams, izdom\u0101sit simts attaisnojumu, k\u0101p\u0113c tagad ir slikts laiks, ta\u010du paties\u012bba ir t\u0101da, ka j\u016bs vienk\u0101r\u0161i esat slinks. Un lieliski! Vissvar\u012bg\u0101kais ir b\u016bt atv\u0113rtam pret sevi.<\/p>\n<p>Jums prec\u012bzi j\u0101zina, k\u0101p\u0113c j\u016bs dar\u0101t to, ko dar\u0101t un vai j\u016bs patie\u0161\u0101m v\u0113laties to dar\u012bt. Jo, ja negribi, k\u0101p\u0113c to dar\u012bt?<\/p>\n<h2>Pak\u0101pies uz aug\u0161u!<\/h2>\n<p>Aizmirstiet to, ko uzskat\u012bj\u0101t par &quot;norm\u0101lu&quot;, &quot;pie\u0146emamu&quot;, &quot;vajadz\u012bgu&quot; un t\u0101 t\u0101l\u0101k l\u012bdz \u0161im. Katram no mums, iesp\u0113jams, m\u016bsu vid\u0113 ir vair\u0101ki cilv\u0113ki, kuri atk\u0101rtos to pa\u0161u, ko vi\u0146iem ir atk\u0101rtoju\u0161i citi cilv\u0113ki.<\/p>\n<p>Bet neatkar\u012bgi no t\u0101, ko vi\u0146i saka vai dom\u0101... <strong>vissvar\u012bg\u0101kais ir palikt atv\u0113rtam sev. <\/strong>Nevienam nav ties\u012bbu jums at\u0146emt \u0161o iesp\u0113ju vai piespiest j\u016bs r\u012bkoties cit\u0101di!<\/p>\n<p>Centies ieklaus\u012bties sev\u012b un apzin\u0101ties, kas ir \u012bsts un kas n\u0113, necenties izpatikt citiem cilv\u0113kiem. Ja v\u0113laties kaut ko dar\u012bt - patie\u0161\u0101m v\u0113laties - dariet to. Ja nev\u0113lies, tad nedari to. Ja jums kaut kas ir apnicis, sakiet to. Ja j\u016btaties nenov\u0113rt\u0113ts, tad k\u0101da iemesla d\u0113\u013c j\u016btaties t\u0101.<\/p>\n<p>Un, ieraugot savas paties\u0101s v\u0113lmes, s\u0101ksi b\u016bt atv\u0113rt\u0101ks pret sevi, nebaid\u012bsies atz\u012bt nepat\u012bkam\u0101s saj\u016btas vai savus tr\u016bkumus. <strong>J\u016bs sagatavosiet ide\u0101lu augsni pa\u0161cie\u0146ai un m\u012blest\u012bbai.<\/strong> Tad saprat\u012bsi, kas \u012bsti kait\u0113 tavai dz\u012bves kvalit\u0101tei un kas pal\u012bdz p\u0101riet uz augst\u0101ku l\u012bmeni.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>T\u0101d\u0101 veid\u0101 j\u016bs varat patiesi m\u012bl\u0113t sevi un pal\u012bdz\u0113t citiem dar\u012bt to pa\u0161u.&nbsp;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Nu, varb\u016bt es tevi nenov\u0113rt\u0113ju par zemu un tu var\u0113tu man pam\u0101c\u012bt par sevis m\u012blest\u012bbu no cita le\u0146\u0137a? P\u0113c tam, l\u016bdzu, atst\u0101jiet koment\u0101ru zem\u0101k. Un past\u0101stiet man, ko j\u016bs dom\u0101jat. Jo es pati v\u0113l tikai m\u0101cos.<\/p>\n<p>M\u012bl\u0113t sevi vair\u0101k,- <strong>Mil\u0113na Ko\u013ca<\/strong><\/p>\n<div class=\"footnotes\"><hr \/><ol><li id=\"footnote-1-5767\" class=\"footnote\"><p>T\u0101tad, ja v\u0113lies viltus m\u012blest\u012bbu, skan\u012bgas, pacil\u0101jo\u0161as vai uzmundrino\u0161as fr\u0101zes \u2013 tu esi nepareiz\u0101 viet\u0101! T\u0101dus padomus var atrast tablo\u012bdos, bet ne \u0161eit, M\u0101ko\u0146u emu\u0101r\u0101.<a href=\"#note-1-5767\" class=\"footnote-return\">&#8617;<\/a><\/p><\/li><!--\/#footnote-1.footnote--><li id=\"footnote-2-5767\" class=\"footnote\"><p><a href=\"https:\/\/lt.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Dopaminas\" style=\"outline: none;\">Es dom\u0101ju, ka j\u016bs par to esat dzird\u0113ju\u0161i.<\/a><a href=\"#note-2-5767\" class=\"footnote-return\">&#8617;<\/a><\/p><\/li><!--\/#footnote-2.footnote--><li id=\"footnote-3-5767\" class=\"footnote\"><p><a href=\"http:\/\/dopamineproject.org\/dopamine-addiction-da\/\" style=\"outline: none;\">Ir kust\u012bbas, kas run\u0101 par \u0161o atkar\u012bbu.<\/a><a href=\"#note-3-5767\" class=\"footnote-return\">&#8617;<\/a><\/p><\/li><!--\/#footnote-3.footnote--><li id=\"footnote-4-5767\" class=\"footnote\"><p>Un tas izskaidro, k\u0101p\u0113c da\u017ei no mums public\u0113 tr\u012bs pa\u0161bildes dien\u0101 \u2014 ir pat\u012bkami ieg\u016bt uzman\u012bbu un v\u0113l vienu Kling ska\u0146u no sava viedt\u0101lru\u0146a.<a href=\"#note-4-5767\" class=\"footnote-return\">&#8617;<\/a><\/p><\/li><!--\/#footnote-4.footnote--><li id=\"footnote-5-5767\" class=\"footnote\"><p>Pierakst\u012bt var visu \u2013 ieliet savas saj\u016btas piez\u012bmju gr\u0101mati\u0146\u0101 vai dator\u0101.<a href=\"#note-5-5767\" class=\"footnote-return\">&#8617;<\/a><\/p><\/li><!--\/#footnote-5.footnote--><\/ol><\/div><!--\/#footnotes-->","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Vai jums da\u017ek\u0101rt \u0161\u0137iet, ka j\u016bsu dz\u012bv\u0113 tr\u016bkst k\u0101da posma? \u0160\u0137iet, ka viss notiek labi, bet kaut kas tom\u0113r nav k\u0101rt\u012bb\u0101? Vai j\u016bs dz\u012bvojat p\u0113c laim\u012bgas dz\u012bves noteikumiem, bet nej\u016btaties k\u0101 uzvar\u0113t\u0101js? Ar\u012b es k\u0101dreiz t\u0101 jutos, l\u012bdz beidzot atrisin\u0101ju vienu no savas person\u012bg\u0101s dz\u012bves m\u012bklainajiem jaut\u0101jumiem un sajutu milz\u012bgu atvieglojumu. Tagad es v\u0113los dal\u012bties \u0161aj\u0101 atkl\u0101jum\u0101 ar visiem. Man\u0101 \u012bsaj\u0101 dz\u012bv\u0113 un [...]<\/p>","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":16994,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[57],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-5767","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-debesylieciai"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5767","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5767"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5767\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/16994"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5767"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5767"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5767"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}