K\u0101da \u0161eit var\u0113tu b\u016bt probl\u0113ma?<\/p>\n
Labs jaut\u0101jums... Jo to ir gr\u016bti uzdot pa\u0161am sev, \u012bpa\u0161i tad, kad citi ir tik garlaic\u012bgi un tu redzi ac\u012bmredzamus risin\u0101jumus.<\/p>\n
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- K\u0101p\u0113c j\u016bs neesat s\u0101cis rakst\u012bt savu gr\u0101matu, par kuru man tik daudz st\u0101st\u0101t?<\/li>\n
- K\u0101p\u0113c tu \u0113d k\u016bku, ja iev\u0113ro di\u0113tu?<\/li>\n
- Cigaretes saslimst ar plau\u0161u v\u0113zi!<\/li>\n
- J\u016bs atkal esat novietojis savu automa\u0161\u012bnu, t\u0101p\u0113c nav iesp\u0113jams izk\u0101pt!<\/li>\n
- K\u0101p\u0113c tu izg\u0101ji \u0101r\u0101 bez \u0161alles?<\/li>\n
- Es noskaloju, j\u016bs atkal nenolaid\u0101t poda v\u0101ku!<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
Un t\u0101 t\u0101l\u0101k\u2026<\/p>\n
Zini, kas ir d\u012bvain\u0101kais? N\u0113, nav t\u0101, ka k\u0101ds s\u016bdzas par to, ka poda v\u0101ks ir pacelts. 1<\/a> Tas viss tiek dar\u012bts no m\u012blest\u012bbas... <\/strong>Vai vismaz tiek teikts, ka tas ir no vi\u0146as. <\/p>\n
Mollija Barova, psihoterapeite un attiec\u012bbu gr\u0101matas Matchlines<\/a> autors, jaut\u0101: "Vai esat paman\u012bju\u0161i, ka m\u0113s parasti vainojam tos, kurus m\u012blam visvair\u0101k?". Un piebilst \u2013 \u0161\u0101da m\u012blest\u012bba ir greiza, d\u012bvaina un nav atkl\u0101ta.<\/p>\n
Es tev \u0161odien nejaut\u0101ju vai tu tie\u0161\u0101m m\u012bli<\/a> cilv\u0113ki, kurus mudin\u0101t dz\u012bvot gudr\u0101k, lab\u0101k, vesel\u012bg\u0101k. Es nedom\u0101ju, ka man vajadz\u0113tu \u2013 un j\u016bs jau zin\u0101t atbildi. <\/p>\n
T\u0101 viet\u0101 paskat\u012bsimies. ko zin\u0101tne saka par vaino\u0161anu? <\/strong><\/strong><\/p>\n
...Un k\u0101 bez piespie\u0161anas main\u012bt otru?<\/strong><\/p>\n
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<\/span><\/p>\nKo par p\u0101rmetumu kult\u016bru un pam\u0101c\u012bbu efektivit\u0101ti saka zin\u0101tnieki?<\/h2>\n
Es to saucu par p\u0101rmetumu kult\u016bru, jo... Nu, t\u0101 ir kult\u016bra. T\u0101 ir iem\u0101c\u012bta, un t\u0101 tiek ar\u012b atalgota. P\u0101rmetumi var k\u013c\u016bt par ieradumu, un j\u016bs pat nepaman\u012bsiet, ka to dar\u0101t. Tas ir t\u0101, it k\u0101 j\u016bs nepaman\u012btu M\u0101rd\u017eu no Simpsoniem.<\/a><\/p>\n
Pirmk\u0101rt: <\/em>Ir dabiski vainot.<\/h3>\n
Lai gan cilv\u0113ku \u0146irg\u0101\u0161an\u0101s var \u0161\u0137ist visslikt\u0101kais, es varu j\u016bs uzreiz apliecin\u0101t, ka tas nav nekas neparasts vai retums.<\/p>\n
P\u0101ru attiec\u012bbu terapeits D\u017eeimijs T\u0113rndorfs<\/a> nor\u0101da: <\/p>\n
\u201cDaudz\u0101m sieviet\u0113m ir gr\u016bti tie\u0161i run\u0101t par sav\u0101m v\u0113lm\u0113m, t\u0101p\u0113c vi\u0146as iekr\u012bt vaino\u0161anas lamat\u0101s, nevis tie\u0161i st\u0101sta saviem partneriem, ko v\u0113las. Diem\u017e\u0113l, jo vair\u0101k sieviete lam\u0101jas, jo maz\u0101k v\u012brietis klaus\u0101s, un dzimst cikls: vi\u0146\u0161 nepilda vi\u0146as v\u0113lmes, jo ir noguris klaus\u012bties pras\u012bbas, un vi\u0146a lam\u0101 arvien vair\u0101k.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Un, kam\u0113r D\u017eeimijs run\u0101 par sieviet\u0113m, tas attiecas ar\u012b uz v\u012brie\u0161iem. Man ar\u012b bija probl\u0113ma ar aizr\u0101d\u012b\u0161anu - es \u017e\u0146audzu cilv\u0113kus ar saviem (labajiem) ieteikumiem.<\/p>\n
P\u0101rmetumi ir k\u0101 b\u0113rna raud\u0101\u0161ana. Un es nedom\u0101ju, ka ir vajadz\u012bgi p\u0113t\u012bjumi, lai saprastu, ka z\u012bdai\u0146i raud, lai piesaist\u012btu uzman\u012bbu. Vi\u0146i raud ne jau t\u0101p\u0113c, ka raud! Vi\u0146i raud t\u0101p\u0113c, ka vi\u0146iem ir k\u0101das vajadz\u012bbas - vi\u0146i ir izsalku\u0161i, vi\u0146iem ir bail, vi\u0146iem ir garlaic\u012bgi, vi\u0146u k\u0101jstarpes ir slapjas nosl\u0113pumainu iemeslu d\u0113\u013c...<\/p>\n
L\u012bdz\u012bgi, <\/strong>p\u0101rmetumi ir sava veida m\u012blest\u012bbas izpausme. <\/strong>Otra persona r\u016bp\u0113jas, t\u0101p\u0113c j\u016bs m\u0113\u0123in\u0101t vi\u0146u nospiest uz lab\u0101ku pusi. Tikai ne p\u0101r\u0101k efekt\u012bvi.<\/p>\n
Ir viegli vainot, jo m\u0113s saprotam, ko sak\u0101m, bet nesaprotam (un nevaram) saprast, ko dzird citi. Mums vislo\u0123isk\u0101kais \u0161\u0137iet ieteikums "Nu, \u0161odien noejiet kaut puskilometru", jo m\u0113s pa\u0161i to sp\u0113jam. Glu\u017ei t\u0101pat lo\u0123iska \u0161\u0137iet kritika \u201cKo, spied un velk un dar\u012bts!?\u201d, jo pa\u0161i to neesam piedz\u012bvoju\u0161i.<\/p>\n
P\u0101rmetums ir visaugst\u0101kais apstiprin\u0101juma neobjektivit\u0101te<\/a> ("Es tev teicu, ka t\u0101 b\u016bs!") un egoisma aizspriedumi<\/a> ("Skaidrs, ka tu mani ar nol\u016bku \u0161\u0101di s\u0101pin\u0101ji!") izteiciens. T\u0101 ir k\u013c\u016bda m\u016bsu smadzen\u0113s, un mums visiem t\u0101 ir.<\/p>\n
Bet m\u0113s varam iem\u0101c\u012bties maz\u0101k lam\u0101t.<\/p>\n
Izr\u0101d\u0101s, ka:<\/em> P\u0101rmetumi ir vardarb\u012bba... kas izraisa n\u0101vi?<\/h3>\n
2014. gad\u0101 Kopenh\u0101genas universit\u0101tes p\u0113tnieki pabeidza 11 gadus ilgu p\u0113t\u012bjumu.<\/a> P\u0113tnieki sal\u012bdzin\u0101ja 9875 v\u012brie\u0161u un sievie\u0161u (vecum\u0101 no 36 l\u012bdz 52 gadiem) dz\u012bvi un attiec\u012bbas. P\u0113c 11 gadiem 196 sievietes (4%) un 226 v\u012brie\u0161i (6%) jau atrad\u0101s anapil\u012b, un gandr\u012bz puse no \u0161iem n\u0101ves gad\u012bjumiem bija v\u0113\u017ea, sirds, aknu slim\u012bbu vai nelaimes gad\u012bjumu d\u0113\u013c.<\/p>\n
...L\u016bk, kas bija negaid\u012bts: <\/strong>p\u0113t\u012bjuma dal\u012bbnieki, kuri aptauj\u0101s apgalvoja, ka vi\u0146us lam\u0101ja partneri, iek\u013cuva riska grup\u0101, kuras mirst\u012bbas iesp\u0113jam\u012bba bija par 50-100% liel\u0101ka! Kopum\u0101 cilv\u0113kiem, kuri piedz\u012bvo vair\u0101k konfliktu, ir par 50-70% liel\u0101ks n\u0101ves risks!<\/p>\n
P\u0113tnieks Rike Lunda<\/a> apkopoti \u0161\u0101di: <\/p>\n
"Reti str\u012bdi nerada lielu risku, bet past\u0101v\u012bg\u0101s nesaska\u0146as, \u0161\u0137iet, rada risku." Un piebilst: "Uztraukums citiem cilv\u0113kiem ir z\u012bme, ka m\u0113s par vi\u0146iem r\u016bp\u0113jamies. Bet, ja tas notiek katru dienu, tas nav labi."<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Skumj\u0101kais ir tas, ka p\u0101rmetumi, \u0161\u0137iet, visvair\u0101k s\u0101p v\u012brie\u0161us, \u012bpa\u0161i, ja vi\u0146i ir bezdarbnieki!?? Iesp\u0113jams, \u0161aj\u0101 gad\u012bjum\u0101 do\u0161an\u0101s uz gar\u0101\u017eu, lai pa\u0161\u0137irstos, paties\u012bb\u0101 ir vesel\u012bga, jo lielu da\u013cu emocion\u0101l\u0101 stresa v\u012brie\u0161iem rada v\u0101jas v\u012brie\u0161u soci\u0101l\u0101s saites, k\u0101 ar\u012b bailes pievilt laul\u0101to. Galu gal\u0101 v\u012brietim ir j\u0101b\u016bt for\u0161am, un vi\u0146\u0161 nevar b\u016bt nefor\u0161s... Vai vismaz vi\u0146i t\u0101 dom\u0101.<\/p>\n
...Ak, un paman\u012bj\u0101t, ka runa ir par D\u0101niju? Varam nojaust, ka Lietuv\u0101 ir t\u0101pat.<\/p>\n
Run\u0101jot par vardarb\u012bbu \u0123imen\u0113, tiek uzskat\u012bts, ka vardarb\u012bba ir tad, kad kaut kas iet p\u0101ri j\u016bsu galvai. Bet p\u0101rmetumi var b\u016bt v\u0113l s\u0101p\u012bg\u0101ka vardarb\u012bba,<\/strong> jo fiziskais p\u0101riet, un p\u0101rmetumi ien\u0101k dv\u0113sel\u0113 un gadiem ilgi grau\u017e no iek\u0161puses. T\u0101pat k\u0101 paraz\u012bts, tie kait\u0113 cilv\u0113kiem. Vair\u0101k par \u0161o situ\u0101ciju Lietuv\u0101 st\u0101sta psiholo\u0123e Dovil\u0117 Bubniene.<\/a><\/p>\n
Negaid\u012bti:<\/em> Attiec\u012bb\u0101m ir vajadz\u012bga telpa.<\/h3>\n
Un p\u0101rmetumi ir viskait\u012bg\u0101kie, kad j\u016bs run\u0101jat, kad dodat padomus... Bet j\u016bs nedodat laiku, lai \u0161os padomus izmantotu!<\/p>\n
Viena no v\u0113rt\u012bg\u0101kaj\u0101m m\u0101c\u012bb\u0101m, no kuras esmu guvusi vi\u0146a draudzene Mil\u0113na<\/a> - \u013caujiet citiem b\u016bt. Jo vair\u0101k tu sevi piespied\u012bsi, jo maz\u0101k vi\u0146i tev tic\u0113s.<\/strong> Un kad biznesa procesu eksperts Sets Godins<\/a> run\u0101 par uz\u0146\u0113mumiem, vi\u0146\u0161 run\u0101 par to pa\u0161u p\u0101rmetumu. Past\u0101v\u012bgie aicin\u0101jumi ieg\u0101d\u0101ties preci... Protams, nerada uztic\u012bbu p\u0101rdev\u0113jam.<\/p>\n
Neiropsihologs Pols P\u012brsals gr\u0101mat\u0101 Psihologi pie\u013cauj ar\u012b k\u013c\u016bdas<\/a> nor\u0101da: "\u0122imenes bie\u017e\u0101k izj\u016bk nevis p\u0101r\u0101k mazas komunik\u0101cijas, bet gan p\u0101r\u0101k daudz d\u0113\u013c."<\/p>\n
...J\u016bsu partneris, b\u0113rni, kol\u0113\u0123i vai draugi nav da\u013ca no jums. Vi\u0146i vienk\u0101r\u0161i ir noguru\u0161i no t\u0101, ka vi\u0146iem saka klaus\u012bties! Lai uzzin\u0101tu vair\u0101k par \u0161o t\u0113mu, skatiet blogerus Strelku un Belku, kuru br\u012bni\u0161\u0137\u012bgaj\u0101 rakst\u0101 Iesaku izlas\u012bt "Tuvums un att\u0101lums m\u012blest\u012bb\u0101".<\/a><\/p>\n
Neviens augs neaugs bez vietas.<\/p>\n
Un \u0161eit:<\/em> C\u012bnies - j\u016bs ieg\u016bsit ienaidniekus.<\/h3>\n
Un t\u0101p\u0113c da\u017ei cilv\u0113ki tic vakc\u012bnu kait\u0113jumam vai uzskata, ka veg\u0101ni ir traki.<\/p>\n
...K\u0101p\u0113c vi\u0146i nesaprot pamatus? T\u0101p\u0113c, ka da\u017ei zin\u0101tnieki un veg\u0101ni ir p\u0101r\u0101k agres\u012bvs. <\/strong>Mums parasti nepat\u012bk, ja tiek apstr\u012bd\u0113ts m\u016bsu viedoklis, bet tas, ko es min\u0113ju apstiprin\u0101juma neobjektivit\u0101te<\/a> ir tikai da\u013ca no probl\u0113mas.<\/p>\n
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- Pirmk\u0101rt, j\u0101, da\u017ei cilv\u0113ki saprot, ka vi\u0146i \u013coti maz saprot. Tom\u0113r sakar\u0101 ar Dunninga-Kr\u016bgera efekts<\/a> liel\u0101k\u0101 da\u013ca no mums to nedara.<\/li>\n
- Un, ja j\u016bs dom\u0101jat, ka ir svar\u012bg\u0101k argument\u0113t ar j\u016bt\u0101m nek\u0101 ar lo\u0123iku... padom\u0101jiet v\u0113lreiz. P\u0113t\u012bjumi ar vec\u0101kiem, kuri tic pret vakc\u012bn\u0101m v\u0113rstai kust\u012bbai, liecina, ka pier\u0101d\u012bjumi, izmantojot emocion\u0101lus st\u0101stus vai att\u0113lus. nedar\u012bja vair\u0101k, lai vi\u0146us p\u0101rliecin\u0101tu, k\u0101 vien fakts<\/a>.<\/li>\n
- Visbeidzot, str\u012bdi neliek mums justies nepat\u012bkamiem, bet dr\u012bz\u0101k rada v\u0113lmi skriet vai c\u012bn\u012bties. Citi p\u0113t\u012bjumi liecina, ka str\u012bdu laik\u0101 tiek aktiviz\u0113ti smadze\u0146u re\u0123ioni, kas ir atbild\u012bgi par izdz\u012bvo\u0161anu<\/a>... Un lo\u0123ikas centri ir izsl\u0113gti. Citiem v\u0101rdiem sakot, \u0161eit ir iemesls, k\u0101p\u0113c j\u016bs \u0161aj\u0101 argument\u0101 esat min\u0113jis tik bezj\u0113dz\u012bgu, bet skan\u012bgu argumentu.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
\u012as\u0101 versija ir t\u0101da str\u012bdi rada tikai jaunus ienaidniekus.<\/strong> Un v\u0113l viena lieta, ko dara mana draudzene Milena, - vi\u0146a nestr\u012bdas ar \u0101rpr\u0101t\u012bgajiem, jo str\u012bdi vi\u0146us pie pr\u0101ta nepieved\u012bs. Tikai l\u0113na, ilga, mier\u012bga...<\/p>\n
...Kas? Es jums t\u016bl\u012bt past\u0101st\u012b\u0161u, bet \u013caujiet man beigt \u0161o str\u012bdu ar v\u0113l vienu p\u0113t\u012bjumu.<\/p>\n
Izr\u0101d\u0101s, ka viens no lab\u0101kajiem veidiem, k\u0101 nomierin\u0101t pretinieku un atgriezt vi\u0146u pie pr\u0101ta, ir pal\u016bdziet vi\u0146am paskaidrot savu viedokli.<\/a> Neprasiet sevi aizst\u0101v\u0113t, bet vienk\u0101r\u0161i l\u016bdziet paskaidrojumu. Varb\u016bt ne vi\u0146\u0161, bet TU k\u013c\u016bdies?<\/strong> Galu gal\u0101, iesp\u0113jams, ka j\u016bs l\u016bdzat savu piekabi gar\u0101m, bet j\u016bs to nemaz nezin\u0101t!<\/p>\n
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<\/span><\/p>\nKo dar\u012bt? K\u0101 main\u012bt citus uz labo pusi?<\/h2>\n
Laikam jau to var nojaust. Es dom\u0101ju, ka tas jums neb\u016bs nekas nedzird\u0113ts. T\u0101tad, kur ir nozveja? Visgr\u016bt\u0101kais ir paskat\u012bties uz savu tumsu, savu uzved\u012bbu un izkrat\u012bt p\u0101rmetumus.<\/p>\n
Tas var\u0113tu neb\u016bt viegli. B\u016b\u0161u p\u0101rsteigts, ja ar\u012b tu to pa\u0146emsi! Tu uzreiz k\u013c\u016bsi lab\u0101ks cilv\u0113ks. Bet \u0161eit vissvar\u012bg\u0101kais ir m\u0113\u0123in\u0101t. Vismaz mazliet. Laika gait\u0101 tren\u0113\u0161os.<\/p>\n
...P\u0101rmetumi p\u0101rv\u0113r\u0161 jebkuras attiec\u012bbas verdz\u012bb\u0101. Vai j\u016bs to v\u0113laties?<\/p>\n
Aicinu tevi p\u0101rmetumu un dusmu viet\u0101, v\u0113lmes piespiedu k\u0101rt\u0101 main\u012bt citu par t\u0101du, k\u0101da man bija Mil\u0113na.<\/p>\n
Draugs.<\/strong><\/p>\n
Redziet, Mil\u0113na ir veg\u0101ne. Vi\u0146a tic dz\u012bvnieku \u0113\u0161anai ne p\u0101r\u0101k mor\u0101li<\/a> un noteikti ne organiski<\/a>, un sazin\u0101j\u0101s ar mani - vis\u0113d\u0101ju, kas pat nesol\u012bj\u0101s k\u013c\u016bt par veg\u0101nu! Un p\u0113k\u0161\u0146i p\u0113c tr\u012bs gadu iepaz\u012b\u0161an\u0101s es pati nol\u0113mu m\u0113nesi izm\u0113\u0123in\u0101t veg\u0101nismu. Tikai, lai p\u0101rbaud\u012btu.<\/p>\n
Vi\u0146a mani nepiespieda. Nekad.<\/strong> T\u0101 viet\u0101 vi\u0146a bija laba draudzene un aicin\u0101ja mani uz veg\u0101nu festiv\u0101liem ("N\u0101c, b\u016bs bezmaksas \u0113diens!"), ball\u012bt\u0113m ("N\u0101c, b\u016bs pica!"), piekrita satikties, kad man b\u016bs gr\u016bti ( "Satiekamies Ridiks<\/a>, parun\u0101sim!").<\/p>\n
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- Un, ja tu sarun\u0101jies ar cilv\u0113ku, kuram tu pat\u012bk k\u0101 cilv\u0113ks, kur\u0161 aicina tevi uz bezmaksas \u0113dienu, pic\u0101m un lab\u0101m sarun\u0101m... K\u0101 tu vari ar vi\u0146u nedraudz\u0113ties!?!<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Un n\u0113, Milena nav mana draudzene, t\u0101p\u0113c nesakiet: \"Ak, vi\u0146a vienk\u0101r\u0161i st\u0101v\u0113ja tur, lai j\u016bs...\". Vi\u0146a ir vienk\u0101r\u0161i velni\u0161\u0137\u012bga draudzene! K\u0101 var NEv\u0113l\u0113ties b\u016bt k\u0101 labs draugs?<\/strong><\/p>\n
T\u0101tad, paskatieties uz sav\u0101m attiec\u012bb\u0101m. Vai tu esi draugs m\u012b\u013cajiem? Vai varb\u016bt dr\u012bz\u0101k t\u0101ds bezsird\u012bgs dupsis, kuram r\u016bp tikai sava viedok\u013ca pau\u0161ana, citu cilv\u0113ku dz\u012bves "sak\u0101rto\u0161ana" un kontrole?<\/p>\n
Labs draugs:<\/p>\n
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- Paud\u012bs savu viedokli atkl\u0101ti, bez muld\u0113\u0161anas un raud\u0101\u0161anas.<\/li>\n
- Slikti viedok\u013ci. Jo ja nav interesanti, tad nav interesanti, NEKAS NAV J\u0100LABO. Pat ja cilv\u0113ks lieto narkotikas (sm\u0113\u0137\u0113, dzer, s\u0113\u017eot Facebook...<\/a>) ir vi\u0146a izv\u0113le un tu k\u0101 draugs nem\u0113\u0123in\u0101si vi\u0146u piespiest.<\/li>\n
- M\u0113\u0123in\u0101s saprast otru. Klaus\u012bsies. Un ne jau t\u0101p\u0113c, lai vi\u0146\u0161 uzreiz var\u0113tu dot padomu un risin\u0101jumu - sirsn\u012bgi uzklaus\u012bs, jo vi\u0146am ir INTERESI iepaz\u012bt citas dv\u0113seles.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
Ja tev nav iesp\u0113jams b\u016bt sirsn\u012bgam, atv\u0113rtam, nepras\u012bgam \u2013 tad god\u012bgi padom\u0101, vai ir v\u0113rts komunic\u0113t ar cilv\u0113kiem, ar kuriem komunic\u0113jam. Un padom\u0101, vai tev nav saskarsmes traumu, kuras pa\u0161am l\u0113n\u0101m vajadz\u0113tu dzied\u0113t?<\/p>\n
\u0160eit ir \u012bsa versija:<\/p>\n
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- Nevienam nepat\u012bk, ka TIEK PRAS\u012aTS.<\/li>\n
- Kad vi\u0146\u0161 pieprasa, tu vai nu gribi c\u012bn\u012bties (pat mu\u013c\u0137\u012bgos veidos), vai ar\u012b ignor\u0113, b\u0113g, sl\u0113pies.<\/li>\n
- Neviens nev\u0113las saskarties ar savt\u012bgiem, neklauso\u0161iem, dup\u0161iem.<\/li>\n
- Ikviens v\u0113las, lai vi\u0146iem b\u016btu draugi, kas pal\u012bdz, uzklausa un iedvesmo.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Es dom\u0101ju, ka, ja v\u0113laties piepras\u012bt... Lab\u0101k ir vienk\u0101r\u0161i l\u016bgt. Jaut\u0101jiet, jo nevienam nekas nav j\u0101dara.<\/strong><\/p>\n
Un, kad tu atveries, kad \u013cauj k\u0101dam citam pa\u0161am izv\u0113l\u0113ties \u2013 tie\u0161i tad notiek liel\u0101k\u0101s p\u0101rmai\u0146as. Ma\u0123iski cilv\u0113ki s\u0101k dom\u0101t \u201cVarb\u016bt es grib\u0113tu?\u201d un izm\u0113\u0123ina to, ko tu esi ieteicis visilg\u0101k. Tad atliek tikai pasmaid\u012bt un izbaud\u012bt, ka tavs padoms tika izmantots.<\/p>\n
...M\u012bliet cilv\u0113kus, kas nav t\u0101di pa\u0161i k\u0101 j\u016bs. Jo tikai ar draudz\u012bbas pal\u012bdz\u012bbu tu vari main\u012bt pasauli. Protams, j\u016bs varat dar\u012bt ar\u012b citas lietas. Es tev neko nelieku dar\u012bt. Es tikai dalos ar savu viedokli. \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n
Un k\u0101 tu dom\u0101?<\/p>\n
- M\u0113\u0123in\u0101s saprast otru. Klaus\u012bsies. Un ne jau t\u0101p\u0113c, lai vi\u0146\u0161 uzreiz var\u0113tu dot padomu un risin\u0101jumu - sirsn\u012bgi uzklaus\u012bs, jo vi\u0146am ir INTERESI iepaz\u012bt citas dv\u0113seles.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
- Un, ja j\u016bs dom\u0101jat, ka ir svar\u012bg\u0101k argument\u0113t ar j\u016bt\u0101m nek\u0101 ar lo\u0123iku... padom\u0101jiet v\u0113lreiz. P\u0113t\u012bjumi ar vec\u0101kiem, kuri tic pret vakc\u012bn\u0101m v\u0113rstai kust\u012bbai, liecina, ka pier\u0101d\u012bjumi, izmantojot emocion\u0101lus st\u0101stus vai att\u0113lus. nedar\u012bja vair\u0101k, lai vi\u0146us p\u0101rliecin\u0101tu, k\u0101 vien fakts<\/a>.<\/li>\n
- Pirmk\u0101rt, j\u0101, da\u017ei cilv\u0113ki saprot, ka vi\u0146i \u013coti maz saprot. Tom\u0113r sakar\u0101 ar Dunninga-Kr\u016bgera efekts<\/a> liel\u0101k\u0101 da\u013ca no mums to nedara.<\/li>\n