And even more often we listen to what others tell us.<\/p>\n
...But here's the problem: <\/strong>we do it all too often.<\/p>\n Too often, we give the wheel of our lives to others and give in to the rules, uncomfortable boundaries and who-knows-what-else obstacles imposed by others.<\/p>\n Eventually, our whole life turns into one big "Tell me what to do" fiesta.<\/p>\n Do these pants fit me? And what will the people around me say if I quit my job at the bank to work in a kindergarten? What if someone doesn't like my hair color? And how will my co-workers react if I quit smoking with them?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n And it's unpleasant. It's tiring. It makes us slaves to opinions. Just writing this paragraph is giving me a headache. 1<\/a><\/p>\n This has to stop. <\/strong>We must learn to stand on our feet, shake off the dust and tell the world "No, no more." And thus find the happiness in life that we have always been looking for.<\/p>\n Say hello to Greta!<\/p>\n But let me give the first word to the lady in the sky Next to Misevi\u010di\u016bt\u0117<\/strong>, who will tell about the topic of this article from her side with the book "F**k it". The Ideal Spiritual Path' review.Warning: <\/strong>Don't worry, this is just the first part of the article. I will be back in the second half. I pass the microphone to Greta.<\/p>\n Let me guess. You want:<\/p>\n Of course you want to.<\/p>\n And how do I know that?<\/p>\n Well, I was looking for how to achieve it myself. Then I found John C. Parkin's groundbreaking book, F**k it. The ideal spiritual path." 2<\/a> And I realized that the thoughts that revolve in me are nurtured in others as well.<\/p>\n I want all that too. And when I don't get it, I feel lazy, idle, egoist who doesn't do anything.<\/strong><\/p>\n However, this book changed my perspective drastically. While reading the book, I got chills and excitement more than once. The kind of excitement that comes with moments of truth or when you're afraid of something, but knowing that things will get better in the future. As I read, I felt myself changing for the better.<\/p>\n Just for one new thought.<\/p>\n \"It's very spiritual to say 'f*ck you'.\" - Pastor M. Tansend, author of \"Diary of a Heretic\"<\/p><\/blockquote>\n When you say "go f*ck" you put your "need", "want" and "must" in place and remind yourself that "It's just life" (in the words of one song).<\/strong> And you understand that first I want, and only then I do.<\/p>\n Pastor Mark Tansend then added, \u201cWell, damn it, enough of my talking. Get comfortable and prepare to never be the same again."<\/p>\n Do you often wonder why you ate two pieces of chocolate cake (with ice cream!) when you can't eat sweets at all?<\/p>\n Then say "damn those restrictions". And eat as much as you can. Eat enough, overeat and see what happens. 3<\/a><\/p>\n And it will happen like this: <\/strong>Eventually, all the sweets will choke you and you will naturally switch to porridges, soups, fruits, salads, vegetable stews and cottage cheese. Or whatever you want, but definitely not chocolate cakes with ice cream, which will make you sick and hunger will not decrease.<\/p>\n In other words, excess will show you that excess is bad.<\/strong><\/p>\n After all, trying to limit, giving up, reducing the portions of delicacies will only give more importance to everything. And you will only encourage yourself to think about food and calories even more. Although, it seems that you would like to think about clothes in a smaller size!<\/p>\n Lack and deprivation will only deepen the problem and give your temptations more meaning, value and pleasure to crime. Nothing good.<\/p>\n Say "fuck it" (or "damn it", "I spit it out" or whatever is acceptable to you) for self-restraint, restraint and self-exhaustion. Because there is one truth:<\/p>\n "You only get what you want when you lose the desire to get it."<\/strong><\/p>\n Living simply, without multiplying anything and without caring, you will not even notice how your excess weight will disappear somewhere. And a new activity will appear in your life:<\/p>\n Let me give you some more examples.<\/p>\n Well, don't move. Say: "To hell with all that nonsense, I won't do anything." And don't do it.<\/p>\n Pay the neighbor's kid to walk your dog. Meanwhile, lie on the couch and watch a movie, read a book, or do neither. Wait for the internal push to come.<\/p>\n And you won't even notice how you start doing something. <\/strong>Maybe you'll even go for a walk around the house or a walk in the park, because walking is better than lying on a bored couch.<\/p>\n Yesterday, I put off moving until 10 pm... And then I said \"No, I can't do this anymore!\", stood up, left the computer and started exercising on my own.And with such energy and enthusiasm that it was hard to believe at first!And then, the next day, the next day, the most exciting thing was that the energy inside me was so amazingly good, that I was encouraged to repeat the exercise programme again. I just couldn't sit still and leave my bones alone!<\/p>\n Among other things, when it comes to exercise programs, I highly recommend Cassey. 4<\/a> I really like it, and I guess it will be interesting for you boys to try your hand at it, too. See how tough you are and see if you can outdo Cassey.<\/p>\n Say "damn him", call in sick, buy some wine (or delicious ice cream), stay out of bed and pretend to cry. Check your limits, how long you can stay out of it.<\/p>\n Because it is possible that during the "sick" week:<\/p>\n The author of the book on working and leaving work observes that the most common comment people make about this huge part of life is \"Well, I'm not sure what I want to do yet...\".<\/p>\n But such an answer really means a gut feeling that "I don't know myself well, but I feel that something is wrong."<\/strong><\/p>\n Sifting through your desires can be difficult, but when you say "hell," misunderstandings, haste, tension, blind desires, and general panic cease to exist. And at the same time the interference stops.<\/p>\n \"Say \"screw it\" and find the courage to get a grip on yourself.\" - Author of the book<\/p><\/blockquote>\n The author of the book adds: "I guess your predicament is no different from the ones we all have to face: there are many forces working and competing within us that we are sometimes unable to resist."<\/p>\n And continues the thought:<\/p>\n "However, in our society, everything is speeding up, there is no more time to think - it is necessary to do. Therefore, you need to learn to say "hell" sometimes and figure out what you really want."<\/p>\n This lama has already found her true calling - to be a model.<\/p>\n Because life takes full responsibility for us. After all, it is not up to us where, when and what time we are born, what the weather will be like tomorrow, what we will meet unexpectedly today and how it will change our further lives.<\/p>\n We can dream one thing, but it can become another.<\/p>\n For example, a neighbour's child will offer to walk the puppy for you, and family members will completely forget your birthday. And what do you say to that? You go back in time and change the past? Or will you worry and relive the unchangeable? 6<\/a><\/p>\n No. It's better to say "fuck it", "that's enough" or "shit". And accept life as it is.<\/strong> Discovering the life we have but can't see.<\/p>\n \"Let go of the wheel of life and see what happens. And to make life even more exciting, push the speed limit all the way down.\" - Book author<\/p><\/blockquote>\n It's possible to cry and hate yourself for many things, to judge yourself all the time, to be angry at the wrong things you've done...<\/p>\n Oraaa - you can say \"f*ck you\" to your fear, your self-deprecation, your ineptitude, your laziness and your unmotivation. Then you will be relieved, and you can go on living your imperfectly perfect life in peace.<\/p>\n It's your choice.<\/p>\n Best regards,Adjacent<\/strong><\/p>\n Daniel: <\/strong>Thanks, Greta! I'll take over from here. \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n (Yes, I know that the phrase with a "b" sounds better than Greta's "go sh*kt". But I put the b*b - that's how I talk. And if you don't like this phrase - you'll soon understand why it's even better).<\/p>\n News: <\/strong>The world is cruel.<\/p>\n Accept it. And learn to live with the world.<\/p>\n Here's the thing: when you go to the seaside for the weekend, it starts raining, when you go to the lake, you realise your inflatable boat is leaking, and when you're sitting at home, you realise you missed a fun event in the city.<\/p>\n So what are you doing?<\/p>\n Fighting? Do you blame Nagl \u0160uliai for not predicting that it would rain, even though his name is coded twice? Do you blame others for rushing because you took the boat but not the masking tape? In general, do you always blame the environment, while you poop and tap dance? 7<\/a><\/p>\n Well, you shouldn't. It's not healthy.<\/p>\n That's not damn healthy.<\/p>\n It's healthier to learn to say \"f*ck it\" once in a while, or however you like... and to forgive the environment for its faults, and accept it for what it is.<\/p>\n \"Just as we forgive our offenders.\" - Prayer \"Our Father\", v. 8.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n But let me give you a few more examples that Greta didn't mention where a simple "b*b" can change your life for the better. And hundreds of times happier.<\/p>\n Here, this philosophy applies to relationships. And I know you care; more or less a fifth of the citizens of Debesy, who answer the question of what is the biggest problem that afflicts them, mention relationships with other people. \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n So, imagine that you got into an argument with some kind of rude, unpleasant and unfriendly person. Maybe even a relative or (it seems) loved one.<\/p>\n Yes, you can argue and argue your truths. You can try to pull your hair out of your head and argue that you are right and the \"sinner\" in front of you is wrong...<\/p>\n ...Or you can say it like this, hmm... young man.<\/p>\n And forgive. Give the fool a way.<\/strong><\/p>\n You can be angry. Or you can forgive. Spit on other people's quarrels, anger, and maybe even try understand their point of view and learn to live more peacefully<\/a>. In the end, you might even realize that it was you who caused the quarrel.<\/p>\n You can be angry that your girlfriend (or boyfriend) left you, or stole from you, or even got horny with some sexy Jew from Tel Aviv... Or you can say \"f*ck it, this is too much\" and finally be glad you didn't waste your life with the wrong person.<\/p>\n It is likely that she will apologize in 2 years, and you will have forgiven everything! By the way, the last story happened in my life. I could tell something was wrong when she said after a long silence, "Daniel, I have something to confess to you."<\/p>\n In the same way, it is possible to listen to the suggestions of other, maybe even completely ignorant, people and live the lives they suggest. To listen to grandparents, parents, ugly grandma's neighbor, teachers at school or passers-by on the street.<\/p>\n After all, here in Lithuania, some people like to condemn others and express their pessimistic forecasts...<\/p>\n ...Or you can say \"I don't give a f*ck about your opinion\" and still do what you wanted. Spit on the suppressive comments and prove that what you want to do can be done.<\/strong><\/p>\n Because the world will not remember people who are afraid of their own dreams.<\/p>\n Tom got a chance to fly red balloons, would you take that opportunity?<\/p>\n I've never understood why some people try to do things they hate perfectly. 8<\/a> And if you don't do it, you get nervous.<\/p>\n You know the people and jobs I'm talking about. These are:<\/p>\n Answer honestly - what the hell is the point of trying to do SUCH a job perfectly?<\/p>\n Is it to satisfy some evaluators who, at the end of life (and perhaps at Christmas), divide all boys and girls into \"good job\" and \"bad job\"?<\/p>\n ...Please have pity on yourself and don't do this.<\/p>\n Because believe me, if I had tried to perfectly plot and calculate my course projects (or my bachelor's thesis), I would not have finally finished my four-year epic.<\/p>\n How many times do you think I have said \"oh shit, it's coming\" in my four years? Hint: almost every job. And I got my diploma with a 9. 11<\/a><\/p>\n \"20% of work creates 80% of value.\" - The Pareto principle<\/p><\/blockquote>\n Instead of trying to do the job perfectly (or worse, you would be afraid to make a mistake and not even start<\/a>), better listen Pareto principle<\/a>. And allow yourself to say \"oh sh*t, it's coming\" more often.<\/p>\n Because wasting energy on worthless works is foolishness and it's time to stop thinking that only perfect works achieve the goal.<\/strong><\/p>\n (If Apple phones, BMW cars, or Snowflake refrigerators were perfect, would we still get updates and fixes? Even though they have their flaws, they're still some of the best in the world.)<\/p>\n This cat has it all. He's like James Bond, but softer and can purr.]<\/p>\n Short answer: it doesn't. Because did you read the title of the article? I mention "more often" in it, not "always".<\/p>\n And that makes all the difference. Compare:<\/p>\n A) A life where you don't care about anything.<\/strong><\/p>\n Where you lie drunk and passed out in your bed and want nothing out of life except to occasionally take your children out, drink \"real men's beer\", clean up your wife\/husband, show your love for Putin on Delphi, and vote for the Labour Party, because you will get 10 euros.<\/p>\n ...Or...<\/p>\n B) A life where you care about everything except what doesn't matter.<\/strong><\/p>\n It's a life where you can pay attention to the milk that's gone bad in the fridge and the idiot from the first option... But you choose not to. And the important things - love, respect, your family - remain the most important part of life.<\/p>\n It's the difference between total indifference, which is terrible, and living with one more \"well and the hell with it\", which allows you to sort out the important parts of life from the totally, totally unimportant.<\/p>\n No, it shouldn't. But you should naturally feel it.<\/p>\n Because we all have principles that are important to us... And principles that are important only because they are important to others. Or they don't matter to anyone at all, but no one has dared to check.<\/p>\n It would not be appropriate to send everything by wind, because if you send everything - then what will you have in your hands? Indifference?<\/p>\n The essence of the principle of "Well, it goes shit" is not to become indifferent. <\/strong>Its essence is to set boundaries for things that are completely unimportant to you. Expand your boundaries and become freer, happier and simpler.<\/p>\n And you really don't want to become an indifferent chronic or drug addict.<\/p>\n And the point is to enjoy your life. YOUR life.<\/p>\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/greta-miseviciute.jpg\" "\\"adjacent")
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A short example:<\/em> How does it work?<\/h3>\n
So what to do?<\/h2>\n
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A) Too lazy to move and do sports?<\/h3>\n
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So we should learn to tell the world "I'm sorry" and forgive it for its troubles.<\/h2>\n
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C) In relationships with other people.<\/h3>\n
D) Choosing your life path and vocation.<\/h3>\n
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<\/figure>\nA few frequently asked questions and honest answers to them.<\/h2>\n
1) But doesn't this approach to life and philosophy make us indifferent monsters who spit on everything?<\/h3>\n
2) But should such phrases be repeated in all cases of life? What will happen if I do this?<\/h3>\n
3) And then what is the point of trying, creating something and living, if you can simply take and throw everything to hell?<\/h3>\n