This has happened to me countless times. Just because I didn't know how to keep quiet and not tell anyone about my goals, it just happened.<\/p>\n
...Of course, these days there are plenty of experts who say that to achieve a goal, you have to commit. 1<\/a> It is said that this way you will force yourself to work + you will get help from those around you.<\/p>\n But some interesting research suggests otherwise.<\/p>\n However, here lies the problem: <\/strong>not knowing who and how to express your dreams can only create more trouble. And these studies aren't even talking about the criticism you're sure to get.<\/p>\n [tcb-script]jQuery(function($){$(window).scroll(function(e){scrollTimeOut = true; if ($('#rodykle').length){if($(window).scrollTop() + window.innerHeight > $('#rodykle').offset().top) {setTimeout(function(){$('#rodykle').addClass('screen');}, 750);}});});[\/tcb-script]<\/p>\n Back in 1933, 2<\/a>\u00a01982, 3<\/a>\u00a02006 4<\/a>\u00a0and 2009 5<\/a> A series of detailed studies on human motivation and aspirations were carried out in 2008. The results of the research were somewhat unexpected.<\/p>\n It turns out that people who publicize their goals loudly, much more often do not fully achieve their goals. Expressing your aspirations brings with it a sense of completion.\u00a0<\/strong>And therefore the desire to continue the work is lost.<\/p>\n "People already know I'm into this" is an example of this sentiment. This is a particularly toxic mindset, because why keep working if everyone is already applauding you for how cool you are?<\/p>\n And public announcements on Instagram and Facebook to only semi-acquainted people are a great medium for promoting this feeling.<\/p>\n I experienced the same feeling as soon as I posted about mine a month without garbage<\/a> results... \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n ...Derek Sivers, one of today's most prolific creatives 6<\/a> presents this idea in more detail in his TED talk:<\/p>\n When you say your goals out loud, sometimes you also set a deadline. That's not a bad thing, deadlines help you finish the job... But the problem comes when you set a goal and then build a foundation, that it is difficult to implement in time<\/strong>.<\/p>\n And it happens. You say you're going to do it, and just as you start, you realise that, ooooiiiii... I'm going to be a bit late. Or very. And now I'm behind on other things too. And everything is on fire.<\/p>\n Chrono-optimism is one of the biggest problems in creating new challenges for yourself<\/a>. And while it helps Elon Musk raise more investor money because optimism is engaging, working only for yourself... Well, you see how that works.<\/p>\n Another problem is sometimes only after starting to achieve the goal you see that you would not be happy in the end.\u00a0<\/strong>In your head you thought it would work out, but in reality it seems that... Well... \ud83d\udca9 it does.<\/p>\n And what happens to such obstacles?<\/p>\n After all, you wouldn't be such a loser if you had...<\/p>\n Familiar, isn't it? \ud83d\ude00<\/p>\n However, if your goal is yours, you have the right to do with it as you wish.<\/p>\n One of my biggest hobbies is planning. Planning doesn't have to be complicated to feel like you've done the work.\u00a0<\/strong>Just relax... Share your ideas with friends...<\/p>\n ...And do this the plan<\/strong>.<\/p>\n Another one. After all, it's good to have a second plan, isn't it? There is no shame in stock! And, you know, maybe now I will draw that plan visually. And now I will use all of them 5 time planning methods<\/a> and I will put everything in the calendar.<\/p>\n And now, you know, I'll talk to my friends and mom. They are not specialists, but maybe they will give you some advice. You know, you have to ask?<\/strong><\/p>\n Here's what my plans wall looked like in my workroom in 2015. Guess if all the planning paid off... \ud83e\udd26\u200d\u2642\ufe0f<\/p>\n By the way, on the left - the second version of my standing desk<\/a>.<\/p>\n Not all people will understand you. And I'm not talking about useful criticism to learn from<\/a>... But it's also partly about her.\u00a0Every moment you spend doubting is a moment you don't spend trying.<\/strong><\/p>\n However, admit that you know best about the idea - what you will do and how.<\/p>\n And there is no shortage of "experts" who will find 394+ reasons why it will fail. They will explain through "logical" thinking and their 30 years of experience. Your parents or grandparents are not your enemies. They just don't know the whole situation.<\/p>\n Well, if you think the doubt is worthy of attention...<\/p>\n It gets easier, doesn't it?<\/p>\n In principle, it is not a bad thing to announce targets. It's just important...<\/p>\n If you want to get the most out of the advice - listen to people who have been in your shoes recently<\/strong>.<\/p>\n For example, if you are looking for a job, someone can recommend you "send an illustrated CV". 20 years ago it worked because there was no photoshop in those days. Today, unfortunately, different techniques would be needed. And what exactly - I can't recommend, because I can't even imagine what exactly works today!<\/p>\n ...See? You need people who have recently solved your problem. Let's call that group of people the Mastermind group.<\/strong><\/p>\n How to find it?<\/p>\n Continue to communicate with these people and in time you will gather a circle of acquaintances. Invite everyone to meet. Enjoy the company. Enjoy useful, practical, honest advice.<\/p>\n ...But what if you don't know people who have recently gone through your problem?<\/strong><\/p>\n You may not find the people you need quickly. There may be. Especially if your problem area is very niche. So the second part is also important...<\/p>\n Your desire to share your dreams should not be your main desire. Don't tell about the goals until you start working towards them, don't tell if you feel that the story will become more pleasant than the work.<\/p>\n After all, your goal is the point. Not a story about him.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u2026Or not? \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\nIt turns out that expressing your goals and dreams to whomever will listen...<\/h2>\n
First of all:<\/em> You reduce your desire to work to the limit.<\/h3>\n
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Secondly:\u00a0<\/em>You imprison yourself in past decisions.<\/h3>\n
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Thirdly:\u00a0<\/em>You trick yourself into doing something.<\/h3>\n
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...What to do? Only say your objectives where and when it will be useful. Don't tell just anyone.<\/h2>\n
Why: <\/em>For a group of like-minded people.<\/h3>\n
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How: <\/em>By the way.<\/h3>\n