{"id":14672,"date":"2013-01-26T22:52:00","date_gmt":"2013-01-26T20:52:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/2013\/01\/kaip-pakeisti-save-faktai-ir-argumentai.html"},"modified":"2021-02-19T21:36:41","modified_gmt":"2021-02-19T19:36:41","slug":"kaip-pakeisti-save-faktai-ir-argumentai","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/en\/how-to-change-yourself-facts-and-arguments\/","title":{"rendered":"[Pirmasis mano straipsnis]<\/i> Kaip pakeisti save? Faktai ir argumentai"},"content":{"rendered":"

The text below is the first and oldest post by Debesyla, published on January 26, 2013. It is not updated or patched 1<\/a> and specially left as a memory. Debesyla started here.<\/p>\n

1) You cannot change yourself<\/h2>\n

You need something to lean on, something to climb on, something to lift you higher. You can't lift yourself up, no way, it's like trying to pick yourself up by the butt and lift yourself up - it's impossible no way*<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

In order to change yourself, you need to make the change inevitable. You have to do it so that the environment forces you to change, no matter how scary it sounds. Examples are widely seen - remember that time when you were afraid to stand on the stage, and suddenly someone pushed you into it.. Did you feel fear when you finished your speech? Maybe, but it was much smaller than before.<\/p>\n

Previous thresholds help to cross new thresholds. Learn slowly and you won't notice how you became a master. The first two times don't listen to the desire to run away, the third time - accept it and run away. Two times will be enough, the next test will last longer.<\/p>\n

2) Be wrong, be wrong and be wrong again.<\/h2>\n

What doesn't kill us makes us stronger, Bob Marley once said**<\/strong>. Learn fast, learn so fast it hurts.<\/p>\n

If you want to learn to scuba dive, throw your fancy cell phone into a shallow part of the lake, but not so shallow that you can reach it without diving. If you save - bravo, you saved your treasure.. And at the same time you learned to dive.. If, otherwise, you didn't save or accidentally drowned - well, it's okay, you'll try harder next time.<\/p>\n

3) Don't try to brag to everyone about what you do.<\/h2>\n

I will not give the source of some studies*** <\/strong>According to knowledge, people who boasted to their friends that they were accomplishing some goal they had set (a variety of goals) more often "finished" the goal earlier than those who did not brag.<\/p>\n

It is based on the fact that people who boasted received the blessings and encouragement of those around them more quickly, which encouraged the idea that the goal had already been largely achieved. In other words, the attention of those around you lulled you to fulfill your determined goal as it should be, thinking that you have already done what you need to do, you are done. Check for yourself when you try to quit smoking or start going to the gym - just don't mention it to anyone.<\/p>\n

That's it for now, maybe in the future I will remember more useful theoretical information for those who will try to change themselves. Or those around you if you are so good at helping others achieve their goals. \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n

* <\/strong>Oh, the theory of relativity! The system itself does not move until it is moved by something from the outside.<\/p>\n

**<\/strong> This is not true, A. Einstein said it. Although this may not be true either.<\/p>\n

***<\/strong> Yes, I'm too lazy to even bother to write something intelligent in this paragraph.<\/p>\n

  1. Not counting this warning.<\/span>↩<\/a><\/p><\/li><\/ol><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Tekstas \u017eemiau yra pirmasis bei seniausias Debesylos \u012fra\u0161as, i\u0161leistas 2013 met\u0173 sausio 26 dien\u0105. Jis n\u0117ra naujintas arba taisytas ir specialiai paliktas kaip atminimas. Debesyla prasid\u0117jo \u010dia. 1) Pakeisti pats sav\u0119s negali Tam reikia ka\u017eko \u012f k\u0105 gal\u0117tum pasiremti, ka\u017eko ant ko gal\u0117tum u\u017ekopti, ka\u017eko kas gal\u0117t\u0173 pakelti tave auk\u0161\u010diau. Pats sav\u0119s niekaip nepakelsi, niekaip, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":16089,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":"","tve_updated_post":"

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    Tekstas \u017eemiau yra pirmasis bei seniausias Debesylos \u012fra\u0161as, i\u0161leistas 2013 met\u0173 sausio 26 dien\u0105. Jis n\u0117ra naujintas arba taisytas [ftn]Neskai\u010diuojant \u0161io persp\u0117jimo.<\/span>[\/ftn] ir specialiai paliktas kaip atminimas. Debesyla prasid\u0117jo \u010dia.<\/p><\/div><\/div>\n<\/div>

    1) Pakeisti pats sav\u0119s negali<\/h2>

    Tam reikia ka\u017eko \u012f k\u0105 gal\u0117tum pasiremti, ka\u017eko ant ko gal\u0117tum u\u017ekopti, ka\u017eko kas gal\u0117t\u0173 pakelti tave auk\u0161\u010diau. Pats sav\u0119s niekaip nepakelsi, niekaip, tai kaip bandymas paimt save u\u017e u\u017epakalio ir i\u0161kelti auk\u0161\u010diau - ne\u012fmanoma niekaip*<\/strong>.<\/p>

    Norint pakeisti save reik padaryti taip, kad pasikeitimas b\u016bt\u0173 nei\u0161vengiamas. Reik padaryti taip, kad aplinka priverst\u0173 tave pasikeist, kad ir kaip tai baisiai skamba. Pavyzd\u017eiai matomi pla\u010diai - atmink t\u0105 kart\u0105 kai bijojai stot ant scenos, o staiga tave ka\u017ekas \u012fst\u016bm\u0119 \u012f j\u0105.. Ar jutai baim\u0119 kai baigei savo kalb\u0105? Galb\u016bt, bet ji buvo daug ma\u017eesn\u0117 nei ank\u0161\u010diau.<\/p>

    Ankstesni slenks\u010diai padeda per\u017eengti naujus slenks\u010dius. Mokinkis l\u0117tai ir nepasteb\u0117si kaip tapai meistru. Pirmus du kartus neklausyk noro pab\u0117gti, tre\u010di\u0105 kart\u0105 - priimk ir pab\u0117k. U\u017eteks ir dviej\u0173 kart\u0173, sekant\u012f bandym\u0105 i\u0161tversi ilgiau.<\/p>

    2) Klysk, klysk ir dar kart\u0105 klysk.<\/h2>

    Kas m\u016bs\u0173 nenu\u017eudo padaro mus stipresniais, pasak\u0117 kart\u0105 Bob Marley**<\/strong>. Mokinkis greitai, mokinkis taip greitai, kad skaud\u0117t\u0173.<\/p>

    Jei nori i\u0161mokti nardyti \u012fmesk savo prabang\u0173 mobil\u0173j\u012f telefon\u0105 \u012f sekli\u0105 e\u017eero dal\u012f, bet ne tiek sekli\u0105, kad pasiektum nepan\u0117r\u0119s. Jei i\u0161gelb\u0117si - bravo, tu i\u0161gelb\u0117jai savo lob\u012f.. Ir kartu i\u0161mokai nardyt.. Jei, kitu atveju nei\u0161gelb\u0117jai arba nety\u010diom paskendai - na, nieko tokio, kit\u0105 kart\u0105 bandysi smarkiau.<\/p>

    3) Nesistenk visiems girtis k\u0105 tu darai.<\/h2>

    Vien\u0173 tyrim\u0173 kuri\u0173 \u0161altinio neduosiu*** <\/strong>\u017einiomis \u017emon\u0117s kurie pasigyr\u0117 draugams, kad vykdo ka\u017ekok\u012f savo i\u0161kelt\u0105 tiksl\u0105 (tikslai \u012fvair\u016bs) da\u017eniau tiksl\u0105 \"pabaigdavo\" ank\u0161\u010diau, nei tie kurie nesigyr\u0117.<\/p>

    Pagrind\u017eiama tuo, kad pasigyr\u0119 \u017emon\u0117s gaudavo grei\u010diau aplinkini\u0173 palaiminimus, padr\u0105sinimus, o tai paskatindavo mintis, jog tikslas jau i\u0161 esm\u0117s pasiektas. Kitaip tariant, aplinkini\u0173 d\u0117mesys u\u017eli\u016bliuodavo savo pasiry\u017et\u0105 tiksl\u0105 \u012fvykdyt kaip pridera manant, kad tu jau padarei k\u0105 reikia, pabaigei. Patikrinkit patys kada kai bandysit mesti rukyti ar prad\u0117t vaik\u0161\u010diot \u012f sporto klub\u0105 - tiesiog to niekam nemin\u0117kite.<\/p>

    Tiek \u0161iam kartui, gal dar ateityje prisiminsiu ir daugiau naudingos teorin\u0117s informacijos tiems kurie bandys pakeisti save. Ar aplinkinius, jei esi toks geras, kad kitiems padedi pasiekti j\u0173 tikslus. ;)<\/p>

    * <\/strong>O, reliatyvizmo teorija! Sistema pati nejuda kol jos nepajudina ka\u017ekas i\u0161 i\u0161or\u0117s.<\/p>

    **<\/strong> Tai netiesa, tai sak\u0117 A.Ein\u0161teinas. Nors gali b\u016bti, kad tai taipogi netiesa.<\/p>

    ***<\/strong> Taip, a\u0161 tiek tinginys, kad net pating\u0117siu k\u0105 protingo para\u0161yt \u0161ioje pastraipoje.<\/p><\/div>","tve_custom_css":"@media (min-width: 300px){#tve_editor [data-css=\"tve-u-16d02fbc850\"] { font-size: 18px !important; }[data-css=\"tve-u-16d02ff0738\"] { padding: 1px !important; margin-top: 0px !important; }[data-css=\"tve-u-16d03006aa0\"] { color: var(--tcb-color-6) !important; }[data-css=\"tve-u-16d030304cf\"] { padding: 1.25em 2.5em !important; margin: 0px 0px 0em !important; }}","tve_user_custom_css":"","tve_globals":{"e":"1","font_cls":[]},"tcb2_ready":1,"tcb_editor_enabled":1,"tve_landing_page":"","_tve_header":"","_tve_footer":""},"categories":[58],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-14672","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-kita"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14672","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=14672"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14672\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/16089"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=14672"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=14672"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debesyla.lt\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=14672"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}